When plans fall apart or life throws a curveball, what is the very first thing that starts spinning in your head? For most of us, the shock is immediately followed by a wave of self-attack: “I should have known better. I should have tried harder. I should have done things differently.”

In this episode, lets talk about the "should" spiral and how we abandon our internal authority when things go south.

True alignment and self-trust don't come from doing more; they come from choosing to be more. I'm sharing a personal story about a moment my own intuition loudly yelled, "F that noise,"* and why reclaiming your wisdom means stepping out of the frantic hustle and creating a safe space for the part of you that is just terrified of making a mistake.

If you are currently sitting in the wreckage of a recent setback and second-guessing your every move, this conversation is your invitation to put down the heavy labor, return to your own bones, and remember that you are allowed to be human.

Key Topics Covered

• The "Should" Spiral: How we weaponize expectations against ourselves after a setback and drive a wedge into our own self-trust.
• The Trap of Doing vs. Being: Exposing the frantic urge to over-research, seek validation, and prove ourselves to the world instead of trusting the brilliance already within us.
• Intuition as an Internal Power: Grounding ourselves in the true definition of intuition—the natural ability to know something without needing external proof or evidence.
• Healing the Little Girl Within: Why rebuilding trust starts with comforting the inner child who learned at a young age to reject her own body's wisdom.
• Lessons over Failure: Shifting our perspective so that mistakes become an anchor for deeper wisdom rather than a reason to abandon ourselves.

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