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This week on Thursday Thoughts, Polly and I are talking about complaining.

We all love a good vent now and again, and sometimes it’s healthy to let those emotions out. But when we stay stuck there, replaying the same thoughts over and over, it can keep us trapped in a really low-energy state.

In this episode, we share our thoughts on the difference between releasing emotions and ruminating, plus some simple ways we try to catch ourselves before getting pulled into the cycle of constant complaining.

Because sometimes the most powerful shift is asking: “Do I want to stay here… or do I want to move forward?”

We hope you find something useful in here.

Love, 

Polly & Lucy x

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My guest on the podcast this week is the completely divine Gem Jackson. Gem is a 41 year old content creator, influencer, podcaster and author, who is single and childless by circumstance. For a long time, Gem felt that she was behind in life as many of her friends got married and had kids, but over the last few years she’s made some big changes in her life, not least because of her best friend’s tragic diagnosis a few years ago. She left her corporate job to pursue a different life, and is now embracing being a solo, and all the possibility that this lifestyle affords her. In our conversation, Gem and I talk about what happens when your life turns out differently than you imagined. She tells me about her ebook, 'Is This It?', we talk her friend’s illness and subsequent passing and what that’s though her about life; we also chat about forging a path that goes against the tide, and how difficult but rewarding it can be; and we talk about how she has transformed her mindset over the last few years and the difference it’s made in her life. 

05:06 How She Got Here

06:33 Finding Peace Single

07:58 Is This It? Ebook

09:34 Mindset Tools That Work

13:16 Grief and Kids Question

20:16 Quitting Corporate 

22:34 Building Online Business

25:58 Choose Your Hard

31:10 Loving Yourself

37:50 Bali Breakthroughs

44:31 Stop Comparing Yourself

47:44 Selling Up And Moving

51:26 Alone Not Lonely

Follow Gem on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/whatsnextforme111/

Listen to Gem's podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/figuring-it-out-at-40-life-beyond-the-timeline/id1840131133

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In this week's minisode, I explore a different kind of loneliness — not the loneliness of being physically alone, but the loneliness of being with people and still not feeling seen, heard, or valued. I talk about how this can show up as a lack of curiosity about your life (especially as a single, childfree woman), why it can feel so painful even after a “nice” social event, and what psychologists mean when they describe loneliness as a gap between the connection you want and the connection you actually have. You’ll come away with practical ways to recognise relational loneliness, spot patterns, and guide conversations.

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On this week's Thursday Thoughts, Polly and I are talking about something every single one of us experiences at some point…self-doubt.

We discuss why it’s so common and why it stops us speaking up, going for things, or trusting ourselves fully.

We also share some of the things that have genuinely helped us quiet our inner critic and build more self-trust over time.

Because life is far too short to spend it constantly second-guessing yourself, shrinking yourself, or waiting until you feel “ready.”

We hope you find something useful in here.

Love Polly & Lucy x

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My guest on this week's guest episode is the fabulous Alison Seponara, otherwise known as the Anxiety Healer to her mahooosive social media following. 

Alison is an integrative cognitive behavioural psychologist who works with women over 40, helping them move through the anxiety that comes with the life transitions that the ageing process brings, such as grief and loss, perimenopause and menopause, friendship changes, singlehood, dating, all of it! 

In this conversation, Alison talks all about the anxiety that she herself has struggled with for most of her life, as well as the tools that she uses and teaches others to use to help with anxiety. We also talk about how she feels about being single, loneliness, adult friendships, as well as the community she has created for single women over 40, the Single Sisters Circle.

03:45 Alison's Early Life & Origin Story

07:41 Panic Attack Turning Point

11:19 Healing Tools And Community

14:25 Instagram And Anxiety Education

20:38 Daily Anxiety Toolkit Basics

24:21 Breathwork Habits That Stick

31:59 Emotional Awareness And CBT

35:10 Nature And Movement Medicine

37:49 Midlife Solo Shift

39:01 Building Single Sister Circle

43:19 Loneliness Triggers

49:06 Friendship Invisibility

57:14 Aging Fear And Control

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  Annoying Questions Single Women Get Asked'
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In this week's minisode, I’m reclaiming the word manifestation for anyone who finds it too woo-woo, and reframing it as something much more practical: making shit happen. I break down why manifestation isn’t just 'thinking positive thoughts,' how intention + belief + action actually work together, and why your brain and attention play a huge role in what you notice and pursue. If you want change in your life, this is your reminder that you can get intentional, embody the version of you who goes for it, and start moving.

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On this week's Thursday Thoughts, Polly and I are talking about the small, unglamorous steps that we take when nobody’s watching, that ultimately get us to where we want to go.

For example, Polly talks about the tiny, seemingly insignificant physio exercises she’s doing every day to help heal from her knee operation - it would be easy to feel like they weren’t doing anything, but she’s trusting the process, showing up every day, knowing that they will pay off eventually.

So if there’s something you’d like to do, remember that it’s those baby steps you take that nobody else sees that are actually having the biggest impact of all.

We hope you’ll find something useful in here.

Love,
Polly & Lucy x

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My guest on the podcast this week is the force that is Amy Untamed, the name she goes by on social media. Amy is a spiritual influencer and content creator whose main message is to empower spiritual women to really anchor into their own intuition and self-trust above everything else, and tune in to that guidance rather than outsourcing it to other people, other things, and even other spiritual resources. Amy has such a strong sense of self and such a presence, and we talked about so many things including the chronic ME that saw her housebound for several years, the abusive relationship that she was in until just 2 years ago; how she has healed herself by processing suppressed emotions and trauma from the past; her, not one but two, spiritual awakenings prompted by both her illness and lockdown; personal agency; and how the intense chemistry we so often feel at the beginning of a relationship can sometimes actually be trauma bonding rather than love.

04:43 Chronic Illness Journey

08:34 Trauma and Suppression

10:17 Leaving Abuse Behind

13:32 Spiritual Awakening Phases

16:26 Reclaiming Personal Agency

17:53 Curating What You Consume

21:18 Finding Your People

26:43 Tuning Into Intuition

30:42 Self Worth and Celibacy

35:13 Single Life Benefits

37:04 Celibate & Sexual

38:36 Fireworks or Trauma Bond

41:46 Choosing Safety Over Chemistry

43:35 Male Attention and Self Worth

54:22 Progress in Dating Boundaries

55:48 Mindset About Being Single

Follow Amy on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amy_untamed/

Follow Amy on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amy_untamed

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In this week's minisode, I’m serving up some tough love on the habit of constantly focusing on the downsides of single life — especially money. Yes, singlehood can have challenges, but if you keep arguing for your limitations, you’ll keep noticing them and feeling worse. I talk about why your words matter, how negative stories become self-reinforcing, and how to shift your focus back to what you can control so you can build a life that feels rich, empowered and fully yours.

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On today’s Thursday's Thoughts, Polly and I are exploring the idea that ‘it’s all an inside job.’

Your inner world shapes how you experience everything around you, and your outer world becomes a reflection of what’s happening within. 

When you start to notice your thoughts, and how you’re really feeling, something shifts. You respond to life differently with more awareness and often more calm and compassion.

In this episode, we share some of the simple tools that have helped us navigate our own inner worlds.

We hope you find something useful in here.

Love 

Polly & Lucy x

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• Join my membership community for single women, Thrive Solo: https://www.lucymeggeson.com/thrivesolo

• Download my FREE PDF 'Top 10 Comebacks for the Most
  Annoying Questions Single Women Get Asked'
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