Unapologetically Sensitive

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What To Do When We're Having Uncomfortable Feelings That We Don't Like

GUEST

Solo Episode

EPISODE OVERVIEW

How do we deal with feelings of depression, anxiety, disappointment, frustration, anger? We may experience shame when we have feelings (especially if we're therapists) because there's this belief that we shouldn't struggle with very human things. How do we still show up and be present for others when we are struggling? Do we have a hard time asking for what we want? Do we worry about how others will respond if we're struggling? I share my recent (and current) experiences with this.

HIGHLIGHTS

• How do we deal with feelings of depression, anxiety, disappointment, frustration, anger?
• We may experience shame when we have feelings if we're therapists because there's that belief that we shouldn't struggle with very human things
• How do we still show up and be present for others when we are struggling?
• Having a few supportive people who can just be present for us and listen to us, can be incredibly healing
• When we have a few people that share honestly with us, we feel a sense of connection and validation
• We can use tapping (Emotional Freedom Techniques or EFT) when we are having feelings that we want to work through
• We can reach out to safe people to get connection when we are having uncomfortable feelings
• What are things you are afraid to ask for out of fear of feeling disappointed, frustrated, and angry?
• Many of us have friendship wounds
• Sometimes we want to go dark when we are having uncomfortable feelings—does this really support us?
• There is power in having other HSPs or people who get you when you are struggling
• Can you just be with intense feelings (depression, anxiety, frustration, etc.), and just lean into it?
• When we can continue to suit up and show up even when we're having big feelings, it reminds us that we can manage
• We probably have already experienced intense hurt or disappointment in the past, so we can probably tolerate whatever happens if we put our wants or needs out and don't get them met
• We also open ourselves to experience joy and connection when we take a risk
• Even if we feel shame, we can still talk about what's going on and feel connected
• We've got to have self-compassion when we're going through things
• We just have to show up and be ourselves

PODCAST HOST

Patricia knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, truthteller and blacksheep. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren't alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us

LINKS

Meetup--https://www.meetup.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-Meetup/events/268428586/

HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

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Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

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A Listener Asks, "How Do I Manage Overarousal During an Interview—Because I Can't Demonstrate What I Know?"

GUEST

KJ McDaniels

EPISODE OVERVIEW

We talk about assessing skills and using visualization to internalize our competence; how to articulate our need for time to respond to questions during an interview. How to talk about our strengths when asked about challenges we experience. We also talk about how to communicate what our learning process can look like, and to emphasize the strengths we bring. How to create routines and landing spaces in order to keep track of glasses, keys, wallets, etc., and ways to remember appointments.

HIGHLIGHTS

• KJ had an upcoming interview and had some concerns
• KJ was told she needed to respond more in-depth
• Having a high arousal state causes KJ to go into fight or flight
• We talk about needing some tools to be able to stay in the pre-frontal cortex
• KJ had pages on how to navigate the interview, but still was put on the waitlist
• KJ wonders if she may have ADHD as well
• When KJ is under pressure doing her job, she is able to manage her job
• KJ is able to anticipate possible outcomes and is competent in her job
• KJ believes that she struggles with communication due to how she was raised
• We assess if KJ is able to answer the questions when she's not overaroused
• When we haven't experienced being seen and heard in the past, those can be small traumas that can impact current performance
• The goal is to create safety in new environments
• We want to create a way to feel safe in new environments
• It might be our "task manager"
• We still need to honor our feelings and all of the parts of us
• The task master often doesn't have the fear around performing and answering questions
• Using visualizations to affirm—I've got this; I'm safe; I'm capable
• We want to shift from our feeling brain into our emotional brain
• We want to find out where that little person wants to go (to a safe place; NOT in the adult interview)
• The Highly Sensitive Person can be great on teams, when conditions/systems aren't set up to honor everyone
• HSPs are great listeners, and leaders, and we notice those people who aren't engaging in groups/teams
• For an interview, we want to talk about the things that did work, and our strengths
  • Empathy
  • Leadership
  • Problem-solving skills
• How to answer questions that have to do with challenges
• How to talk about our strengths from a challenge
• How to articulate our depth of processing as a strength
• How to use routine in order to help with challenges with working memory
• HSPs who think they have ADHD, may just be overaroused and overstimulated
• Create routines and a landing spaces for things like keys, glasses, wallet, and other things we need on a regular basis
• We don't have to feel shame when we let others know what we need in order to perform well
• How to do a visualization at night to imagine ourselves feeling confident and competent to create a sense of calm
• How to use jewelry and clothes to use for subtle self-soothing
• Some of us need to fidget to focus—move when we are doing passive activities (talking on the phone, listening to a podcast or audiobook)
• Do the Superwoman pose to feel empowered and strong
• Our culture rewards extroverts who are external processors, and it's not geared to honor introverts and HSPs who may need more time to fully process and respond
• HSPs are really going to think about treatment and the best outcomes due to our depth of processing and taking in additional information that others may not pick up on
• We can learn to manage fearful anticipation, and it doesn't have to prevent us from participating in life
• When we have parents or caregivers who don't understand how to help us manage our feelings, we don't learn those tools, and we may think there's something wrong with us

GUEST BIO

KJ McDaniels is a Highly & Energy Sensitive Person based in Atlanta, GA. Having a love for the biological sciences, she studied Molecular Cell Biology and Immunology in undergraduate school. She is a small business owner in the animal field, future bovine veterinarian, mutifaceted musician and composer, coloratura opera singer, and most important of all, a loving aunt to a 5 year old. She hopes to spread realistic and positive knowledge about Sensitive Persons through continual conversations.

PODCAST HOST

Patricia knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, truthteller and blacksheep. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation and compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren't alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, and creating a lifestyle that honors us

LINKS

KJ's email—[email protected]

Patricia's Links

HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

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Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

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Using Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) to Help With Strong Reactions as a Highly Sensitive Person

GUEST

Alison Morris

EPISODE OVERVIEW

Alison Morris talks about the benefits of using EFT, Emotional Freedom Techniques, also known as tapping, to help release stress; calm our nervous system; change brain waves, disrupt fear signals from the amygdala, and to change core beliefs. We demonstrate how to tap on the belief of being too sensitive. Alison talks about the importance of acknowledging, allowing, accepting and having awareness of our feelings, and why as a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) this is a powerful tool.

HIGHLIGHTS

• Emotional Freedom Techniques
  • Also known as EFT or tapping
• Use acupressure points
• It's like emotional acupuncture, but without needles
• Utilizes meridians, which are energy systems within the body
  • In traditional Chinese medicine, meridiansare channels that form a network in the body, through which energy flows
  • Rivers of energy
• At the meridian in the body, there is more electrical conductivity
• EFT can be used to
  • Release stress
  • Calm the nervous system
  • Change brain waves
  • Disrupt fear signals from the amygdala (fear or worry)
  • Induce epigenetic changes
    • Turn on immune function
    • Turn off inflammation
  • EFT has been comparably compared in effectiveness to Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR)
    • It works more quickly with fewer sessions
  • You can try EFT on everything and anything
  • It can help with a troubling memory, something in the present, stress or worry and physical pain
  • It can be the most powerful when used on beliefs we hold about ourselves
    • We pick up beliefs before we are six-years-old that become deeply ingrained
    • Who am I?
    • Is the world safe?
  • The 4 As of EFT

1. Acknowledge
   1. How we are feeling
   2. There are no wrong or bad feelings
   3. Feelings of shame, embarrassment, guilt, anger, sadness, etc.
2. Allowing
   1. To feel it
   2. Focus on the negative
   3. Address what is
   4. There is a fear the feeling will never go away
   5. Feelings are supposed to be felt; then they move on
3. Accepting
   1. I deeply and completely accept myself
   2. You are ok no matter what you feel
   3. How I am is fine
   4. I honor myself and the way I feel
   5. I honor my sensitivity and the gifts that it brings
   6. My sensitivity is a superpower

• EFT was designed to be a self-help tool
• You can tap with a partner or with a therapist or coach who is trained in EFT
• Common struggles
  • I don't know what to say or what words to use
  • Don't worry about it. You don't have to use words if it's overwhelming or you can't come up with the words
  • Not being specific enough—you will get better results if you are specific
• Notice what you are feeling in your body (head, muscles, stomach, jaws)
• Possible things to say
  • Even thought I haven't allowed myself to feel for years, and I'm afraid to start feeling…
  • People have been telling me not to be so sensitive for years…
  • I'm so overwhelmed, and I can't identify what I'm feelings because it's such a big mess…
• You get to be you
  • It's ok to be angry, swear, scream, cry
• You can tap in the car or the shower
• It's just releasing energy
  • You may sigh, yawn, cry
  • Your focus may get brighter, shoulders drop down, sit up straighter
• Before tapping—
  • Rate your symptom/distress on a scale of 1-10
  • Try to pick something that's not too intense—maybe something that's a 4-6 in distress
  • Notice where you feel it in your body
  • Start with your "set up phrase" and repeat 3x with the karate chop on the side of your hand
    • Even though I …..I deeply love and accept myself
  • Use the reminder phrase when you tap on the following (see attached picture)
    • Top of the head
    • Above the eyebrow
    • Outside the eye—side of your face
    • Under the eye
    • Under the nose
    • Above the chin
    • Collar bone
    • Under the arm (where are bra strap would be if you wear a bra)
  • It's helpful to have water nearby so you don't get dehydrated
  • Often if feels like nothing has happened, but changes are happening
  • The original protocol is to stay with the negative statements
    • It's like working on it to heal the wound
    • If the negative feelings are subsiding, you can switch to reparative statements, but you don't want to rush into this
  • You can use tapping to feel honored, safer and to build inner strength

SCRIPT FOR TAPPING

Even though I really hate being so sensitive, I deeply and completely accept myself.

Even though I have felt like a misfit for years because I am so sensitive I deeply and completely accept myself.

Even though I really wish sometimes that my sensitivity would just go away. I deeply and completely accept myself.

Now we're going to take fingers again either hand we're going to go right to the very top of the head. Like where a puppet would come from, you know, string would come up from the top of a puppet's head, and just tap lightly while we say what's called a reminder phrase.

I hate being so sensitive.

All right, we're going to the eyebrow point which is the edge of the eyebrow closest to your nose. Again, you can use either hand or both hands, but just for now let's just use one hand, just tap lightly with two or three fingers.

I hate being so sensitive.

We follow to the outside of the eye just on that bone gently don't poke yourself in the eye.

I'm tired of being such a misfit.

Follow that bone underneath your eye. You know just an inch or two below.

I really hate being so sensitive.

Now we go to under the nose, that little indentation between your nose and your upper lip.

I hate being so sensitive.

The chin point which is above the chin, below the lower lip in that little indentation.

I'm so tired of being so sensitive.

Then we go to the collarbone point. So if you find your collarbone your clavicle and trace it sort of to the middle point where the two of them kind of almost come together, drop down an inch, and then go to one side, about two inches and you'll find a kind of a notch like an indentation in there. And that is technically the collarbone point. What I like to do though, just to keep it a little bit simpler is to take all five fingers and go all the way across your chest, below your collarbone. That way you make sure you get that point.

I'm so tired of being so sensitive.

Then finally we're going to do the underarm pit. This one looks a little weird. About four inches below your armpit. Where a bra strap would cross, you can curl one hand arm up on one side to reach it. Are you can reach across your chest to tap under your arm on the other side of your body, if that makes sense.

I hate being so sensitive.

Okay, so that's one round of tapping. So let's go back through now a little bit more quickly. Now that we know where all the points are.

GUEST BIO

Alison Morris is a certified EFT practitioner who loves helping people understand how they respond to stress and how EFT or tapping can help them quickly and effectively release whatever has them stressed - whether a memory, a physical symptom, or a fear of the future. Alison has focused mostly on helping parents of children with serious emotional and behavioral challenges, many of whom are Highly Sensitive People, through her work at Full Potential Parenting.

PODCAST HOST

Patricia Young works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).

LINKS

Alison's Links

Website--http://full-potential-parenting.com

Facebook--https://www.facebook.com/FullPotentialParenting/

YouTube--https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbvovgDdQFAaosog6di9XiQ/videos

Highly Sensitive Person self-test--https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/

Patricia Carrington, PhD The Choices Method--https://patcarrington.com/introducing-the-choices-method/

Gary Craig EFT Tapping--https://www.emofree.com/

I wasn't able to include the sheet for tapping (sorry). If you go to the closed fb group (link below), the diagram is already posted there. Alison and I will be making a video and I will post a link in the group for you.

Patricia's Links

HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

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Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive

Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

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The Highly Sensitive Man: Finding Strength in Sensitivity, Author Tom Falkenstein

GUEST

Tom Falkenstein, MA

EPISODE OVERVIEW

Tom Falkenstein, author of the book The Highly Sensitive Man discusses the pressure men feel to be strong and to not show their emotions, and how Highly Sensitive Men can feel they're not living up to the masculine ideal. He talks about how we can support sensitive boys, and we talk about how men lose touch with their intuition. Tom shares some tools he used when he was feeling nervous about being on television, and he talks about his own strengths as a Highly Sensitive Man.

HIGHLIGHTS

• Michael Pluess talks about the trait of being an HSP as Environmental Sensitivity
• Some Highly Sensitive Males struggle with being sensitive, and they receive feedback that they are not ok, or that they are too feminine
• Tom noticed there weren't many books about the Highly Sensitive Man
• Tom wanted to make the trait of High Sensitivity visible
• Many men grow up with a sense that they didn't satisfy the boy code
• Some men feel that they are not living up the masculine ideal of being stoic, self-reliant and embracing competition
• Men are not born less emotional than women
• When we let feelings build up and don't express them, it is likely we will have a blow-up or a melt-down
• Tim answers the question—How do men balance being sensitive with the traditional ideas of men being "strong and not showing their emotions?"
• The idea that men should NOT show their emotions is NOT healthy
• It's important to learn to appreciate your sensitivity
• Men can be confident about being sensitive
• Men can learn they can be themselves and NOT to be ashamed
• Not showing emotions is a huge conflict ALL men experience, but even more so for the Highly Sensitive Man
• Being emotionally expressive is not the typical masculine ideal, and showing emotions can trigger feelings of shame, insecurities and not feeling worthy
• How can parents support young boys who show signs of being Highly Sensitive?
• It's crucial NOT to shame boys for being sensitive
• Being emotional is fine. Feelings provide information, and we can change our feelings and work with them
• Feelings are important
• We don't want to label a child as being Highly Sensitive (per Dr. Elaine Aron)—meaning telling the child they are a Highly Sensitive Child (HSC)
• We can use descriptive terms to model and teach the child—you are really sad, it hurts your feelings when xx happens etc.
• It's important to allow feelings, talk about feelings and to model feelings
• Why is it that men learn to believe everything they are told instead of trusting their intuition or inner voice?
• Our socialization (for both men and women) influences whether we are taught to honor and trust our inner voice or to abandon it for the external rules
• Don't call your child shy or quiet. It can be very damaging!
• Highly Sensitive Children (and some adults) prefer to stand at the sidelines and observe before participating.
• We are more cautious and want to get the lay of the land before jumping in
• If I child is Highly Sensitive, do you tell them that they are?

GUEST BIO

TOM FALKENSTEIN has worked in the mental health sector since 1999 and as a cognitive behavioral psychotherapist since 2006. After obtaining his degree in psychology at the University of Glasgow, he completed his five-year postgraduate training in psychotherapy in Berlin. He then moved back to the UK where he worked as a psychotherapist in London. During this period, he developed a particular interest in high sensitivity and working with highly sensitive people. He has been training with Dr. Elaine Aron (author of "The Highly Sensitive Person") since 2015 and has founded the European Centre for High Sensitivity (www.hsp-eu.com). Currently practicing in Berlin, he also offers consultations for highly sensitive people in both English and German. "The Highly Sensitive Man" is his first book and was published in Germany by Junfermann in September 2017. It has been translated into a number of other languages.

PODCAST HOST

Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).

LINKS

Tom's Links

Website http://www.hsp-eu.com/

Instagram https://instagram.com/tomfalkenstein

The Highly Sensitive Man: Finding Strength in Sensitivity by Tom Falkenstein

Strong Sensitive Boy by Ted Zeff

Dr. Ted Zeff--https://www.drtedzeff.com/

T.V. Show Long Island Medium with Theresa Caputo

Patricia's Links

Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com

Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/

Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/

Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/

Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber

e-mail-- [email protected]

Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive

Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

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The Unspoken Strengths of the Highly Sensitive Person—Mainly, the Power of Our Presence

GUEST

Solo Episode

EPISODE OVERVIEW

HSPs have a powerful ability to show up and be present for others. We often feel less than because we compare the accomplishments of others without realizing that we hold space, listen and notice things in a powerful way. Our society is very oriented to doing. For the Highly Sensitive Person, we excel at being, which is not always appreciated, recognized or valued. In this episode, we also look at a number of the perceived weaknesses of HSPs and talk about the corresponding strengths/superpowers we have.

HIGHLIGHTS

• Episode 59 with Azul Terronez called Influence Comes from Service really highlights many of the unspoken strengths of the Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)
• Our culture tends to measure success in terms of doing and achievements vs. the power of presence and being
• As HSPs, we have an amazing ability to hold space, listen, recognize and observe things that most people don't
• We are often the emotional glue that holds our families and relationships together
• It's often easy for use to measure the non-HSPs parts of our relationships to others, and to forget how powerful our presence is to others
• Often systems are set up in ways that can make us feel that there is something wrong with us, but it's the system or person that isn't functional/responsive or able to meet our need(s)
• Many of us have the wound of too much and not enough
• When we start comparing, we WILL feel inadequate
• How can we honor what comes up for us, and be able to address the subtext (when appropriate)? THIS is our greatest strength

POSITIVE MESSAGES—OUR SUPERPOWERS

• I value self-care, and am in need of rest and recharging
• I process more information on a deeper level
• I'm good at trying new things and I enjoy the moment
• I trust my process and I take the time I need
• I'm not afraid to feel
• I'm in touch with my emotions
• I feel things deeply; it's healthy and I'm strong, and it allow me to be myself
• I see things that others don't
• What I do is valuable
• What I bring is valuable
• I am valuable
• I am so beautifully in touch with myself, which is a gift to myself, and others. Everyone is doing their best
• I teach others by example how to feel deeply and how to experience a wide range of human emotions

PODCAST HOST

Patricia Young works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).

LINKS

Episode 59 Influence comes from service with Azul Terronez https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/episode-59/

Episode 5 I gave myself permission to be me, and not place undue expectations about who I should be with Melvin Varghese, PhD https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/unapologetically-sensitive-episode-5/

Episode 17 part 1 & 2 Conversations with a non-binary HS Therapist with Dara Hoffman-Fox https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/unapologetically-sensitive-episode-17-part-1/

https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/unapologetically-sensitive-episode-17-part-2/

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HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

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Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive

Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

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Influence Comes From Service; I Just Need To Show Up And Be Myself

GUEST

Azul Terronez

EPISODE OVERVIEW

Author, Podcaster and Book Whisperer, Azul Terronez, was afraid to write a book. He talks about not being good at reading and writing, and flunking freshman English at UCLA; he later learned he has dyslexia. He's helped authors who have become international best sellers, and he has a TEDx talk called What Makes a Good Teacher that has over 1.6 million views. Azul names his superpowers, which are traits of being Highly Sensitve—oberserving, connecting, listening & accepting. He discovers during this episode that he thinks he may be a Highly Sensitive Person.

HIGHLIGHTS

• Azul loved telling stories, and he wanted to be a writer, but his teachers discouraged him because he wasn't good at reading or writing
• Azul found out in his late 20's he had dyslexia
• Azul flunked Freshman English at UCLA
• He became an English teacher (but didn't have a degree in teaching)
• Azul could see words and how they work
• Although he wanted to write a book, he didn't have access to a publisher and he believed he wasn't good enough
• Azul taught his students how to publish books
• A student asked Azul where was his book, but he had been too afraid to write a book
• Azul signed up for Pat Flynn & Chris Ducker's 1 Day Breakthrough Workshop, but had no book or anything to show he had a business
• He decided to write a book in 30 days (the workshop was a little over 30 days away)
• Azul wondered Can I make a living outside of being a teacher?
• Azul wrote the book The Art of Apprenticeship and sent it to a publisher the day before the workshop
• Azul became a principal and an administrator, but it was difficult because he had to emotionally manage adults
• If I play a role, I can be successful
• I could be very strong, but I felt isolated
• I felt supported, but distant
• I found the language to describe my experience
  • I would feel so much
  • It helped me help other people
  • I noticed what I was experiencing
• Pat Flynn asked Azul to help him write his book, which became an international best seller
• Azul has been able to live all over the world
• He has a podcast called Born to Write

QUOTES

I just need to show up and be myself

Influence comes from service

I can show up and serve

You can be yourself, and I will hold that space for you

Acting is what I'm doing in Life. [studying acting in college] This will make me successful

I was observant, sensitive, and I paid attention more

I had to find the language to describe my experience

I bring the story out of people

I'm good at thinking ahead and anticipating what people need

I helped kids blossom

GUEST BIO

Azul Terronez has been called a book whisperer He helps leaders write and publish books that people love so they can create their brand, grow their audience, and increase their influence. His signature coaching program is built around the idea that creating books is about building the conversation that you want to own. Azul is the CEO of Authors Who Lead™ and the host of the top writing podcast Born to Write. His TEDx talk "What Makes a Good Teacher Great" has been viewed over 1.6 million times. Azul's clients have included Wall Street Bestseller, Pat Flynn from the Smart Passive Income Podcast, Jadah Sellner co-founder Simple Green Smoothies and Dana Malstaff the founder of Boss-mom. He lives in San Juan, Puerto Rico.

PODCAST HOST

Patricia Young works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, who is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).

LINKS

Azul's Links

Website: https://authorswholead.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SteveAndAzul/

Instagram: @azulterronez

Podcast Born to Write--https://coachazul.com/blog/tag/born-to-write-podcast/

Tedx Talk What Makes a Good Teacher Great-- https://mail.google.com/mail/u/1/#inbox/FMfcgxwDrRSjVrwJZgglRJJQvwjxDtsw?projector=1

Dr. Elaine Aron's website—HSP Self-Test--https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/

Patricia's Links

HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com

Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/

Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/

Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/

Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber

e-mail-- [email protected]

Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive

Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

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Honoring the Highly Sensitive Introvert

GUEST

Nicole Burgess, LMFT

EPISODE OVERVIEW

What do people need to know about introverts? Do introverts tend to need more time to process? Do they tend to process internally vs. processing verbally in the moment? Are introverts shy, anxious, or do they hate people? Are introverts slow to warm up? We tackle some common myths about introversion. This is a fun, spontaneous interview, with lots of laughter. We have a messy, raw conversation about the difference between therapy and coaching that goes badly.

HIGHLIGHTS

• Highly Sensitive People (HSPs), are really in-tune with things vs. calling it highly sensitive
• The biggest difference between coaching and therapy is there is no diagnosis and people are mentally healthier; meaning they have a stronger sense of self, yet are open to going deeper in letting go of old beliefs/mindsets, etc.
• I also think we therapists are great coaches because we know how to ask great questions; help in getting people to move forward in their lives vs stay in a disempowered mode. We also have training in communication, boundaries, and so much. Each of us can bring our skills as therapists and other professions into coaching
• What's the difference between coaching and therapy?
• Is therapy only about the past and coaching is only about the future?
• What are the benefits of online coaching or therapy?
• What kind of coaches do therapists make?
• Introversion—True or false? Introverts are "shy, anxious, hates people"
• True or false? introverts struggle w self-confidence and don't know their souls
• What does the world need to know about introverts?
• A special shout out to April Snow for connecting many of us Highly Sensitive Therapists
• What do we do when we're in a social situation and we don't feel heard, and one person is dominating the conversation?
• We talk about play

BIO

Nicole Burgess, LMFT, is a licensed psychotherapist and leadership coach to introverted high achieving professional women in midlife. Over the last fifteen years she has coached, guided and collaborated with over a 1,000 women. She helps them demote their inner critic, embrace their fears through action, and grow professionally without sacrificing their personal life. As a result, they are more productive at work, have more meaningful relationships, and no longer sacrifice their well-being for others.

PODCAST HOST

Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, who is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).

LINKS

Nicole's Links

https://ww.nicoleburgesscoaching.com

https://www.facebook.com/nicoleburgesscoaching

https://www.linkedin.com/in/nicoleburgesscoach/

Soulfilled Sisterhood Podcast-- https://nicoleburgesscoaching.com/podcast/

Launching Your Daughter Podcast-- https://nicolecburgess.com/launchingyourdaughter/

Introversion, Extroversion and the Highly Sensitive Person by Jacquelyn Strickland-- https://hsperson.com/introversion-extroversion-and-the-highly-sensitive-person/

Patricia's Links

Online HSP Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com

Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/

Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/

Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/

Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber

Pinterest-- https://www.pinterest.com/patriciayounglcsw/

e-mail-- [email protected]

Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive

Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

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The Challenges & Gifts of Being a Highly Sensitive Musician with Brian Zirngible, LMFT

GUEST

Brian Zirngible, LMFT

EPISODE OVERVIEW

Brian, who is a musician and a therapist, talks about his work with men who are creatives, musicians and artists, but rarely come to therapy on their own, and don't know that they are Highly Sensitive. Brian talks about the names he was called for being sensitive, and that his family didn't really talk about feelings. We talk about the importance of self-compassion, mindfulness and curiosity as well as slowing down before responding when we're picking up on something without having all the information.

HIGHLIGHTS

• Brian talks about how sensitivity was viewed in his family
• What is an educated and empowered HSP?
• Why is it important for the Highly Sensitive Person to be around other HSPs?
• Brian talks about the names he was called for being sensitive
• Brian talks about some men having difficulty expressing their feelings
• In Brian's experience, men often don't go to therapy on their own
• Many times, a partner, bandmate or spouse tell the man they need to go to therapy, or that they might benefit from talking to someone
• Generally, the men that Brian sees, come in to get help with getting unstuck with creativity
• Often underneath the unstuckness is depression, anxiety, substance abuse
• It can be challenging to be a man since men are given the message to be tough, don't cry, don't be a baby
• There is pressure in athletics, the classroom and the music industry to be tough and to deny sensitivity
• Brian talks about Kristen Neff's work and the importance of radical self-acceptance
• Brian talks about his superpowers of being able to read a room, which helps him as a therapist, and as musician
• We talk about the importance of slowing down and taking a breath and getting curious when we "read" something, but may not know why someone looks a certain way or has said something
• We talk about the importance of mindfulness, self-compassion and curiosity
• Brian's primary message is that he wants people, especially the Highly Sensitive Person, to know you are not alone
• He also talks about JOMO—the joy of missing out (instead of FOMO—the fear of missing out)
• Brian talks about what he would want his younger self to know

GUEST BIO

Brian Zirngible is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Burnsville, Minnesota. His specialties & passions are supporting highly sensitive men, musicians & performing artists to find more balance, boundaries & bad-assery in their lives. Brian is a performing artist & musician himself, playing in 3 different musical projects. He practices daily meditation, mindfulness & is a husband to a super supportive & amazing wife. Brian is also a father to the cutest fur-baby shih tzu ever!

PODCAST HOST

Patricia Young works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, who is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).

LINKS

Brian's Links

website-- https://www.brianzirngible.com/

facebook--https://www.facebook.com/brianzirngiblelmft/

iTunes-- https://music.apple.com/us/artist/brian-zirngible/1448287592

CD Baby-- https://store.cdbaby.com/artist/BrianZirngible

Dr. Elaine Aron's website—HSP self-test

https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/

The Highly Sensitive Person by Dr. Elaine Aron

Sensitive: The Untold Story-- https://sensitivethemovie.com/

Kristen Neff-- https://self-compassion.org/

Patricia's Links

Online HSP Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com

Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/

Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/

Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/

Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber

San Diego Meetup-- https://www.meetup.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-Meetup/

e-mail-- [email protected]

Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive

Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

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A Highly Sensitive Therapist talks about Feeling Invisible, & How She Views Her Anxiety After Learning She's An HSP

GUEST

Kitty McCormick

EPISODE OVERVIEW

Kitty is a childhood friend who is now a therapist. We talk about the anxieties we both felt as children, but never discussed. Kitty's father was a prominent public figure, and she was pushed into acting/auditioning as a child to help with her shyness. She also talks about some of the barriers she experienced with non-Highly Sensitive Therapists, and her desire to please. Kitty also talks about the challenges she experienced in groups (including therapy groups) being an introvert until she took the Online HSP Course.

BIO

Kitty McCormick is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Los Angeles, who has avidly worked with children and families for over 20 years. She received her Masters in Social Work from the University of Southern California, with a concentration in mental health practice with individuals, families, and groups. She has extensive experience in the Los Angeles Unified School District where she worked with at-risk children, adolescents, and young adults. In that setting, she also regularly collaborated with Child Protective Services, the County of Los Angeles Probation Department (Juvenile Services), and numerous community service agencies throughout L.A. County to assist and support clients as needed. In 2017, Kitty shifted from doing social work in public school settings to doing psychotherapy in therapeutic schools with children who have greater emotional needs. It was at that point in her career where she began private practice in the community mental health arena, which offers affordable counseling services. This year she began her own private practice. Some of Kitty's hobbies include yoga, weekend getaways, walking in nature, being around animals, and spending quality time with her husband.

PODCAST HOST

Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, who is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).

LINKS

Online HSP Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com

Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/

Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/

Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/

Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber

Pinterest-- https://www.pinterest.com/patriciayounglcsw/

e-mail-- [email protected]

Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive

Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

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Free Drawing for Online HSP Course Beginning the week of January 12, 2020

EPISODE OVERVIEW

If you'd like to enter to win free registration for the Online HSP Course that begins the week of January 12, 2020, please listen to this episode (there are 4 groups that will be starting). If you're interested in taking the Course, but have financial considerations, please reach out to me at [email protected]. I'm happy to work with you if I can. There's a money back guarantee for the Course because I believe in what I'm offering. You can get more information at https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

PODCAST HOST

Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, who is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).

LINKS

Online HSP Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com

Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/

Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/

Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/

Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber

Pinterest-- https://www.pinterest.com/patriciayounglcsw/

e-mail-- [email protected]

Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive

Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com