Ever feel emotions that don’t seem to belong to you? Like you're carrying pain that started long before you were born? What if the things you’re struggling with—sexual trauma, shame, fear of being seen—aren’t just yours... but inherited?

In this  Language of Love Conversation, I sit down with Dr. Frank Anderson, a renowned trauma psychiatrist who’s helped countless people heal—but had to take his own journey first. Frank’s new book, To Be Loved: A Story of Truth, Trauma and Transformation, blends memoir with a trauma healing guide. But before he could write it, he had to live it. He grew up disconnected from his body, afraid to show who he really was, and deeply shaped by generations of silence and suppression.

In this episode, we go deep into:

How trauma hides in families for generations—and how to spot it in your own

Why intellect and “having it all together” often hide emotional chaos

How hiding his identity became a form of survival—and how he found the courage to be fully seen

What it really means to feel inherited pain, not just analyze it

Coming out, breaking patterns, and embracing truth—on every level

The life-changing magic of combining IFS with somatic healing

And how you can start breaking cycles, too

This is more than a conversation. It’s an invitation—to feel, to face what’s been buried, and maybe, to be the one in your family who finally sets it all down.

Learn more about Dr. Frank Anderson’s work, including his new book To Be Loved: A Story of Truth, Trauma and Transformation, on his website and socials and register for his events.

Also make sure to check out the Grief Healing Collective for a community of like minded people, amazing resources on grief healing, and live healing sessions and events.  You can also check out my Good Grief Course.

Have your own story about breaking the cycle? I’d love to hear it—email me at [email protected]

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