Every Mother's Day, I see the same message on cards: Thank you for giving up everything for us.

But the cards my own kids write tell a different story.

In this episode, I'm talking about what we're teaching the people around us when we treat ourselves like we don't matter. I unpack the Type C pattern, why being endlessly capable gets rewarded, and the cost of always putting yourself last.

This is not about self-care days or finding more time. It's about making room for the things that matter to you, even in small ways.

Because people learn from what we do, not just what we say.

Show Highlights:

• The pattern I keep noticing in the Mother's Day card aisle. [01:30]

• What my kids' handwritten cards taught me instead. [05:15]

• The Type C personality and why the world rewards it. [11:40]

• What kids actually absorb when they watch us disappear. [16:20]

• Why I'm not telling you to go get a massage. [22:10]

• What microdosing your own needs really looks like. [25:45]

• Real examples from my own porch, my workouts, and my travel. [29:30]

• Why strategic selfishness might be the most generous thing you can model. [34:50]

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