TOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in Relationships

This Childhood Shame Is Holding You Back EP 117


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In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn gets deeply personal, sharing the origin of the podcast and a powerful realization about the hidden shame many people carry from their childhoods. If you’ve ever felt like you had to hide how you grew up—because of addiction, dysfunction, or chaos—this episode is a must-listen.


She shares the moment she realized she wasn’t alone in her struggles with jealousy and insecurity, and how our pasts—when left unspoken—can quietly sabotage our relationships and self-worth.


This isn’t just about healing from jealousy. It’s about learning to release the shame of your story so you can show up as your full, authentic self.


💎 Golden Episode Nuggets:


  • Shame about your past doesn’t mean something’s wrong with you—it means you’re human.
  • You’re not alone in still being affected by how you grew up.
  • Confidence begins where the old story ends.
  • Letting go of shame starts with being honest—with yourself.
  • You don’t owe your story to everyone, but you deserve not to carry it alone.


🔑 Key Moments:


  • 1:00 – How the podcast was born from a talk on growing up with an alcoholic parent
  • 4:45 – The shift from “Jealousy Junkie” to “Top Self” and why that mattered
  • 6:30 – A listener’s message about struggling to make friends as an adult
  • 9:50 – Why hiding your past isn’t protecting you—it’s suffocating you
  • 13:00 – How your upbringing may still be impacting your self-worth and relationships
  • 16:00 – Shanenn’s personal journey of reconnecting with her father
  • 21:00 – The surprising story she’s not ashamed to tell—and what that reveals about internalized shame
  • 22:50 – A powerful reminder: you don’t owe anyone your story, but you do owe yourself relief


🧠 Perfect for listeners who:


  • Grew up in a chaotic, addicted, or dysfunctional environment
  • Still carry shame about their upbringing—even as successful adults
  • Struggle to be vulnerable or build close friendships
  • Want to understand how childhood experiences shape adult relationships
  • Are ready to rewrite the story they’ve been carrying



📌 Resources Mentioned:


  • Behind Your Jealous Mind Bootcamp – Learn how to break free from insecurity, jealousy, and people-pleasing.
  • [Link to register]
  • Free Discovery Call with Shanenn – Coaching for women ready to stop hiding and start healing.
  • [Link to schedule]



🧭 Quote of the Episode:


“You don’t owe your story to anyone. But you do owe yourself relief from the weight of hiding it.”

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