Unapologetically Sensitive

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Online HSP Course Starts 6/16/20

GUEST

Solo episode

EPISODE OVERVIEW

If you've been thinking about getting extra support during these unprecedented times, I have a few spots left in the Online HSP Course, which will start in less than a week. We talk about mindfulness, self-compassion, identifying negative messages and turning them into superpowers, perfectionism, boundaries, embracing our emotions, self-care is non-negotiable, communication, authenticity and vulnerability, creating a lifestyle that honors the HSP, and expectations and disappointments.

HIGHLIGHTS

• The Course is 10 weeks long, and meets weekly for an hour and 20 minutes
• We will be meeting via Zoom from 10:30 am -11:50 am PDT
• There are 14 videos for this course, and every week, I send out an e-mail with at least 1 video and prompts (questions to think about the topic), and sometimes links to Ted Talks or other resources that are relevant.
• Then during group each week everyone shares about the topic, or whatever else they want to
• We will take a group consensus and see if we want to incorporate what's happening in the world right now, since we are in the middle of being a part of history
• This is a supportive, nurturing experience, where you really get to honor your HSP traits
• I will be providing education weekly, but it's about what happens in the group, which is a very powerful experience
• If you want more information, you can go here to learn more https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

PODCAST HOST

Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, truthteller and black sheep. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren't alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us

LINKS

HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

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Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com

Meetup-- https://www.meetup.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-Meetup/

Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/

Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/

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Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/

Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber

e-mail-- [email protected]

Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive

Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

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A Black Man's Experience in America

GUEST

Marcus Stricklin

EPISODE OVERVIEW

Marcus talks about teaching his black son what to do if he is pulled over by police. He talks about language used to describe a white school shooter vs. a black protester. Marcus wasn't familiar with the term code switching, but he knew exactly what it was, and he calls it something else. Marcus talks about police officers coming into his home when his daughter was having a seizure, and putting their hands on their guns after seeing him. We talk about repeated trauma he experienced that he internalized as shame due to repeated abuse of power by law enforcement.

GUEST BIO

Marcus Stricklin is a married father of 5, a writer, and a person who likes to make people laugh. He is a filmmaker, an author, and longs to be a TV writer.

PODCAST HOST

Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, truthteller and black sheep. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren't alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us

LINKS

Marcus's links

Facebook: @MarcusAStricklin

Instagram: @Marcusthetoken

Tik Tok: @Stricklinfamily

Twitter: @Marcusthetoken

Brown eyes and blue eyes Racism experiment Children Session - Jane Elliott--https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oGvoXeXCoUY

Being Black with Jane Elliot--https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4yrg7vV4a5o

BBS Percentage of Fatal Shootings Compared to the Population by Ethnicity https://www.bbc.com/news/world-us-canada-52877678

Movie—Sorry to Bother You—clip "use your white voice"-- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T5X3cu1B87k

White Fragility: Why it's so hard for white people to talk about racism by Robin Diangelo

So you want to talk about race by Ijeoma Oluo

The color of law by Richard Rothstein

The hate you give by Angie Thomas

On the other side of freedom by DeRay McKeeson

Locked up in the land of the free on Netflix (trailer): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h64qugj_iDg

Teach us All Documentary (trailer): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I5hE2Xm_dDQ

When they see us—Netflix

Seven Seconds—Netflix

Mudbound—Netflix

12 years a slave

Fruityvale Station

The Sun is also a star

Let it fall

Strong Island on Netflix

The sugar-coated language of white fragility--https://vernamyers.com/the-sugarcoated-language-of-white-fragility/?fbclid=IwAR0YX8SXtjlR3IH-M6kWNOchF7XzRrxe7359r8ngx7UsjQbPURpVmugsVeA

Anti-racist resources--https://docs.google.com/document/d/1PrAq4iBNb4nVIcTsLcNlW8zjaQXBLkWayL8EaPlh0bc/mobilebasic?fbclid=IwAR0zDKsavKYnsHnKhlkoBwN0AFzMplhq6MQE5ay8fDQfQeHSsNn8lfMqaMg

Patricia's links

HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

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Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com

Meetup-- https://www.meetup.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-Meetup/

Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/

Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/

Closed/Private Facebook group for therapists and healers-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/208565440423641/

Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/

Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber

e-mail-- [email protected]

Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive

Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

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Leading From The Heart and Reclaiming Yourself

GUEST

Amber Rochelle

EPISODE OVERVIEW

The Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) often leads from the heart. We often experience the world differently than non-HSPs. It's important to reclaim our strengths and identify the gifts we have. Prioritizing our relationship with ourselves and shedding the messages we get from society about the values of being strong is part of the process of becoming empowered in our traits. Many of our strengths are not as easily seen or measured, but they are crucial and central to how we show up in the world.

HIGHLIGHTS

• HSPs tend to lead from the heart
• We experience the world in a different way
• It's important for us to reclaim ourselves and our strengths
• Our wounding often tells us that we don't fit in
• Perfectionism can be a way for us to feel like we're in control
  • It can make us feel like we are enough
  • Having the illusion of control can be a way to measure self-worth
• We are very empathic and can tune into the energy of a room
• We have the ability to perceive at a deep level
• We can be very intuitive
• We have deep feelings and we process at a deep level
• We are healers

GUEST BIO

Amber Rochelle is an Intuitive Life Coach and Empowerment Mentor for Highly Sensitive Empaths. Known as "The Sensitive Badass®", Amber's mission is to change the narrative in our culture around the word "sensitive" while guiding women OWN their superpower, cultivate fierce self love, and take their place as the author of their own life story. Thus unlocking the soul confidence needed to curate a purposeful and badass way of living and spread their healing magic with a world that so desperately needs them.

PODCAST HOST

Patricia knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, truthteller and blacksheep. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation and compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren't alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, and creating a lifestyle that honors us

LINKS

Amber's Links

Website— https://www.amberrochelle.com/

Facebook--www.facebook.com/msamberrochelle

Instagram--www.instagram.com/msamberrochelle/

Facebook--www.facebook.com/groups/supersensitives/

YouTube--www.youtube.com/c/AmberRochelle

The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown

Patricia's Links

HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

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Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive

Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

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Can We Laugh At Our Embarrassing Moments?

GUEST

Joanne Jarret

EPISODE OVERVIEW

Joanne shares a few of her embarrassing stories, and we talk about why it's important to be able to laugh at ourselves, and how this increases connection and can break shame and isolation. We talk about what internal overstimulation is, and the difference between ruminating and working something out. We explore the difference between processing an interaction and gossiping. We also talk about physical touch and boundaries with Highly Sensitive People.

HIGHLIGHTS

• Joanne has designed women's loungewear
• She has the podcast Fancy Free
• She shares at least 2 embarrassing stories
• Joanne would compare her messy insides with others'
• She's trying to figure out if she's a Highly Sensitive Introvert or Extrovert
• Shame says, I am fundamentally flawed
• Guilt says, I did something wrong
• Why it's important to bust shame
• She asks about what she calls procrastination/laziness
• I talk about being a perfectionist with nothing to show for it
• We talk about cultural expectations that value success and doing
• We talk about the "soft skills" and gifts that HSPs have that aren't always as easy to see, but are incredibly valuable
• Joanne talks about hitting a wall
• Can an HSP have a high pain threshold and still be an HSP?
• Joanne shares her superpower, and I've never heard it verbalized like this before, but it resonates
• We talk about HSPs and if they all need physical space
• We talk about boundaries
• Joanne asks what internal overstimulation looks likes
• We explore rumination vs. working something out
• We talk about the need to process information, but it doesn't necessarily mean it's gossip

GUEST BIO

Joanne is a family physician turned stay-at-home mom with two teenage daughters. She blogs at Cozy Clothes Blog and podcasts at Fancy Free Podcast. She loves to tell embarrassing, funny stories on herself to make others feel less alone in their imperfection. She has her own women's lounge wear line, Shelfie Shoppe, that sells super cozy street-legal pajamas with comfy shelf bras for some support and coverage. She is married to a whip smart, mischievous husband, Scott, who always keeps her laughing (and doing the occasional chair-side dental assisting). She and her whole extended family recently moved from Reno, NV to rural Montana.

PODCAST HOST

Patricia Young works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, who is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).

LINKS

Joanne's Links

http://fancyfreepodcast.com/

https://cozyclothesblog.com/

https://shelfieshoppe.com/

https://www.instagram.com/ivegotdishues/ https://www.facebook.com/Fancy-Free-Podcast-111290793539075/

Patricia's Links

HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

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Episode 044—The traits of being a Highly Sensitive Person, and what it means to be fully integrated with Jacqueline Strickland https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/episode-44/

Episode 007—The 5 Love Languages with Tom Murray https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/5306-2/

Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com

Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/

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Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/

Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber

e-mail-- [email protected]

Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive

Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

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Regrets, Healing and How to Imperfectly Set Boundaries During COVID-19

GUEST

Solo episode

EPISODE OVERVIEW

I have some regrets about releasing some episodes when I was feeling hurt and reactive. We're all doing the best we can during COVID-19, and I want to focus on my own healing. I didn't set boundaries when my kids and their girlfriends came home, so I imperfectly set boundaries and had a little meltdown. How do we bring compassion and self-compassion in during challenging times? What types of things can we do for ourselves to create comfort?

PODCAST HOST

Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, truthteller and black sheep. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren't alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us

LINKS

HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

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Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com

Meetup-- https://www.meetup.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-Meetup/

Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/

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Closed/Private Facebook group for therapists and healers-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/208565440423641/

Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/

Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber

e-mail-- [email protected]

Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive

Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

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How We Heal When We've Been Blindsided Part 2

GUEST

Solo episode

EPISODE OVERVIEW

As I continue to process being dropped from a group, listeners have asked how to NOT take things personally, and how to not get stuck. I'm finding I'm wanting to doubt my experience—maybe it wasn't that bad; maybe I'm exaggerating. I'm also feeling grief and disappointment. How do we hold compassion for ALL parts of ourselves because we will be disappointed by others, and we will disappoint others. I share the tools I'm using to have a sense of comfort and reassurance, and how I'm asking for support.

PODCAST HOST

Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, truthteller and black sheep. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren't alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us

LINKS

Brene Brown's podcast Unlocking Us Anxiety, Calm over/under functioning--https://brenebrown.com/podcast/brene-on-anxiety-calm-over-under-functioning/

Brene Brown's podcast Unlocking Us with Harriet Lerner I'm sorry. How to apologize and why it matters--https://brenebrown.com/podcast/harriet-lerner-and-brene-im-sorry-how-to-apologize-why-it-matters/

Episode 50 with Sara Buino https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/episode-50/

NARM—NeuroAffective Relational Model--https://narmtraining.com/

Dead to Me Netlix

Corona Virus Online Therapy--https://www.coronavirusonlinetherapy.org/

Diane Poole-Heller—Somatic Attachment and Trauma Expert https://dianepooleheller.com/

HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

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Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/

Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber

e-mail-- [email protected]

Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive

Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

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How We Heal When We've Been Blindsided

GUEST

Solo episode

EPISODE OVERVIEW

I gave feedback, and I was dropped from a group I had joined, and was told the group is not a good fit for me. I found out I was ejected from a colleague. There was no invitation to discuss fit, or the decision to drop me from the group. I talk about the feelings I'm having. I feel silenced, and it stinks! How do we honor our feelings, and create empowerment for ourselves? How do we assess if others have the capacity to work through conflict? How can we be present for ourselves and get the support we need.

HIGHLIGHTS

• What happens when we speak up and our message is not received as we intended
  • We don't feel seen or heard
  • Someone makes a decision on our behalf without our feedback
  • How do we evaluate is this about me, or the other person, or a combination?
  • How can I honor the feelings that are coming up?
  • How do we work through this so we feel empowered
• It's my intention to be neutral; however, I'm feeling angry; I'm feeling hurt and I'm feeling blindsided
• With COVID we're under tremendous stress, and it may be impacting how we react
• How do we have compassion
• I have a right to have a voice
• I have a right to have my feelings
• There was no opportunity to work together around what I was feeling
• Is this about a limitation on the other person's part
• I gave feedback about how I was experiencing the group
• I was told by the facilitator of the mastermind, I feel like no matter what I do, it won't satisfy you because this is about your fear and your mindset
  • I felt that my feelings weren't being honored
  • There is no room for discussion with this type of a statement
  • I tend to be very mindful of the words I use when I'm giving feedback to someone
    • I'm wondering if…
    • Is it possible that…
    • I don't like to tell others what I think is going on with them or what I think they should do
    • This feels very dishonoring
  • I felt disrespected, and if I responded, then I was that person
  • It didn't allow for a dialogue, or for me to have a voice in this situation
  • With my clients and friends I often ask, "How did that land with you?"
  • I want to invite dialogue when there are bumps
  • When we're talking about uncomfortable things, we need to have open communication
  • I was ejected from the Mastermind and the closed fb group
  • The facilitator of the mastermind told me he didn't think I was a good fit for the group and dropped me without giving me a heads up or discussing it with me
  • I was blindsided
  • I didn't have a chance to download files from the group since I thought I'd be in the group until the end of the year
  • I would have wanted to be part of the decision or be part of the discussion
  • It's not uncommon for us to think about what we may have said or done to cause this to happen—it's NOT about me
  • How do I figure out how to process through this?
  • Brene Brown's podcast Unlocking Us—
    • It's very negating and it doesn't give us a voice when someone oversteps and does not apologize
  • I'm not sorry; I don't regret what I shared
  • I have a right to my opinion, to my feelings
  • In order for us to continue to share vulnerability with others, they need to have the capacity to be present for us
  • I need you to hear me; you need to get where I'm coming from.
  • You don't have to agree with me
  • You need to be willing to look at what I'm saying
  • If you can't meet me where I'm at, then that doesn't work for me
  • In the past, I would have made this about me—I did something wrong. I didn't. I'm really clear about that
  • We can check—is the person hearing me, seeing me, and are they willing to work through bumps with us
  • COVID-19 is testing all of us, and many of us are at our limit
  • The themes I'm seeing this week include
    • Loneliness
    • Irritability
    • Wanting things to go back to normal but there isn't a new normal
    • Feeling like we've had enough
    • We want a sense of safety and comfort and unity
  • Brene Brown's podcast episode on overfunctioning and underfunctiong
    • Who can I trust
    • Who's in charge?
  • I don't like when decisions are made without me being involved
  • I am a safe person and I create safety around me
  • I choose who to be vulnerable with and who I'm not going to be vulnerable with
  • We choose how much we're going to give to people
  • This is where we take our power back
  • I anticipate I will feel grief and sadness
  • When we start talking about things, it allows old feelings to surface
  • If we allow the discomfort to come up, we get to feel it, and we heal it. It moves through us
  • It's ok to be a feeling person
  • We don't want dead guy goals of not feeling
  • How do we lean into it and embrace it
  • Can we just allow it—whatever comes up
  • Do we go into a collapse mode?
  • If you are getting messages about it not being ok how you're showing up in the world
  • Relationships are going to be more tenuous right now with COVID
  • How can you empower yourself if someone isn't meeting your needs?
  • Being in relationship means there's room for a back-and-forth to work on things
  • It's not going to be perfect
  • How do we pace with others?
  • If we want more engagement in relationships with others, we can be mindful of the pacing and match the energy of who we're with
  • Many relationships have shifted during COVID because some people are more available, and some people are less available

PODCAST HOST

Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, truthteller and black sheep. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren't alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us

LINKS

Brene Brown's podcast Unlocking Us Anxiety, Calm over/under functioning--https://brenebrown.com/podcast/brene-on-anxiety-calm-over-under-functioning/

Brene Brown's podcast Unlocking Us with Harriet Lerner I'm sorry. How to apologize and why it matters--https://brenebrown.com/podcast/harriet-lerner-and-brene-im-sorry-how-to-apologize-why-it-matters/

Bonus episode 43—I want more; you want less. How to navigate competing needs in relationships https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/bonus-episode-43/

HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

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Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com

Meetup-- https://www.meetup.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-Meetup/

Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/

Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/

Closed/Private Facebook group for therapists and healers-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/208565440423641/

Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/

Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber

e-mail-- [email protected]

Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive

Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

TITLE

Is What I'm Experiencing Right Now Normal?

GUEST

Laura Reagan, LCSW-C

EPISODE OVERVIEW

We're all going through something traumatic; This doesn't mean we are all traumatized. Laura Reagan, host of Therapy Chat Podcast, and a trauma therapist, talks about our innate threat response system; what it looks like, and what types of movement can be helpful based on our trauma response. We talk about attachment ruptures, wanting to feel safe, messages we may have received about our bodies, and self-compassion. Laura talks about indicators to assess if we need to seek help.

HIGHLIGHTS

• We are all going through something traumatic
• That doesn't mean we're all traumatized
• Humans are animals, and we have an innate threat response system
  • Fight
  • Flight
  • Freeze
  • Submit
  • Attach Cry
  • If we're feeling angry, we're probably in fight
  • If we want to escape, we're probably in flight
  • If we're experiencing agitation, anxiety, feeling stuck, we're probably in freeze
  • If we're pushing through and carrying on, we're in submit
  • If we are wanting help, then we may be in attach cry
• We may be wanting to numb by using substances, the internet, comfort eating
• Some people who have recovered from eating disorders, or other disorders may be concerned that they are relapsing due to shifts in behaviors
• If we've gained weight, we need to have self-compassion. We may be worrying about having a new problem if we've gained extra weight
• Our moods may be up and down, calm, accepting, freaking out, jumping out of our skin, sadness, loss, irritability, lack of focus, lethargy
• We may feel a need to compare our situation to others, which can negate our experience
• We may be missing our connection with friends, family members, parents
• Those people who have loved ones in hospitals, care facilities, nursing homes, may be experiencing loss and grief since they can't visit them
• We may be experiencing attachment ruptures
• Our attachment narrative may come up
• We want to feel that we're going to be safe
• We can do that for each other
• We can allow conversations about how we're really doing
• Loving and gentle movement is really important
• If we're stuck/frozen, we may need to curl up with a cozy blanket and cocoon for now. When we're ready, we can do stretching, or exercises that are low to the ground
• If we're agitated, anxious, irritable, we can do jumping jacks, kick boxing, jump rope, running
• Dancing is a great way to calm the body
• We may be experiencing more self-criticism—sometimes this is how we distract from the pain
• Many of us got the message that our bodies are right, and that they need to be different
• We may use food if we have attachment injuries
• Self-compassion is SO important
• Carl Rogers said, "The curious paradox is that, when I accept myself as I am, then I can change."
• You might have a trauma history and not be aware of it
  • Having a mother who was depressed
  • Witnessing domestic violence, pushing, shoving, hitting
  • You might be having a hard time coping now because past trauma is being activated
• Unresolved grief may be activated
• There are many support groups for grief, eating disorders, substance abuse, partial hospitalization programs, therapy, coaching
• Indicators you may want to seek help
  • Difficulty with sleep—falling asleep, staying asleep, nightmares
  • If you have an eating disorder, old behaviors may start surfacing
  • If you have a history of substance abuse—having the urge to use again. There are online 12-step programs
  • Depressive symptoms
    • feeling sad, and not being able to shake it off
    • not getting out of bed for a few days
    • can't work
    • not able to engage in your primary relationships with your partner or children
    • feeling suicidal—call the National Suicide Prevention Hotline 1-800-273-8255
  • You may need help short-term to help with functioning
  • If you feel like you shouldn't ask for help, or you shouldn't need help
  • Often trauma hits after the traumatic experience is over
  • PTSD—recurrent depression, depressing thoughts, intrusive thoughts, dreams
  • The sooner you address PTSD, the better the outcome

GUEST BIO

Laura Reagan, LCSW-C is an integrative trauma therapist and owner of the Baltimore Annapolis Center for Integrative Healing in Severna Park, Maryland. She uses mindfulness, expressive arts and Sensorimotor Psychotherapy in her work with adults who have experienced childhood trauma. She offers clinical supervision in Maryland and clinical consultation online and in person. Her practice website is: https://bahealing.com. Laura is also the host of Therapy Chat podcast, which focuses on trauma, attachment, relationships, self compassion, perfectionism, mindfulness and complementary and alternative approaches to psychotherapy. Therapy Chat can be heard anywhere podcasts are found and at https://therapychatpodcast.com.

PODCAST HOST

Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, truthteller and black sheep. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren't alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us

LINKS

Laura's links

Twitter--https://twitter.com/lauralcswc

Twitter----https://twiter.com/therapychatpod

Instagram: @lauralcswc and @therapychatpod

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lauralcswc/

Facebook--https://www.facebook.com/TherapyChatPod/

Facebook--https://www.facebook.com/Traumatherapyconsulting/

Heather Tuba Trauma Informed Support for Parnters of Survivors--https://heathertuba.com/

Kristen Neff--https://self-compassion.org/

Patricia's links

HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

To write a review in itunes:

1. click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2
2. select "listen on Apple Podcasts"
3. chose "open in itunes"
4. choose "ratings and reviews"
5. click to rate the number of starts
6. click "write a review"

Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com

Meetup-- https://www.meetup.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-Meetup/

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Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/

Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber

e-mail-- [email protected]

Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive

Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

TITLE

Flourishing As A Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) During Times of Stress

GUEST

Alane Freund, MS, MA, LMFT

EPISODE OVERVIEW

During times of stress, the Highly Sensitive Person can fare better than the other 80% when we cultivate environments that help us flourish, as well as being mindful about what we consume. Overstimulation can look like anxiety, and HSPs can be misdiagnosed with anxiety & depression. Alane talks about optimal levels of stimulation, and she believes that prevention for anxiety is the key. She shares what she does to prevent anxiety. Alane also provides more than 15 resources for HSPs.

HIGHLIGHTS

• For teens and men, we can refer to being an HSP as having a finely tuned nervous system or having a highly reactive brain
• There are 1.6 Billion Highly Sensitive People
• Anxiety comes from overstimulation
• The #1 treatment for anxiety is prevention
• We need to learn what brings on anxiety
• We want to find our optimal level of arousal
• Research studies show that Rhesus monkeys who had higher reactive brains did better when assigned to a Rhesus monkey who was a skilled mother. These monkeys became leaders.

• • The reactive baby monkeys who were assigned to less skilled mothers had higher incidences of sickness and injury
• Highly Sensitive Children who encounter stressors (marital conflict, shame, etc.) have higher incidences of illness and injury
• For those 80% of children who don't have the trait, andare exposed to stress, most had a flat line meaning they were almost not impacted by stressors at all
• When a Highly Sensitive Child (HSC) has a parent or caregiver who assists the child in managing stressors, those HSCs have better outcomes and are much less likely to have problems compared to children without the trait exposed to the same stressors
• Those HSCs that have many stressors (or high stress) in their environments are more likely to experience illness or injuries, including adult anxiety or depression.
• However, HSPs and HSCs are more responsive to intervention and treatment than the 80% who are not sensitive
• Many HSCs tend to be more articulate, have a keen sense of humor, they get along well with adults (mini-adults)
• • They can also be late bloomers, and slow developers due to DOES
• DOES—4 Core Characteristics Dr. Elaine Aron Identified
• • D—depth of processing
  • O—Overarousal or Overstimulation
  • E—Emotional Responsiveness/Empathy
  • S—Sensitive to Subtle Stimuli
• It's not uncommon for HSPs to be diagnosed with depression & anxiety. To the outside observer, what is depth of processing and being thoughtful or becoming overaroused may be misinterpreted as depression and/or anxiety
• Children need an adult who gets them and understands them (not a parent)
• Every little bit of good stuff we got in childhood, we use moving forward
• During challenging times, HSPs fare better. We process and we know what's needed
• We need to help young girls feel better about themselves
• We provide emotional leadership in our families and communities. Our species needs this to thrive
• We need to find ways to discharge what we are processing
• • Journaling can be very helpful
  • Extroverts may choose to process verbally
• Overstimulation looks like anxiety, which can become a habit. On the continuum is stress on one end and panic attacks on the other end
• What can we do to prevent the climb up the scale
• Prevention for anxiety is the key
• Who knows what it is for you—you know the truth; you see the truth
• Suggestions:
• • Meditate 2x/day

• • • Meditation is not optional for HSPs
    • We need to revisit spirituality
  • Exercise (until you sweat) daily
  • Take a sip of water every 15-20 minutes
  • Close your eyes to reduce overstimulation and to reset (80% of stimulation comes in visually)
• Boredom is understimulation—you need to do something to alleviate the boredom
• It's important to find the optimal level of stimulation (not over or under stimulation)—good luck with this one! Alane says to call her if you need help figuring this out.
• If you think you're an HSP and take the adult version of the test, but don't score in the range, take the child's version of the test and think back to when you were a child and what you remember hearing about yourself
• When it's hard; it's hard--lean into the hard and let it be until you can remember to do self-care
• We need to read, especially fiction with a good plot as another way to rest our minds
• Alane suggests audiobooks because they can be soothing without getting overstimulated. A few of her suggestions are listed under resources
• HSPs do best when they participate in good therapy or coaching
• Our planet is healing with this pandemic
• Opposite Reframe: The world is upside down right now, so "What is right side up?"
• The importance of breath
• • Bellows breath
  • Pranyama Breathing/Alternate nostril breathing
• Practice doing a hard style plank where you tense your core for 5-10 seconds, which can interrupt anxiety (and you can do this sitting in your chair or standing as well)
• Practice a Loving Kindness Meditation
• • When we pray or meditate for others it eases our anxiety
• HSPs can find it difficult to pray for or focus on ourselves, so start with loving kindness for others. Our empathy makes this easier.
• Codependency is NOT the same as empathy
• We can have loving detachment and care for others
• Your caring for others does not have to be at the risk or detriment of caring for yourself
• It's important that we take care of ourselves—we are the vessel
• We are the emotional leaders
• We need to protect the sensitive children
• • We can stop others from shaming them for having feelings; they are the ones who will change the world

GUEST BIO

Alane Freund, MS, MA, LMFT, (Lic. #36077) has helped adults, youth, and families focus on solutions through psychotherapy and consultation over three decades in the mental health field. An International Consultant on High Sensitivity (ICHS) working closely with Dr. Elaine Aron, Ms. Freund has developed and implemented programs for highly sensitive people, children, families, and clinicians who serve them. She also holds Masters' degrees in clinical psychology and school counseling. Ms. Freund specializes in family therapy and education with and about highly sensitive people and LGBTQ+ families. A skilled facilitator and therapist, an HSP herself, and the parent of a highly sensitive young adult, she teaches workshops, offers consultation, has a twice monthly Are You Highly Sensitive LIVE Q&A webinar, and leads groups and retreats, including the HSPs & Horses™ retreats at Heart and Mind Equine in Northern California with Elaine Aron, PhD (CEs offered). Ms. Freund is an instructor at retreat centers, Kripalu in Massachusetts and 1440 Multiversity in California, as well as teaching at the California Institute for Psychotherapy and the California Institute of Integral Studies in California. She can be reached for consultation or referrals through her website, alanefreund.com.

PODCAST HOST

Patricia knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, truthteller, and black sheep. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation and compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren't alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, and creating a lifestyle that honors us

LINKS

Alane's Links

This is a live (on Zoom) panel I led with some other members of the International Consultants on High Sensitivity (Elaine Aron's hand-selected and trained consultants.) There are even more videos, so you can subscribe to Alane Freund LMFT on You Tube to see more.

Are You Highly Sensitive LIVE…a twice a month live webinar for Q&A with highly sensitive people and parents raising highly sensitive children. For every webinar, members get to ask questions (ahead of time or live), and I do my best to answer them! We are building a really lovely community at areyouhighlysensitive.com. Listeners of the podcast will get 50% off their first month if you type in the discount code: OFFERUS

Website for therapy, speaking, consultation: alanefreund.com

Facebook

Alane Freund

Alane Freund LMFT

Understanding the Highly Sensitive Child and Teen

Heart and Mind Equine

I am an admin of Elaine Aron and High Sensitivity Facebook group which I invite you all to join. I recommend you say "referred by Alane Freund in the questions to join so you are accepted more readily.

Instagram @alanefreundlmft

Bellows breath-- https://chopra.com/articles/how-and-why-to-perform-bhastrika-breath

10 minute Yoga with Adrienne-- https://www.google.com/search?q=10+minute+yoga+with+adrienne&rlz=1C1CHBF_enUS843US843&oq=10+minute+yoga+with+adrienne&aqs=chrome..69i57j0l5.6818j0j9&sourceid=chrome&ie=UTF-8

Sun Salutation Yoga with Adrienne--https://www.google.com/search?q=yoga+with+adrienne+sun+salutation&rlz=1C1CHBF_enUS843US843&oq=yoga+with+adrienne+sun+salutation&aqs=chrome..69i57j0l4.4621j0j7&sourceid=chrome&ie=UTF-8

Pranyama Breathing-- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=395ZloN4Rr8

Hard Style Plank Tense Core-- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4jTOit8PkVY

Loving Kindness Meditation-- https://self-compassion.org/guided-self-compassion-meditations-mp3-2/

Movie—Sensitive: The Untold Story

Dr. Elaine Aron's website--https://hsperson.com/

Pema Chodrin-- https://pemachodronfoundation.org/product-category/products/

Linda Graham—Bouncing Back-- https://lindagraham-mft.net/

Eve Decker Blog—Loving Kindness https://evedecker.com/lovingkindness/

Ted Zeff—Strong Sensitive Boy http://drtedzeff.com/

Chief Inspector Gamache Louise Penny Series-- https://www.gamacheseries.com/about/

Harry Potter series-- https://www.wizardingworld.com/discover/books

Outlander—series http://www.dianagabaldon.com/books/outlander-series/

Patricia's Links

HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

To write a review in itunes:

1. click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2
2. select "listen on Apple Podcasts"
3. chose "open in itunes"
4. choose "ratings and reviews"
5. click to rate the number of starts
6. click "write a review"

Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com

Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/

Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/

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Meetup-- https://www.meetup.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-Meetup/

e-mail-- [email protected]

Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive

Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

TITLE

Our Need For Comfort & Support

GUEST

Solo episode

EPISODE OVERVIEW

Many of us are craving comfort, security and a sense of connection. During uncertain times (like COVID-19), I'm seeing themes emerging, and many people are wanting a sense of normalcy and a return to the familiar. I'm hearing about stress in relationships, and people may not be showing up for us the way we want them to, or how they did pre-COVID. I talk about a number of ways we can create nurturing for ourselves.

HIGHLIGHTS

• During COVID-19 we may be experiencing
  • Increased irritability
  • Increased restlessness
  • Comparative suffering (from Brene Brown)
  • Increased self-criticism
  • Increased negative self-talk
  • Feeling that whatever we do is not enough
  • Having a day where we don't function well (or at all)
  • Decreased patience for technical problems
  • Not getting enough time to rest and recharge
• Our need (desire) for unconditional love
• Attachment wounds may be surfacting
• We may be experiencing grief and loss
• We want normalcy and routines that we experienced pre-COVID
• We may be experiencing more hyper vigilance
• We may be having to make hard decisions and setting hard boundaries
• Things we can do for self care
  • Loving moving/joyful movement
  • Finding routine and structure
  • Being mindful about what we are consuming (media, who we follow)
  • Connection and support from people who understand us
  • Creativity—crafts, love notes, puzzles
  • Time outdoors
  • Time with pets
• Everyone gets to decide what works for them

PODCAST HOST

Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, truthteller and black sheep. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren't alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us

LINKS

HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

To write a review in itunes:

1. click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2
2. select "listen on Apple Podcasts"
3. chose "open in itunes"
4. choose "ratings and reviews"
5. click to rate the number of starts
6. click "write a review"

Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com

Meetup-- https://www.meetup.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-Meetup/

Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/

Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/

Closed/Private Facebook group for therapists and healers-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/208565440423641/

Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/

Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber

e-mail-- [email protected]

Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive

Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com