Unapologetically Sensitive

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Poll results—If You Could NOT Be a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), Would You? Questions to Ask Yourself

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Solo Episode

EPISODE OVERVIEW

If you could NOT be an HSP, would you? I share the results of a poll that 93 HSPs responded to including the pros and cons given. Two major things happened on Christmas Eve before 9 a.m. at my home. Ways to evaluate how your holidays went, and how to create what you might want for the following year. Questions to ask yourself to help you set goals for the New Year, and my wishes for you for the next year.

HIGHLIGHTS

If you could NOT be an HSP, would you

93 responses

Yes—20% (less than ½ were men)—related to autoimmune disorders, pain

Maybe—5%

No—75%

Those that WOULD change and no longer be an HSP

Happier, more confident in my own skin. I'm lonely and unsuccessful

Misunderstood

Barely surviving life

Can't go on like this

Sick of this

Not fitting in

Exhausting

Those that WOULDN'T change, and remain being an HSP

Work on themselves and as they learned about themselves they accepted who they are

Natural leader

More in tune with others' needs

Have a greater appreciation for beauty, nature, poetry, music, art

Even though have lower lows, they have greater depth of happiness

The more I learn about myself, the happier I am

Being an HSP isn't the issue; it's an issue with our society

I'm more confident in who I am. I don't let societal norms affect me

I don't want to numb my compassion

I like the quirkiness that makes me

I might want my sensory sensitivity removed, but keep the emotional depth

It helps me be creative, artistic and introspective

HSPs are shamans and healers (therapists, massage therapist, teachers)

Would be boring—I wouldn't have insight and I wouldn't care

I'm strong and resilient

31 Questions to ask yourself before setting next year's goals

1. What are the first thoughts that come to mind about the past year? Mostly positive, negative, or neutral?
2. What was one of the most interesting things I learned this year?
3. Who was one person I met that I'd like to get to know better? Why?
4. What was one of my most challenging moments? Why?
5. What was one of my favorite accomplishments?
6. What was one personal strength I used this year? How did it benefit my work or life?
7. What hurdle came up more than once? (time, money, attitude, location, knowledge, etc.)
8. How well did I communicate with the people who matter most to me?
9. What three events or accomplishments were made possible by the help of others?
10. What advice would I offer someone else on the basis of a lesson I learned this year?
11. What are three problems that came up at work? How did I approach solving those problems? Are there any trends in those problems or solutions?
12. Who needed my encouragement this year? What did I say or do to help them along?
13. If I were writing a memoir, what would I highlight in the chapter about this year?
14. What was I doing when I forgot about time and was able to be "in the moment"?
15. What frustration seemed to come up again and again?
16. What did I start and not finish?
17. What did I try and fail?
18. What three things am I curious to know more about?
19. If I could wave a magic wand and master one skill, what would it be? Why?
20. Who is one person I could help right now? How? What would it "cost" me? What would I gain?
21. When did I slow someone else's progress? Why? What was I worried about?
22. What's one thing I made or created from scratch? How did that feel?
23. What's one thing I did that left me exhausted at the end? How did that feel?
24. What's one thing I was a part of this year that I'll remember for the rest of my life? Why?
25. What was the nicest thing someone did for me this year?
26. What was the nicest thing I did for someone else this year?
27. If I could change one thing that happened this year, what would it be?
28. What felt difficult one year ago that now feels easy (or easier)?
29. Of the books I read this year, which was my favorite?
30. How did I capture my thoughts and feelings? (journaling, writing, social media sharing, talking one-on-one with friends or family, etc.) Was that method helpful?
31. What are six adjectives that best describe this year? What would I like those adjectives to be next year?

My wishes for you for 2020—

• If you're not familiar, Become more familiar with the trait
• Practice radical self-compassion
• Play, connection, a creative outlet, a way that you express yourself
• a few deep, meaningful relationships where you feel seen, heard and honored
• a lifestyle that really honors your HS needs
• abundance—time, laughter, money, acceptance, relationships
• joyful movement of your body
• curiosity and the love of learning
• love for yourself and others

PODCAST HOST

Patricia Young works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).

LINKS

31 Questions to ask yourself before setting next year's goals--https://www.inc.com/robin-camarote/31-questions-to-ask-yourself-before-setting-next-years-goals.html

Online HSP Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

To enter for a free drawing for the Online HSP Course—

HSP Online Course

1. Send an e-mail to [email protected]
   1. I will send a short screening form, and the HSP group intake
   2. Sunday January 12 I will draw a name and send the winner an e-mail
2. You MUST indicate which of the 4 groups you want to join (you can find the groups at https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com

Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/

Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/

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Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber

e-mail-- [email protected]

Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive

Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

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Expectations & Disappointments & Creating a Vision for 2020

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Solo Episode

EPISODE OVERVIEW

We all experience expectations and disappointments, and it's more present at this time of year. Do I regret talking about relationship issues? When do we talk about issues with others, and when do we need to work it out on our own? It's ok to have wants and needs, but sometimes we need to show up for ourselves. I talk about a new awareness that frustrates me! With the New Year approaching, what do you want to create more of, and what do you want less of? I suggest a daily practice to help us honor ourselves.

HIGHLIGHTS

• Expectations and disappointments
• This time of year creates more of this
• This can also show up in relationships
• Can we allow people to show up exactly as they are
• Do I regret talking about some of the challenges I've had this past year with my relationships
• When do we name what's going on, and when do we either leave it, or process with someone else
• As we grow and change, how we handle relationships may change
• I talk about how I feel about recording or saying certain things in the episode where I wasn't invited, and I felt hurt
• I tend to pick friends who are very opposite of me in some ways, but it can create some challenges
• What do we do when we want someone to do something for us, but we don't want to ask for it because it doesn't count
• Ways to evaluate stuck places in relationships
• What to do when we're not feeling seen and heard in a relationship
• When is it my responsibility to step and really be present for myself
• We often choose people in our lives in an attempt to work out some of the things we missed from our parents
• We want nurturing and healing from other relationships—there's nothing wrong with this
• How we can evaluate if looking for this outside validation is working or not
• We're supposed to be connected to others; it's ok to have wants—this can be very healthy
• How we can honor pain and see what's on the other side
• What happens when the wound of not enough comes up
• Many of us have a fear of getting in touch with our needs will bring up rage around not getting it when we were younger
• How do we show up for ourselves?
• In order to heal, we need to learn to be here for ourselves
• We can still get it from others—it's not an "either or"
• How we can understand some of the dynamics in our relationships
• Being alive means we're going to experience discomfort—we can manage
• When we realize that we're expecting someone else to make us feel whole and complete, it's not uncommon for us to then feel anger, grief, disappointment
• We can still stay in relationships and focus on the parts that work, and know that there are limitations
• We may notice things in relationships that the other person doesn't see
• Sometimes we need to say something, and sometimes we just get to notice that it's there
• How are we showing up in relationships?
• What are we expecting from others?
• Is it giving us peace?
• Are our attachment or abandonment issues coming up?
• Are we getting hung up?
• How we honor others in relationships even when we think "we know best" for the other person
• You can use radical self-compassion and mindfulness to notice what's going on and where we get stuck
• We want to be our best selves
• When you have good support, we can learn to work through these things
• We can recognize patterns that are going on without acting from that place of wounding
• What are you needing to take care of yourself?
• You can listen to a favorite song
• Take a bath
• Take a walk
• Spend time with a child
• Take time alone
• Spend time with an animal
• Have a cup of tea or hot chocolate
• Curl up with a cozy blanket
• Watch a movie or show
• Light a candle
• Go into the bathroom for alone time
• Using box breathing—breathe in for a count of 4; hold for 4, exhale for 4 and hold for 4. Repeat at least 8 times
• If everything sucks, then notice what sucks
• Sometimes things suck and that's just how it is
• At the end of the year, I write about what's happened professionally, personally, friendships, spirituality, health
• My goal this next year is to look at myself through my own lens
• I want to own my perspective and not minimize
• I want to live a bolder brighter life and to be less apologetic
• I imagine how other people are responding to me instead of owning my perspective. This hurts me
• I want to see my life and my responses from my perspective
• What are you working on?
• What do you want more of in the New Year?
• What do you want less of in the New Year?
• What's working
• What's not working
• Think of 3 things you've done daily to take care of yourself
• Focus on the process, not the outcome or the feelings

PODCAST HOST

Patricia Young works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).

LINKS

Online HSP Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com

Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/

Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/

Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/

Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber

e-mail-- [email protected]

Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive

Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

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A Highly Sensitive Relationship Coach Shares Her Experience Taking the Online HSP Course

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Hannah Kuglen

EPISODE OVERVIEW

Relationship Coach, Hannah, talks about the wound of feeling like you're too much and not enough. She shares how this came up for her in the Online HSP Course, and how she worked with it. Hannah talks about how she manages intense feelings, and what she tells herself when this happens. Hannah talks about how she reacts when she senses that people aren't saying what they're feeling. At the end, there's a bonus recording of us talking about the differences between coaching and therapy that happened after the interview.

BIO

Hannah Kuglen lives in San Diego, CA. She is a life coach who helps people improve their sex lives and romantic relationships by exploring and elevating self-awareness and communication skills. Hannah believes that, at the end of the day, relationships matter most and we should embrace, nurture, and treat them as tools for personal development. Hannah enjoys reading, writing, cooking, and exploring new places with her husband.

PODCAST HOST

Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, who is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).

LINKS

Hannah's Links

Blog--bit.ly/SnuggleStruggles

Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/LYFCoachKuglen/

Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/lyfcoachkuglen/

Justine Froelker Healing Takes Place When We Are In Connection With Others Episode 10-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/unapologetically-sensitive-episode-10/

Ted Talks Justine Froelker The Permission of the "And" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9UjzHTjHEqg The Donut Effect: Owning our Stories https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZLTl3l6YE6o

Patricia's Links

Online HSP Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com

Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/

Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/

Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/

Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber

Pinterest-- https://www.pinterest.com/patriciayounglcsw/

e-mail-- [email protected]

Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive

Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

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Creating Peace Through the Holidays

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Sharon Martin, LCSW

EPISODE OVERVIEW

We talk about ways to make the holidays smoother—in terms of travelling, having guests, dealing with family members who may be challenging, feeling obligated, overspending, expectations, and lots of ways that Sensitives can provide better care for themselves during these times of overstimulation, high expectations and lots of activity. Sharon explains what it's like if a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) has a narcissist (or someone with narcissistic tendencies) in their life. We talk about feeling criticized, and no matter what you do, it never feels like you're enough or you're good enough. We talk a little about anxiety and depression and how counseling or therapy can help to gain insight into patterns that are from childhood. We talk about ways to take breaks; looking at new traditions, and being sure to take care of our basic needs

HIGHLIGHTS

• Which parts of the holidays are overwhelming?
• You don't have to do everything
• Take a lot of breaks
• If you are travelling to see family, consider staying in a hotel
• Be sure you're taking care of your basic needs—sleep, nutrition, time alone, exercise, quiet time
• How to deal with challenging family members who may be narcissistic or are very critical
• Setting realistic expectations
• Prioritizing your values
• Recognizing limited resources
• Identifying where you feel obligated
• Fear of disappointing others

BIO

Sharon Martin, LCSW is a licensed psychotherapist, mental health writer, and media contributor on emotional health and relationships. Her psychotherapy practice, in San Jose, CA, specializes in helping perfectionists and people-pleasers embrace their imperfections and overcome self-doubt and shame. Her own struggle to feel "good enough", inspired her passion for helping others learn to accept and love themselves. Sharon writes the popular blog Happily Imperfect for PsychCentral.com and is the author of The CBT Workbook for Perfectionism.

PODCAST HOST

Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).

LINKS

website: https://LiveWellwithSharonMartin.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sharonmartinlcsw/

blog: https://blogs.psychcentral.com/imperfect/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/smartinlcsw/

Dr. Elaine Aron www.hsperson.com

Dr. Ted Zeff www.drtedzeff.com

Movie—Sensitive The Untold Story

Podcast—Highly Sensitive Person highlysensitiveperson.net/book

A Highly Sensitive Person's Life: Stories and Advice for Those Who Experience the World Intensely by Kelly O'Laughlin

HSP Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

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1. click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2
2. select "listen on Apple Podcasts"
3. chose "open in itunes"
4. choose "ratings and reviews"
5. click to rate the number of starts
6. click "write a review"

Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com

Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/

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Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/

E-mail-- [email protected]

Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive

Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

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A Highly Sensitive Person and introvert, Heidi Tamm, talks about her experience taking the online HSP Course

GUESTS

Heidi Tamm

EPISODE OVERVIEW

Heidi talks about these questions—How did you feel about the cost? Was it worth it? How was it having an online experience? Did you feel connected to the other members in the group? How was it being an introvert in the group? Did you feel seen, heard and honored? Did the Course meet your expectations? How was it being with 6 other HSPs? Did you feel the group was a safe place to share? What If you're not sure you're an HSP?

BIO

Heidi Tamm was born and raised in the Pacific Northwest. She is currently a Biologist for the National Park Service in Northern Idaho. Enjoy being outside and exploring, especially with my husband and our four fur babies.

PODCAST HOST

Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).

LINKS

Crystal Paul Therapist--https://www.crystalpaulcounseling.com/

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4. choose "ratings and reviews"
5. click to rate the number of starts
6. click "write a review"

Patricia's Links

Online HSP Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com

Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/

Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/

Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/

Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber

Pinterest-- https://www.pinterest.com/patriciayounglcsw/

e-mail-- [email protected]

Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive

Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

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Jeff Guenther, LPC, Interviews Patricia About the Strengths of Being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)

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Jeff Guenther, LPC

EPISODE OVERVIEW

Does a client who comes to therapy need to learn to be more resilient? If a couple comes to therapy, should the focus be on getting the HSP to be less sensitive? These are questions that Jeff Guenther asks during this interview. We also talk about how therapeutic ruptures can occur when the therapist is not aware of the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP). We talk a little bit about High Sensation Seeking (HSS), and we talk about the strengths and gifts HSPs have to offer the world.

HIGHLIGHTS

• The interview starts with me saying that I'm tired and depleted, and we talk about why this type of authenticity is important to me
• We talk about introversion and extroversion and that much that we see about introverts overlays the trait of High Sensitivity, but doesn't distinguish this
• I thought I had social anxiety, but it turns out I probably got overaroused and overstimulated when I was younger, and didn't understand what it was, and assumed I had social anxiety
• I thought I was an introvert and used it as an excuse to not socialize
• Turns out, I'm a Highly Sensitive Extrovert, so I need to find my sweet spot for enough socializing, but not too much
• We talk about High Sensation Seeking (HSS) and what it might look like
• I give the statistic that men and women equally represent that trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person, but I neglect to say that I haven't seen research about how those numbers impact folx who are non-binary or trans
  • Thank you to Dara Hoffman-Fox for bringing this to my attention
• 50% of clients in therapy are Highly Sensitive (HSP)
  • They are the clients who tend to arrive on time
  • Pay their bills on time
  • Do homework
  • Really want to dig in to therapy
• If a therapist doesn't know about the trait of being Highly Sensitive, they may try and get their client to be like the 80% of non-HSPs, this can be detrimental to the client and cause a rupture in therapy without the therapist even realizing it
• When a therapist is HS Knowledgeable, their client retention increases since they are able to attune to their HS client. It's a win-win for the therapist and the client
• In the brain of a HSP, more areas are active and taking in information. An HSP may gather 20 pieces of data from an interaction, and a non-HSP may gather 5. This is how mis-attunement can happen, or why HSPs see and experience things that non-HSPs miss
• A therapist who is HS Knowledgeable will want to be aware of how they are showing up for the client (are they tired, stressed etc.). It may help the relationship when the therapist communicates their own limitation. It creates safety for the HS client
• As therapists and coaches, we want to initially do validating, mirroring, normalization, education, and then skill-building (if that's in alignment with the client's goals)
• Jeff asks if a Highly Sensitive Person came to see me, would I help them be more resilient. I ask Jeff if he's assuming that HS clients/people need to be more resilient

GUEST BIO

Jeff Guenther, LPC, is a therapist in Portland, OR. He has been in private practice since 2005. Jeff is the creator and owner of Portland Therapy Center, a highly ranked therapist directory. He also hosts a podcast called Say More About That about trending mental health topics. Jeff has launched a new progressive therapist directory at TherapyDen that fights racism, homophobia, transphobia and all other forms of discrimination. Sign up for a profile at TherapyDen and get your first six months free.

PODCAST HOST

Patricia Young works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them in understanding their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online courses for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).

LINKS

Jeff's links:

Jeff's website-- http://jeffguentherlpc.com/

Therapy Den-- https://www.therapyden.com/

Jeff's Podcast-- https://www.therapyden.com/news/say-more-about-that-a-podcast-about-what-clients-really-want-in-a-therapist

Dr. Elaine Aron's website— https://hsperson.com/

Dr. Ted Zeff's website— http://www.drtedzeff.com/

Strong Sensitive Boy Dr. Ted Zeff

HSP Self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/

HSP Child self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-child-test/

Introversion, Extroversion and the Highly Sensitive Person by Jaquelyn Strickland, LPC-- https://hsperson.com/introversion-extroversion-and-the-highly-sensitive-person/

Patricia's links:

HSP Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

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2. select "listen on Apple Podcasts"
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4. choose "ratings and reviews"
5. click to rate the number of starts
6. click "write a review"

Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com

Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/

Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/

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Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/

E-mail-- [email protected]

Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive

Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

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Two Participants From The Online HSP Course Share Their Experience

GUESTS

Shelly Aaron & Melissa

EPISODE OVERVIEW

You get to hear past participants talk about these questions—Did you have resistance to taking the Course? How did you feel about the cost? Was it worth it? How was it having an online experience? Did you feel connected to the other members in the group? Did you feel that 1 person dominated or that you didn't get your needs met? Did you feel seen, heard and honored? Did the Course meet your expectations? How was it being with 6 other HSPs? Did you feel the group was a safe place to share? What If you're not sure you're an HSP?

HIGHLIGHTS

• What are some things that you feel are important to share about the Course
• Melissa talks about how she felt heard in a way she hadn't ever felt heard
• I ask if participants ever felt shamed or exposed in a way that made them feel uncomfortable
• Both Melissa and Shelly talk about how they were impacted by the way that I show up as a facilitator
• Participants felt like they had permission to share what they felt afraid or embarrassed to share
• This allowed other group members to share in an open, vulnerable and safe way
• Participants felt that the Course was a safe space to share
• How was it doing online work?
• Did you feel connected to other group members online?
• My gremlins come up during the interview, and I share this
• How was it being in a group of 6 other HSPs
• One participant took the whole course from bed (I had no idea)
• It's nice to be in a group of HSPs who are interested in doing the work
• This Course is about honoring your needs
• Participants felt like they weren't alone when they heard others share about things they experienced
• I felt like I finally belonged somewhere—receiving support and offering support felt good
• Melissa said she would NEVER take this Course, and they money was a barrier. She talked about her experience after taking the Course
• Melissa and her husband both took the Course, and she talks about how this has impacted her marriage
• Melissa also talks about learning her son is an HSP, and how this has impacted their relationship
• What would you say to someone who may be considering the Course, but feels like they've don't things like this, or that it's too expensive
• If you're not sure you're an HSP, several people took this Course anyway, and they said they benefited learning more
• I ask Shelly and Melissa if they ever felt like someone dominated the group, or they didn't get their needs met
• How we used reality checks when someone felt that they were taking up too much time, and Shelly and Melissa talk about how this impacted them

BIOS

Shelly Aaron

As a current yoga teacher, health coach & bodyworker, I've spent the last 15 years of my career, passionately coaching individuals to exceed their goals...which has ultimately led me to this amazing work of video and audio production.

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PODCAST HOST

Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).

LINKS

Shelly Aaron Productions--https://www.shellyaaron.com/

Patricia's Links

Online HSP Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com

Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/

Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/

Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/

Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber

Pinterest-- https://www.pinterest.com/patriciayounglcsw/

e-mail-- [email protected]

Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive

Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

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Boundaries--I Want To Be The One To Stop It Here

GUEST

Sarah Buino, LCSW, CADC, RDDP, CDWF

EPISODE OVERVIEW

This episode is all about authenticity and vulnerability. Sarah talks about being a wounded healer and why she chooses to tell the truth when someone asks her how she is. Sarah talks about her resistance to the term Highly Sensitive Person, aka HSP, and we examine this. We talk about NARM in therapy, and why Sarah believes in it. Sarah talks about her decision to NOT have children, and we have an in-depth discussion about a boundary Sarah set with me, and how we both responded to this boundary.

HIGHLIGHTS

• Why it's beneficial to be authentic when someone asks, "How are you?"
• Sarah talks about when feelings of not being worthy show up for her
• NARM—Neuro Affective Relational Model
• Sarah is doing her own work through the NARM model, and she has found it very effective
• It gets to developmental trauma that may be pre-verbal
• Epigenetics
  • Trauma that happens in the womb can be passed from mother to child
  • Non-verbal things in the environment can be passed on to children
• Sarah's decision to not have children and why she made the decision
• Sarah talks about how she was impacted since her mother had her in order to have someone to love her
• The challenge of setting boundaries
• What fears come up for Sarah if she anticipates having to set a boundary
• What Sarah's behavior may look like if she hasn't set a boundary
• The benefits of setting boundaries
• The unexpected benefits when she has set boundaries
• Sarah talks about her resistance to identifying as an HSP
• We talk about the cultural connotation of sensitivity and how it can be perceived as a weakness
• We talk about alternative ways to describe what being an HSP means
  • Highly Attuned
  • Highly perceptive
  • Highly responsive
• When Sarah and I first talked, she set a boundary with me, and we discuss how that impacted both of us
• We talk about how grief can be more complicated if you've had a challenging relationship with the deceased
• Sarah shares her experience of losing her parents—she had a difficult relationship with both of them, but has gotten some healing since their death
• We talk about therapists being vulnerable with their clients
• Sarah talks about what being a wounded healer means and how she uses this in her word
• I talk about Arianna Smith's analogy of the bathtub when talking about overarousal and overstimulation and the HSP

BIO

Sarah Buino, LCSW, CADC, RDDP, CDWF is a speaker, teacher, therapist and the founder of Head/Heart Therapy, Inc. She holds a masters degree from Loyola University in Chicago and specializes in shame, trauma, and substance use disorders.

Sarah integrates her knowledge of complementary healing modalities such as music, yoga, reiki, and the chakra system into her clinical practice to help clients enhance their authenticity. She's also the host of a podcast Conversations With a Wounded Healer which examines the role of one's own healing while being a care-giving professional.

PODCAST HOST

Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).

LINKS

Sarah's Links

Website-- https://headhearttherapy.com/

IG: @headhearttherapy

FB: @headhearttherapy @woundedhealr

Twitter: @HeadHeart_Chi @woundedhealr

Podcast—Conversations with a Wounded Healer https://headhearttherapy.com/podcast/

Resources

NARM Therapy—Neuro Affective Relationship Model https://narmtraining.com/

Kristin Neff-- https://self-compassion.org/

Tim Desmond-- https://timdesmond.net/

Chasing the Scream by Johann Hari-- http://chasingthescream.com/

Drama of the Gifted Child by Alice Miller

Patricia's Links

Online HSP Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com

Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/

Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/

Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/

Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber

Pinterest-- https://www.pinterest.com/patriciayounglcsw/

e-mail-- [email protected]

Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive

Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

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After learning she was an HSP from her therapist, Ranielle talks about what she got from the Online HSP group that she couldn't get from therapy

GUEST

Ranielle

EPISODE OVERVIEW

Ranielle's therapist introduced her the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person, but it wasn't until Ranielle took the Online HSP Course that she began to actively practice embracing the traits of being an HSP. Ranielle shares what she was able to get from the Course that she couldn't get in therapy (yet it was very compatible with therapy). Even though her group was late in the evening, Ranielle talks about feeling restored every week because of what she received during group. Ranielle talks about her hesitation to spend money on the Course, and that it felt scary to join when she didn't know anyone else in the group, and how it was going to be. Ranielle's group is continuing to meet weekly online on their own.

HIGHLIGHTS

• Ranielle wanted support in making a major life transition
• The HSP Online Course helped Ranielle bridge the gap from making the decision through executing it
• Ranielle was able to talk out things that were going on in her head
• She had things reflected back to her
• She realized she wasn't being difficult or crazy; it was part of an HSP process
• The information about her trait and the support from the group helped Ranielle feel confident in her decision
• Group members would see their traits show up in others, and they had so much compassion for the other person, which lead to self-compassion
• It felt nice to not feel alone due to feeling isolated since it felt like no one understood
• It was really validating to experience others who experienced similar things
• It eased the sense of being alone, and it felt great to find a group of others that have similar values
• Ranielle received negative messaging about her HSP traits and it was presented as a way that it was HER problem that needed fixing, and she didn't know how to fix it
• Ranielle realized there was nothing to be fixed. She needed to be understood and known and she needed self-compassion
• Ranielle says she had felt broken in the past, and realized that wasn't the case
• Ranielle learned how to nurture herself instead of beating herself down
• Ranielle's therapist told her about being a Highly Sensitive Person
• Ranielle talks about being in therapy while taking the Online HSP Course
• Having a larger group of HSPs sharing their experiences created a different kind of mirroring and reflection
• Hearing about how other HSPs navigated through life provided something that Ranielle didn't get in therapy
• Therapy and the Online HSP Course was very complimentary
• Being in a group of other HSPs who had no investment in making Ranielle feel better was validating. She heard what her therapist had said, but to hear it from others was very impactful
• There was a level of connected support in this group
• There wasn't a common denominator (job, socioeconomic status, level of education, gender) to explain why the groups were so cohesive
• Ranielle felt more confident setting boundaries, asking for what she needs, and being more open and honest about her feelings, and being more willing to talk about challenges in relationships
• The Course opened up a new language for her
• Ranielle had resistance to spending money on the Course
• Being in a group of other HSPs created energy for Ranielle because this was a place where she felt restored
• Ranielle felt listened to, supported in the group—it's a new level of self-care that's worth trying
• If you're on the fence about it, I'd encourage others to take the leap of faith and take it
• There is a money-back guarantee if you take the Course (please see specifics about this)
• Ranielle talks about how scary it was to join without knowing who would be in the group, or how it would go
• Just being in a group of other HSPs is enough to build a base to create an amazing experience
• After the first group, that feeling of fear about the structure and the unknown disappeared
• The group members seemed to be in tune with turn-taking and staying on track so no one felt talked over or that they didn't get a chance to share
• The greatest thing about the Course was how much everyone was encouraged to take care of themselves (to miss a class, to not share, to eat, to turn off video, to observe—for the introverts)
• Introverts may need more time to process, and there was no pressure for anyone to share if they didn't want to
• This Course is about figuring out what works for you, and to honor it
• You just have to show up as you, and not as someone else
• When we take a chance, things often work out much better than we anticipate
• Ranielle feels like a more enlightened HSP and feels ready to go out into the world

GUEST BIO

Ranielle is a Pacific Northwest native, dedicated cat and dog guardian, and is becoming a more enlightened & empowered HSP. She and her dog, Calamity Jane, have been a Pet Partners therapy team since 2015, and participate in read-to-dog programs as well as high school, college, and workplace stress release clinics. After 20 years in the entertainment industry, Ranielle is whole-heartedly pursuing her passion for dogs by working in a doggy daycare with an eye to becoming a dog trainer and small business owner.

PODCAST HOST

Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).

LINKS

Patricia's Links

HSP Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com

Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/

Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/

Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/

Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber

e-mail-- [email protected]

Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive

Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

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Ways To Honor Our Needs Around the Holidays, & I Lost My Sh*t; It's Not About The Gravy!

GUEST

Solo Episode

EPISODE OVERVIEW

How I'm simplifying Thanksgiving and consciously making changes so I don't lose my sh*t again this Thanksgiving (and if I do, I'll practice radical self-compassion). How can we use mindfulness to create more peace during this holiday season? I talk about boundaries, and what can make it difficult to set boundaries. I also talk about some of the challenges and benefits of having a practice for gratitude, and then there's the famous replay from last Thanksgiving.

HIGHLIGHTS

• Update about the changes I'm making for the holidays this year
• What I was concerned my family would think since we're just having immediate family for Thanksgiving
• Update on my Mom's health (after her health scare last year)
• How self-care and reducing stress allows us to be fully present for our loved ones (and most importantly, for ourselves)
• How I'm being impacted by consciously creating things that are workable for the holidays
• The challenges that come up with setting boundaries
• What we tend to imagine when we are getting ready to set boundaries
• The familiar known discomfort we often choose instead of risking an unknown discomfort if we set a boundary
• Boundaries are about the process of practicing them
• We often override our need to make ourselves a priority
• Are you willing to experience a new kind of discomfort?
• How we can use mindfulness to start to see what we want
• How to use radical self-compassion if we're not ready to make those changes yet
• How we can practice gratitude and still honor our feelings

PODCAST HOST

Patricia Young works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).

LINKS

Online HSP Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

20+ Ways to Practically Manage Change and Loss Throughout the Holidays with Jill Johnson-Young--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/episode-47/

Creating Peace Throughout The Holidays with Sharon Martin, LCSW--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/unapologetically-sensitive-episode-6/

Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com

Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/

Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/

Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/

Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber

e-mail-- [email protected]

Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive

Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com