If we are really honest, we begin most relationships with an agenda in mind. A transaction. We are wanting something for ourselves out of it. I know many people will reject that, and I reject their rejection. We either are hoping for something from the other person, or what we are doing for them makes us feel good about ourselves. Which is ok! Our focus today, is before you seek to get anything from anyone in a relationship, you need to earn the right. And in a relationship, this usually takes a while. But most people start relationships by talking about themselves or trying to solidify an opportunity, whether it’s a job, a date, a new friendship or a work opportunity. And they do it prematurely, before they’ve actually made any true, meaningful connection and in truth, provided some value to the other person. This is part three on Renée Marino and her message on becoming a master communicator. This is my peer discussion my co-host is Dan Miller. One, because he’s a professional communicator. Two, because he and my mom met Renée at an event put on by a big publisher and they texted me saying I just had to have her on the show, which I’ll be forever grateful for. Three, because as most of you know, Dan is my Dad, and we have great conversations together and as you’ll hear at the top of the show, I credit him with schooling me as a kid in how to communicate and win friends and influence people. I cite it as the best education I ever received and it’s very much why I find myself now with a top ranked podcast. We got overwhelming feedback about my first two episodes with Renée Marino, so I really encourage you to check them out if you haven’t yet. You can find Renée’s new book, "Becoming a Master Communicator,” anywhere and when you do, go to FreeGiftfromRenee.com for two gifts she has for you. You can find Dan Miller at 48days.com The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance.

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