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In this week's minisode, I'm talking about how fabulous women are in so many ways, and how the world might just be a better place if there were more of us in positions of leadership and power.

I talk about how, whilst feminism has got us so far, we still live in a very patriarchal society where many women - unconsciously or consciously - still feel a sense of being 'lesser' than men. It seems to me that it really is time that this changed once and for all. 

For those of us who find ourselves single and childfree, shouldn't we be focusing our energies on things other than our next relationship?  Shouldn't we be looking at our situation as an opportunity to really go out there and create the best possible lives for ourselves, and for other women?

Whoever we are and wherever we've come from, we are afforded so many freedoms because our time isn't spent with a husband / wife / boyfriend / girlfriend, and children. So let's see our situation for what it truly is - a gift, and an opportunity to be forces for change in a world that is still dominated by men.

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In this week’s episode of Spinsterhood Reimagined, I talk to writer, blogger and author, Aimée Lutkin.

Aimée is a writer and editor from NYC. Her work has appeared in Jezebel, W Mag, Elle, Glamour, and more. The Lonely Hunter: How Our Search For Love Is Broken is her first book. 

In this conversation, Aimée and I talk about a multitude of topics including: the dinner party in NYC when she was 32 years old which prompted her to write an article, and subsequently a book; how the friends at said dinner party reacted with resistance to her admission that she thought she might be alone forever; and how our cultural expectations of the future have changed, including what we believe we can expect from relationships.

Aimée also tells me about the transformation she felt with respect to her single status whilst writing her book, and how it resulted in her working on herself to achieve a feeling of direction and purpose in her life outside of a relationship; how the pandemic has caused many people to rethink their lives and relationships; how singlehood and loneliness are often conflated despite the former not necessarily resulting in the latter; and how many more women are starting to speak more openly about what they require from a relationship, including what they will no longer tolerate.

We chat about how expectations of a romantic partner have changed dramatically in as much as marriage used to be more of an economic decision, whereas now a partner is supposed to be your everything - lover, best friend, co-parent etc; how Aimée believes that marriage has been re-branded as a validation for who you are as a person vs the more practical choice that it used to be; and how she thinks non-monogamy, open relationships and polyamory are on the rise. 

Finally, Aimée tells me her thoughts on the word ‘spinster’, and how single women are starting to use the word differently; how she would like to live in a world where being single is irrelevant and where we don’t depend on a romantic relationship in order to feel safe; how her book, The Lonely Hunter, started as an essay called ‘When Can I Say I’ll Be Alone Forever’; and how you can do everything right in terms of looking for love, but it still doesn’t necessarily work out. 

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Do you dread the arrival of autumn because it marks the end of summer? Or do you, like me, get ridiculously excited that your favourite season is finally here again?!

On this week's Saturday Minisode, I'm talking about why we shouldn't feel sad when August slips away into September, the leaves start turning, and the nights begin to draw in. Instead, we should be leaping with joy at the arrival of the best season of them all!

Because autumn bloody rocks. The colours, the cosiness, the clothes, the kids going back to school...what's not to love?

Press 'Play' to hear my ode to autumn. By the end of it, you'll be pulling your chunky knits out from the back of your wardrobe in gleeful anticipation!

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In this week’s episode of Spinsterhood Reimagined, I talk to journalist, presenter, and podcaster, Geeta Pendse.

Geeta is a freelance journalist and presenter with 15 years’ experience delivering content for broadcasters, who is based in Nottingham, UK. She has worked for BBC Sunday Morning Live, BBC Radio 4, BBC Breakfast, BBC Politics, East Midlands Today, BBC Three and Sky Arts as a reporter and presenter. She presents the weekly politics show on BBC One in the East Midlands, and anchored the BBC’s General Election Debate for the region.

Geeta has developed a specialism as an Arts reporter, and alongside creating original and daily content for BBC news outlets, she has also presented the Sky Arts series ‘Music of India’, BBC Radio 4’s flagship arts programme ‘Front Row’ and ‘Civilisations Stories: The Art of Mining’, a half-hour documentary for BBC One in the East Midlands and BBC Four.

In this conversation, Geeta and I talk about a range of subjects including how she never wanted to be in a relationship just for the sake of it; the emotions she experienced as the majority of her friends began to ‘pair off’ and her particular life path began to feel like the less common one; and how she navigated those changing friendships in her life. 

We also discuss how Geeta decided to train as a yoga teacher in her mid-thirties, and how that helped her find role models in her life who didn’t have children; how her podcast has made her realise that there is no one story of childlessness and how each different story comes with many, many nuances; and how she has subsequently spoken to all kinds of women who don’t have children - from those who are childless by circumstance, to those who are childless by choice, as well as those who have felt ambivalent about it.

Geeta and I also chat about the stigma that can come from not having children, including how some women suffer the implication that they are ‘pointless’ or ‘selfish’; the sense of failure that can come as a result of societal projections onto those women who find themselves without children, whether by choice or not; and what ‘active choice’ means when it comes to making a decision about whether or not to have kids. 

In this episode, we also cover turning forty, and the increasing number of female role models in their forties and above who are empowering women to embrace the ageing process; learning to care less about what people think and how freeing it can be; and how ultimately, any one of us can have a good life whether with children or without. 

Apple Podcast link to ‘The 1 in 5 Podcast: Leading A Life Without Children’: https://podcasts.apple.com/in/podcast/1-in-5-leading-a-life-without-children/id1604573437

Spotify link to ‘The 1 in 5 Podcast: Leading A Life Without Children’: https://open.spotify.com/show/3bQu7zYxCF5JvJIrvqroqv

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On this week's Saturday Minisode, I'm talking about my belief that when we're feeling low about being single, it's not actually the lack of relationship that is the problem.

I'm a big fan of that well-known saying, Happiness Is An Inside Job - because it is! Whether we like it or not, if we're feeling as though a partner will fix all our problems and bring us happiness, that is never, ever the case. Because it's not about the relationship. But it is about A relationship - the one that we have with ourselves.

In this episode I talk about my thoughts and feelings around this topic, and why I think we should all be looking inside of ourselves for our happiness and our peace; because we're never going to find those things in a boyfriend, girlfriend, husband or wife.

Sure, a relationship can bring us many great things, happiness being one of them. But...only for a period of time. Our own happiness cannot be sustained by a partner, in the same way that buying a beautiful new house can make us happy for a while, but ultimately the feeling will wear off until we're left, once again, inside our own heads.

We alone are responsible for the way that we feel, and ultimately how happy we are in our lives.

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On this week’s episode of Spinsterhood Reimagined, I’m doing something a little bit different. The fabulous Amie Kelbing (host of ‘The Spinster Life Podcast’) and I, have done a podcast swap! 

We’ve recorded two parts - Part 1 is going out on her podcast, and Part 2 is here on Spinsterhood Reimagined. 

Amie is based in LA and she’s been doing her podcast for a lot longer than I’ve been doing mine; we found each other in the amazing single women online space where there are so many awesome women who are living happily single lives. 

This isn’t so much an interview as a very casual chat between two friends, who both happen to be single and childfree. We talk about all things spinster, as well as other topics. 

Our conversation includes Amie’s dating disasters, how she is a dog mum (and at the time of recording I was about to become a cat mum), our feelings about not having children, the importance of sleep, the trials and tribulations of hosting and producing a podcast, how being single is a neutral thing rather than a positive or a negative, Amie’s former feelings of shame about being single, why neither of us are married, and how the dating game can be likened to gambling!   

Be sure to check out the first half of our conversation at the link to ‘The Spinster Life Podcast’ in the show notes below.

Link to The Spinster Life Podcast on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-spinster-life-podcast/id1537901366 

Link to The Spinster Life Podcast on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5IpTlOPFVqXJD24wdgnKBf 

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On this week's Saturday Minisode, I'm talking about saying no to the things we don't want to do.

How many times do you think you've said yes to something you didn't want to do? For me, it's a countless number of occasions; but in recent years I've become a lot better at saying no when I don't feel like doing something or when something just isn't for me.

But why do we do it in the first place? It's that sneaky thing called fear that stops us in our tracks when it comes to so, so many things in life, including saying no to someone in case we may (shock horror) piss them off / upset them / they won't like us anymore.

In this episode I talk about my thoughts around this topic, and why I think we need to drop the fear and be totally unapologetic about saying no. Life is better when we're honest with ourselves - and others - about how we want to spend our time.

We're all obliged to do things in our daily lives that we don't necessarily want to do, so let's make sure we spend our free time doing the things that make us happy. And let's face it, time is far too precious a commodity to waste it on things that simply don't light us up. 

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In this week’s episode of Spinsterhood Reimagined, I talk to author and life coach, Leisse Wilcox.

Leisse is a results-focused and strategic life coach based in Toronto, Canada. She helps people bring clarity in what they want, confidence in who they are, and courage to stay true to them both; essentially she helps people become the version of themselves that they’ve been dreaming about. 

Leisse is also the best-selling author of two books, the most recent of which is called ‘Alone: The Truth & Beauty Of Belonging’ which we talk alot about in this conversation and which is essentially a reframe of what it means to be alone. It also looks at the importance of the relationship we have with ourselves, something which you’ll know I feel passionately about and talk about alot on this podcast.

In this conversation, Leisse and I talk about how we’re all co-creators of our own lives, and how we always have agency over our lives; her thoughts on spirituality and how there’s something beyond us that we can all tune into; how her divorce turned her life upside down and how she was forced to reinvent herself and her life; and how she was diagnosed with breast cancer when she was 36 years old.

We also cover Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP), what it is and how it works; how our actions and behaviours are dictated by our thoughts, and how our thoughts are inextricably linked to our unconscious beliefs; the human experience and how none of us get through life unscathed, but we all get to choose how we respond and react to things; and why so many of us engage in co-dependency / people pleasing and why it’s unhealthy.

Leisse and I look at shame amongst single women and how it is such a difficult and heavy emotion; how centuries of gendered oppression have been passed down telling us what our lives should look like; the toxic narrative of society which still tells single women that they ‘haven’t done it right’; and the difference between the fear of being single and the fear of being alone.  

Finally, we talk about Leisse’s book, Alone: The Truth & Beauty Of Belonging, which is the ultimate reframe on what it means to be alone; we discuss what motivated her to write it in the first place; how being alone is not a bad thing in and of itself, but rather the meaning we attach to it; what it means to belong to yourself; and how when we learn how to belong to ourselves, we can never, ever be alone. 

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UK Link to Leisse’s Book, Alone: The Truth & Beauty Of Belonging: https://www.amazon.co.uk/ALONE-Beauty-Belonging-Leisse-Wilcox-ebook/dp/B09FNR153Y/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3P6VRDRUN15YA&keywords=alone+leisse+wilcox&qid=1659555224&sprefix=alone+leisse+wilcox%2Caps%2C54&sr=8-1 

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On this week's Minisode, I'm talking about my new kitten, Johnny Depp, who I've had for just less than 2 weeks - but boy oh boy, what a fortnight it's been.

Don't panic, I'm not going to be rambling on about how cute and amazing he is. Nope. I'm actually talking about the other side of getting a kitten, the side that has made me grieve my former footloose and fancy free existence!

Because...it turns out that having a little creature for whom I am solely responsible is a bigger adjustment than I had imagined, and as much as I love him it's making me feel all kinds of weird that I hadn't anticipated.

Ultimately, I'm bringing it back to spinsterhood; because JD is highlighting to me how lucky I am to not have children, and how grateful I am for all the freedoms that I'm afforded thanks to my single, childfree life. I really hope you enjoy this episode.

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On this week’s episode of Spinsterhood Reimagined, I have the pleasure of talking to the inspiring Kimberly Martinez Phillips.

Kimberly is a Doctoral Candidate in the Department of Sociology at Memorial University in Newfoundland and Labrador. Her dissertation studies the lives of single, never-married, childfree women of colour. 

She graduated from the University of California at Irvine in 1993 with Bachelor's degrees in cultural anthropology and criminology. She then obtained a Master’s degree in sociology from California State University, completing a Master’s thesis about the functionality of marriage. Kimberly has been teaching sociology at two and four-year colleges/universities in California and now in Canada for over 24 years.

In this conversation, we talk about how Kimberly always knew that she didn’t want to compromise in terms of her life choices, and how she foresaw a different way of living than being in a relationship; how she didn’t want to put all her energies into looking for ‘the one’ and has many other things that fulfil her life; and how she doesn’t approach her relationships with a ‘forever’ mindset, although she loves romance and has had many unconventional love stories.

We also talk about the many women who prioritise other things in life aside from a relationship, and how those kinds of women have been vilified by society; how you don’t need a relationship in order to validate your existence; and how during her interviews of 40 single women for her research, many of them cited peace, comfort and tranquility as words to describe their single lives.

Kim and I also discuss how people asking “how are you still single” is often tied up in looks, and how older women tend to stop being asked the question; how women over 30 still experience pressure to couple up, especially from other women; how single women have to deal with the implication that they haven't been ‘picked’; and how she decided to research women of colour for her PhD upon discovering that the majority of research on single women looked at middle class, white women.

I sincerely hope that you enjoy this episode!

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