Unapologetically Sensitive

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A Therapist Talks About Her Anxiety After Taking the Online HSP Course

GUEST

Maria—Licensed Therapist

EPISODE OVERVIEW

Maria, a Licensed Therapist, talks about her experience with her anxiety after participating in the Online HSP Course. Maria has chosen to remain anonymous since she shares her mental health diagnoses and how it has impacted her, and how she has felt having this diagnosis. Maria shares some of the things she learned from taking the Course and how it impacted her.

PODCAST HOST

Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW), and is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).

LINKS

Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com

Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/

Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/

Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/

Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber

e-mail-- [email protected]

Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive

Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

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20+ Ways to Practically Manage Change & Loss Throughout The Holidays

GUEST

Jill Johnson-Young, LCSW

EPISODE OVERVIEW

Loss & change encompasses jobs, education, career, moving, illness, disability, relationships, pets, birth, adoption, coming out, learning you didn't have an ideal childhood and the obvious, death. Jill provides concrete examples of how we can set boundaries, create new traditions, and so much more! Jill talks about the importance of keeping memories alive, and ways we can honor those we've lost (included our 4-legged family members), and she gives examples of how to help a partner talk about their losses.

HIGHLIGHTS

• During times of grief, stress, loss, change, etc. it is very likely that we will become MORE sensitive, and possibly reactive, and we may have a harder time managing. This is very normal, and it is to be expected.
• We need to have even more gentleness and self-compassion during these times
• Grief includes, losses, disenfranchised losses, hopes, dreams, change—it is so much more than just death

How to manage those losses:

• awareness of them at the holidays, and finally
• wrap up with death related loss

WHAT OTHER LOSSES ARE THERE AT THE HOLIDAYS?

THESE WERE MENTIONED:

• 'I think that the holidays bring out a lot of grief for everyone…'
• SUBSTANCE ABUSE AT THE TABLE OR THE TREE
  • The drunk relative that nobody wants to be around,
  • The opioid epidemic
  • Folks drinking to cope with anxiety of functions or the stress of holidays
• FAMILY ISSUES THAT SHOW UP RATHER THAN HALLMARK: when we feel more like we belong in the land of the lost toys, not by a fireplace waiting for Santa with our dog named Spot
• A dysfunctional family
• Grief when your family isn't large like everybody else's
• Grief because you've chosen not to be a part of your immediate family because of the toxicity in it
• Grieving the family you THOUGHT you had...
  • and about how to connect with them despite awareness of emotional neglect due to your high sensitivity.
  • Feeling concerned with the upcoming holidays with the new awareness of how your family relates emotionally... it all suddenly feels so superficial.

FINANCIAL STRESS AMPLIFIED BY THE HOLIDAYS

• Grief because you don't have enough money for presents
• Grief because you don't have enough food,
• Those issues can cause some of us to avoid holiday get togethers because we can't afford them
  • that might include employee events

DISENFRANCHISED LOSSES:

• Those that have experienced recent breakups, and this is their first thanksgiving or Holiday without their partner.
• Pets
• Moving
• Retiring
• Lost friendships
• Marriage
• Divorce
• Illness
• Disability especially recently
• Partner who is disabled or have cognitive issues

ONE THING I DO FOR GRIEVERS PRIOR TO THE HOLIDAYS IS PREPARE THEM FOR THE IMPACT:

• EXPECTATIONS- FALSE OR REAL OR SELF IMPOSED, INCLUDING NEEDING TO RECREATE WHAT WAS BEFORE A LOSS
  • grief when everybody else posts the holiday party pictures, or you are looking at old social media posts- when things were different
  • Shopping, advertising, holiday mailers - the temptation to overspend to make up for what is missing
  • The belief that if you focus on the holidays and what it should provide, you will have some type of relief, but most of the time it doesn't work
  • The belief that others don't experience grief and you feel loneliness

• EXPECTATIONS THAT YOU WILL FEEL HAPPY OR LIGHTER
  • You might at times, but if you have had a recent loss or have an unresolved loss it will travel with you to holiday events
  • The mix of joy and sadness is normal, but hard to manage unless you are ready for it, and you can balance your energy, and give yourself permission to not participate or to limit time spent out
  • Practicing using the positive to create balance- plans for the year coming, remembering the good moments of past holidays or this season
  • If you can hold the opposite of both emotions it affects how your brain reacts to it so a lot of times when we feel sad as a family then we try to balance it out by looking at what's great or what we're happy for… We find that helpful during the holidays.
  • For HSP folks, one person suggested that being able to feel grief and joy at the same time neutralizes some of the wounding that has happened in the past.

DEATH RELATED LOSS AND HOLIDAYS

• Fear of death infringing on happy moments because we are aware of the potential of someone dying
• Managing grief from deaths at the holiday,
  • deaths associated with that time of season by proximity
  • deaths that happened recently.
• Experiencing grief because you've lost someone in the past, especially if it is not a relationship you have finished
• Anticipating someone close to you dying—even if they are in good health
  • The fear that you will be overwhelmed with their death
  • The fear that you won't be able to cope
  • The fear that you will become so depressed, that you can't get out of it
• We talk about carrying that person in our heart moving forward, and if possible having these conversations NOW while the person is still alive (if appropriate)
  • We have all managed loss
  • We have more tools that we remember we do
  • We will feel sad, and we will manage
  • We can get extra support, counseling, therapy, coaching, join groups

We all need death and dying education. It is necessary so we can know what we see, and that we can manage it when that time comes. We will all lose people we love to death-- that leaves only the option of being ready. That, in and of itself, helps ward off being caught unaware and thrown into depression. We know those who are ready and have reorganized before a death are the ones who will thrive afterward in their new life. Those who live a fear of death and will not prepare are the ones who do not fare well.

SO WHAT DO WE DO TO GET READY?

• Plan ahead
• Don't overspend
• Avoid stores if the input is too much, or too much of a reminder with a recent loss.
  • You can order everything, including groceries, online.
• Don't plan on every little activity.
  • Limit them
  • Limit time there
  • Take your own car
  • Look for an exit
  • Don't feel a need to explain
  • GRIEF CARD TIME
• SET BOUNDARIES. ESPECIALLY IF YOU ARE GRIEVING, YOU GET TO SET THEM.
• PRACTICE WHAT YOU WILL SAY TO THOSE CROSSING BOUNDARIES
• GIVE YOURSELF PERMISSION TO CHANGE IT UP!
  • Take a vacation instead of doing what you traditionally do
  • Invite new friends over
  • Choose to celebrate on a different day, or someone new
• DON'T INCLUDE THOSE WHO DO NOT FEEL GOOD IN YOUR SPACE
• DO INCLUDE THOSE YOU HAVE LOST- PEOPLE, PETS
• IF THERE IS AN ANNIVERSARY AT THE HOLIDAYS?
  • MARK IT
  • PLAN AHEAD
• REMEMBER THERE IS MORE THAN THANKSGIVING AND CHRISTMAS/HANUKKAH/KWANZA-
• NEW YEAR'S IS EVEN WORSE
  • TV COVERAGE OF THOSE WHO DIED- BUT OUR SPECIAL PEOPLE AND PETS ARE NOT ON THAT LIST, ARE THEY?
• WRITE DOWN WHAT WORKS
• WHAT FELT GOOD
• WHAT YOU MIGHT WANT TO DO DIFFERENTLY.
  • THAT MEANS JOURNAL DAILY. YOU WILL NOT REMEMBER
  • GRATITUDE JOURNAL TO SET YOUR MINDFRAME
  • EXERCISE AS YOU ARE ABLE
  • SUNSHINE
  • POSITIVE INPUT- EXAMPLE: MT RUBIDIOUX, NOT THE FESTIVAL IF YOU DO NOT WANT CROWDS, OR THE FESTIVAL LATE AT NIGHT WITH A FRIEND TO SEE THE LIGHTS, BUT NOT THE CROWDS.
• Wolfenoot - It's pronounced Wolf-a-noot according to Buzzfeed, and takes place on November 23rd. (If you wish to celebrate, you should be prepared for the Spirit of the Wolf to visit your home. This Spirit will hide and leave behind gifts for you, your children and, of course, dogs. The people who treat canines kindly get better presents than those who don't, but this gift-giver doesn't seem to penalize people who are just kind of indifferent to animals. We aren't sure if the Spirit of the Wolf leaves presents for cats.

On Wolfenoot, you will celebrate by eating roasted meats, because meat is a dog's favorite food, and a cake decorated like a full moon because dogs like to howl sometimes.) (If you're a vegetarian, or a vegan, you obviously adjust so that this fits with your values and beliefs)

It feels like a nice way to change the tone-- to be grateful and thank our furry friends in any way you choose. It was created by a child in New Zealand, around the concept of kindness.

For the holidays, coping with grief is about being Gumby. Bend, Flex, Change it up. Make it work for you.

WAYS TO GENERATE CONVERSATION

• Is there someone you've had in your world that has died that you want to include in our blessing, or holiday tradition(s)
• Tell me about your pets? Tell me who they were
• What part of that person is always going to be a part of you?
• What lessons did you learn?
• Who were they for you?
• How did they impact your life?

GUEST BIO

Jill Johnson-Young, LCSW is a dynamic and engaging speaker who loves teaching both professional and community groups about dementia, death and dying, and grief and loss. She is the CEO of Central Counseling Services in Riverside, California, where she is also a clinical therapist. She is a certified Grief Recovery Facilitator after spending more than a decade with hospice as a medical social worker and as a director of social workers, chaplains and grief staff. She holds a BA from UC Riverside and her MSW from the University of South Florida. Jill has authored three children's grief books and an adult grief workbook with more in process, and created Your Path Through Grief, a year-long, comprehensive grief support program which includes resources for therapists.

PODCAST HOST

Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).

LINKS

Jill' Links

Website-- www.yourpaththroughgrief.com, https://www.facebook.com/grieftalker/

Facebook--https://www.facebook.com/Riversidedementiasupport/,

LinkedIn--https://www.linkedin.com/in/jilljohnsonyoung/.

My pet is sick: It's time to say goodbye by Jill Johnson-Young

Someone is sick: How do I say Goodbye? By Jill Johnson-Young

Someone I love just died: What happens now? By Jill Johnson-Young

Your own path through grief; A workbook for your journey to recovery by Jill Johnson-Young

Amazon link for Jill's books-- https://www.amazon.com/Jill-A.-Johnson-Young-LCSW/e/B07NPT5NYQ%3Fref=dbs_a_mng_rwt_scns_share

Leo Buscaglia-- http://www.buscaglia.com/biography

Leo Buscaglia YouTube—How to Love and be Loved-- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j8tw9ontdc0

Wolfenoot-- https://www.nzherald.co.nz/lifestyle/news/article.cfm?c_id=6&objectid=12136886

Patricia's Links

Bonus Episode 21 : I lost my sh*t, and it's not about the gravy https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/unapologetically-sensitive-bonus-episode-21/

Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com

Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/

Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/

Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/

Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber

e-mail-- [email protected]

Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive

Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

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Dog Whisperer Liz Murdoch Talks to My Dog Gracie, Who Has a Message for the Highly Sensitive Person, aka HSP

GUEST

Liz Murdoch

EPISODE OVERVIEW

Liz Murdoch, Dog Whisperer, and host of the podcast Talking With The Dogs, talks with my dog Gracie. Liz (and Gracie) help me understand some behaviors that have confused me. I had some expectations about what Gracie would say, and I needed time to process this interview. Liz had some spot-on insights, and at the end of interview I share how this has impacted our family. I worry about how I will manage when Gracie eventually dies, and Gracie had a message for me about that, and Liz provides a reassuring perspective about dogs that have crossed over.

HIGHLIGHTS

• My expectations about what I thought Gracie would say, impacted this episode
• I talk about this a bit in the beginning, and more at the end of the episode
• Liz was able to communicate with animals when she was very young
• Liz talks about how she became involved in animal communication as she got older
• Liz has trained a dog when she was a child, and she won a blue ribbon amongst adults who were competing
• Liz had a car accident with resulting in a head injury, and she wanted train a therapy dog to help other people
• She was able to have her dog certified as a Therapy Dog with Pet Partners, which is not easy to do
• Liz only saw a picture of Gracie, and I held her up to camera on my laptop, but other than that, she had NO information about Gracie
• Liz talks to Gracie to find out what she likes
• Gracie communicates to me about her dog food (which is a special diet since she's allergic to most foods)
• Gracie would like to talk about cats if she had a podcast, and Gracie LOVES cats, but they don't know she wouldn't harm a fly
• Gracie gives some information initially that we circle back to that has to do with how my grown son interacts with her (and she doesn't like it)
• At the end of the interview, I talk about what has happened re: how my son now interacts with Gracie
• Liz identifies one of Gracie's favorite things to play with
• Gracie tells Liz what she prefers in the home in terms of activity and movement
• Liz identifies that Gracie doesn't see well and that it impacts her thinking (she also has seizures, and she's blind—and only has one eye)
• Liz does a body scan on Gracie and finds something I believe she had, but the vet didn't see it
• Liz talks about what she's learned from dogs that have crossed over, and I was surprised (and relieved/pleased) to hear this
• Gracie had a message for me about my worry about her dying (and it's a very mindful message)
• Liz mentions shampoo (the groomer just used a different shampoo, which led to a very expensive vet bill with antibiotics and all kinds of testing due to the reaction she had)
• I ask why Gracie doesn't bark when she gets stuck somewhere or the door is closed, and her answer surprises me

GUEST BIO

Liz Murdoch has been a true dog whisperer for most of her life. She first discovered this special skill when she was in kindergarten, and then further honed it throughout her life, winning awards in dog training and becoming certified to do animal assisted therapy with patients of all ages. A veteran volunteer with rescue organizations, Liz is happiest when translating what dogs and other animals want their people to know. She hosts the podcast, Talking with the dogs! and is available for private chat sessions, special events, and speaking engagements.

PODCAST HOST

Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).

LINKS

Liz's Links

Twitter @talkingwithdogs

FB https://www.facebook.com/talkingwiththedogsshow/

Instagram https://instagram.com/talkingwiththedogs

Pinterest @withthedogs

LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/elizabethmurdoch/

Patricia's Links

Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com

Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/

Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/

Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/

Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber

e-mail-- [email protected]

Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive

Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

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It's Just a Cookie—Health At Every Size (HAES)

GUEST

Marielle Berg, MFT

EPISODE OVERVIEW

Marielle Berg, MFT, host of the podcast It's Just a Cookie, talks about fat phobic language, body shaming, weight stigma and the false belief that body size is an indicator of psychological and emotional health. Marielle talks about the challenges of healthism, and labeling foods as healthy/unhealthy, which can result in compensatory eating. Marielle talks about the importance of having satisfaction and pleasure when eating, and learning to ask, "What am I hungry for?" We also talk about joyful movement vs. exercise and why this shift can be transformational.

HIGHLIGHTS

• Our culture uses fat-phobic language
• We discuss body shaming
• The language we use—fat overweight or people in larger bodies
• Often body size is used as an indicator of psychological or emotional health
• 98% of people who lose weight gain it back; if it was just about the weight, this number wouldn't be so high
• Gaining weight is not necessarily due to poor self-esteem or trauma
• If dieting worked, we'd be thin by now
• 12-step programs talk about eating as a spiritual problem
• Compensatory eating is a reaction to restricting foods
• Healthism talks about what is healthy or not healthy. Some foods are off limits which can lead to compensatory eating
• In the therapy world often a fat client is infantilized, and it is organized around need and intake
• There is a false belief that we are all meant to be thin
• It's ok to get comfort from food—maybe that's chicken soup or birthday cake. Either is acceptable
• We need to ditch the diet mentality
• We want to look at intuitive eating
• With food, we want permission, satisfaction and pleasure
• How hungry am I?
• What am I hungry for?
• Intuitive eating is a process
• We want to look at joyful movement vs. exercise
• If you're interviewing a therapist or a nutritionist you want to ask
  • Is it weight loss or weight management
  • How do they feel about weight loss
  • You want someone who has a weight neutral point of view
  • You might want someone who is certified in intuitive eating

GUEST BIO

Marielle Berg is a psychotherapist and a coach who works with people healing from eating disorders, disorder eating and body shame through a Health at Every Size and Intuitive Eating lens.

PODCAST HOST

Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).

LINKS

Marielle's Links

www.cookierevolution.org

www.bayareadbtcc.com

Podcasts—

Food Psych https://christyharrison.com/foodpsych

Dieticians Unplugged https://dietitiansunplugged.libsyn.com/

It's Just a Cookie https://cookierevolution.org/podcast/

https://benourished.org

https://www.intuitiveeating.org/

Books--

Health at Every Size: The Surprising Truth about Your Weight by Linda Bacon

Fat Acceptance

Anti-Diet: Reclaim Your Time, Money, Well-Being, and Happiness Through Intuitive Eating by Christy Harrison, MPH, RD

Body Respect: What Conventional Health Books Get Wrong, Leave Out, and Just Plain Fail to Understand about Weight by Linda Bacon and Lucy Aphramore

Intuitive Eating by Evelyn Tribole & Elyse Resch

Patricia's Links

Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com

Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/

Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/

Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/

Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber

e-mail-- [email protected]

Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive

Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

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Ten Ways We Can Thrive As A Highly Sensitive Person, aka HSP

Special 1 Year Podcast Anniversary Episode

GUEST

Solo Episode

EPISODE OVERVIEW

On the One Year Anniversary of this podcast launching, I talk about 10 different ways that I have grown, and how this relates to being a Highly Sensitive Person, aka HSP. I talk about perfectionism, being of service, naming things, asking for help & support, feeling the fear and being brave and courageous, authenticity, connecting, accepting challenges and living a fuller life. A special thank you to each and every listener!

HIGHLIGHTS

1. Embracing imperfection
2. Being of service
3. Naming things
4. Showing up when it's hard in a way that honors our needs
5. Asking for help and support
6. Feeling fear and being brave and courageous anyways
7. Expressing ourselves authentically and vulnerably
8. Connecting
9. Accepting challenges

• Living a fuller life

• What I've learned in this past year podcasting
• When we have a message to share, it is more important to get it out there, then to wait until it's perfect
• The world may never hear our message
• Done is better than perfect
• Naming things is one of the most powerful things we can do
• We let ourselves know that what's going on is important
• It creates room for change
• It allows for acceptance
• Often just showing up is enough—even when we don't feel like it
• If we've experienced Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN) or have parents who are Emotionally Immature, it may be harder to know that we're supposed to need help
• Interdependence is healthy
• It's ok to resist asking for help, and we can do it anyway
• We might be surprised by how much help we receive
• Feel the fear and do it anyway; this creates courage and being brave
• It can be scary allowing ourselves to be seen
• We may receive criticism or unsolicited feedback, but we may also get all kinds of amazing support
• We just need to show up and be ourselves; the people who are supposed to be in our lives will be attracted to us
• It's normal to compare ourselves with others. We can notice, and refocus on what we have to offer
• 30 day podcasting challenge changed my life
• NadPodPoMO—National Podcast Post Month with Jennifer Navarrete
• This is how I discovered doing bonus episodes
• This podcast is heard in 87 countries
• The goal was to have 50K downloads by 10/29. On 10/25, there are over 60K downloads
• I've released 105 episodes
• Thank you to my husband, Steve Young, my mom Judy Winkler, Laura Carr, Jen Perry, Dara Hoffman-Fox and Selma Bacevac

PODCAST HOST

Patricia Young works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).

LINKS

Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) Self-Test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/

NadPodPoMo-- https://www.startupssanantonio.com/want-to-launch-a-podcast-napodpomo-founder-jennifer-navarrete-says-do-it/

Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com

Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/

Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/

Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/

Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber

e-mail-- [email protected]

Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive

Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

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The Traits of Being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), and What It Means To Be Fully Integrated

GUEST

Jacquelyn Strickland, LPC

EPISODE OVERVIEW

Jacquelyn Strickland co-created the HSP Gathering Retreats with Dr. Elaine Aron in 2000, and she has worked exclusively with HSPs since then. Jacquelyn talks about the 4 Core Characteristics of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), and the differences between Highly Sensitive and non-Highly Sensitive introverts and extroverts, as well as the ambivert. Jaquelyn also talks about sensitivity as we age, and what it means to be fully integrated with a strong sense of self-identity as an HSP.

HIGHLIGHTS

• We discuss the term Highly Sensitive Person and Jacquelyn shares her thoughts about this name
• There are 1.4 Billion HSPs in the world and we all share these 4 core characteristics
• The 4 Core Characteristics of being a Highly Sensitive Person as coined by Dr. Elaine Aron
  • D—Depth of Processing
    • Elaine Aron feels that Depth of Processing is a key component for HSPs
    • Depth of processing happens in the pre-frontal cortex, so HSPs see breadth and depth of things around us
    • We reflect more than others on the way the world is going
    • We think about the meaning of life
    • We Wonder about the quality of relationships we're in
    • We're aware of social justice issues
  • O—Overarousal and Overstimulation
    • That feeling of being stressed out
    • Feeling burnt out
    • This may be the most negative thing HSPs experience since our current dominant culture is about doing
    • Chronic overstimulation can lead to depression and anxiety
  • E—Emotional Responsiveness and Empathy
    • We bring more emotional intensity and empathy in most every situation
    • There's a difference between emotional intensity and emotional reactivity
    • We can honor our emotional intensity—this is where we express our feelings in the arts, writing beautiful poems, people who show or speak passionately about they feel
    • We have more mirror neurons
  • S—Sensitive to Subtleties
    • We can notice when the barometric pressure is dropping
    • Some HSPs may have perfect pitch
    • We have more side effects to medications
    • We are usually sensitive to changes in temperature
    • We may notice the sound of a ticking clock or dripping water

• 70% of Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs) are introverts
• 30% of Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs) are extroverts
• There are 5 distinct groups we need to look at when talking about introversion and extroversion
  • HS introvert
  • HS extrovert
  • Non-HS introvert
  • Non-HS extrovert
  • Ambivert
• Jacquelyn also talks about the Myer's Briggs and what it means when scores on introversion or extroversion are high and low
• The concept of the battery being charged for extroverts and drained for introverts when they are around people is primarily talking about Non-HSPs
• A HS extrovert will enjoy being alone; will need time to recharge after extroverting, and will probably choose specific venues to socializing that are different than a Non-HS extrovert
• A HS extrovert needs to find the right amount of novel stimulation, to renew and recharge
• A HS extrovert may want to know who will be at the party (their political affiliation, what the activities will be; how long will the activity last) in order to see if it satisfies our HS needs
• As we get older, we may get more particular about where and how we choose to expend our energy and time
• We can be sensitive extroverts, or we can choose to introvert
• You can be a HS extrovert and still feel socially awkward or not always feel at ease in social situations
• Our depth of processing can make it challenging if we're reading the room, or we may go home and wonder if we talked too much or did things right
• If you feel uncomfortable in a social situation, it helps to have a role—volunteer to help; arrive early before it gets crowded
• When we worry about doing things right or following the rules it can make it harder for us to trust that how we show up is just right
• I thought I had social anxiety, was anxious, was an introvert, so I avoided social situations and felt depressed and lethargic. Turns out, I'm a Highly Sensitive Extrovert, which is why I'm so passionate about providing information to others who may read memes around introversion and mistakenly identify
• The ambivert doesn't have the DOES, but can choose whether to introvert or extrovert
• We want to be fully self-identified and integrated as HSPs regardless of whether we're an introvert or extrovert
• Once we get fully integrated with a strong sense of self-identify, when we've healed our wounds, when we've reframed our past, when we've got a plan of knowing when and how to be out in the world, we don't hide anymore.
• We talk about sensitivity and whether it increases as we age
• We discuss HSPs and social media
• We talk about the HSP retreats that Jacquelyn has been running and the benefits and unexpected gifts she's seen people get from these retreats
• We talk about some of the things that are unrelated to being an HSP that are often posted in groups, and then people identify and things that are not related to being an HSP get mistakenly attributed to being an HSP
• Jacquelyn acknowledges Dr. Elaine Aron's work and the fact that she's opened the doors for many people (myself included) to specialize in working with The Highly Sensitive Person
• Thank you Dr. Elaine Aron!

GUEST BIO

Jacquelyn has been a Licensed Professional Counselor since 1993, which is the same year she became certified to utilize the statistically valid & reliable Myers Briggs Personality Assessment. Her professional and personal lives took synchronistic detour when she stumbled across Elaine Aron's original work in May 1996 while waiting for a bus not far from where Elaine lives in Marin County, California. Since that time, Jacquelyn has devoted herself to empowering sensitive people around the world. She and Elaine co-created the HSP Gathering Retreats in 2001, and there have been 35 and counting HSP Gatherings, both nationally and internationally – in Canada, Germany, Sweden, United Kingdom, and on both U.S. coasts and in between. She is an Advanced HSP Consultant , one of 15 national & international HSP professionals trained by Elaine Aron in 2018 on the concept, measurement and research regarding of Sensory Processing Sensitivity and the highly sensitive person

Besides Elaine Aron, major influences which have informed Jacquelyn's work have been her background in Social Work, Women's Studies, Brene Brown, Eco Psychology & her Nature as Teacher & Healer experiences. She is fortunate to live in Colorado where she has been able to immerse herself in nature for days at a time over the last 30 years. She has recently added the title of Sage – and she teaches, mentors, and counsels not only with knowledge of our HSP trait, but also with decades of wisdom from living authentically as an HSP. Elaine talks of this stage as the Priestly Advisor. She has been married to a major introvert, non-HSP, since 1978 . Her relationship with someone so different than me is what prompted my study of temperaments, including the Myers Briggs and the Enneagram. She is the mother of two grown sons, one a HSP, and the grandmother of 3 grandchildren, ages 4, 2 and 1. Her oldest granddaughter is a sensitive extrovert, like her grandmother.

PODCAST HOST

Patricia Young works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).

LINKS

Jacquelyn's Links

Website-- LifeWorks! http://www.lifeworkshelp.com/

Stages of Cultural Awareness/Acceptance As An HSP--http://www.lifeworkshelp.com/HSP-Newsletter/stages-of-cultural-awareness-acceptance-as-an-hsp/

Top Ten Reasons to Have a HSP Dyad Parntership-- http://www.lifeworkshelp.com/HSP-Newsletter/top-ten-reasons-to-have-a-hsp-dyad-partnership/

Introversion, Extroversion and The Highly Sensitive Person--https://hsperson.com/introversion-extroversion-and-the-highly-sensitive-person/

HSP Highlights & Insights Ezine: Sign up Here-- http://www.lifeworkshelp.com/HSP-Newsletter/

You can like the HSP Gathering Retreat Facebook Page here:

http://www.lifeworkshelp.com/HSP-Newsletter/winter-2018-new-hsp-happenings-here-and-around-the-world/

The Artist's Way by Julia Cameron

Patricia's Links

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TITLE

Is It Social Anxiety, Introversion, Extroversion or The Traits of Being a Highly Sensitive Person, aka, HSP?

GUEST

Solo Episode

EPISODE OVERVIEW

Many Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) have experienced going into a social situation and getting overaroused and overstimulated. When we don't know about the trait of being an HSP, we just know it feels terrible, and we tend to avoid these situations. When we know about the trait of High Sensitivity, we can see what works for us, and tease out what doesn't work for us. We have the capacity to experience much more when we are able to understand exactly what we need in these situations.

HIGHLIGHTS

• Social Anxiety, introversion and the confusion with graphics/memes about introversion
• Anxiety, depression, social anxiety are real, and I'm not indicating that these are not real things that people struggle with
• I thought I had social anxiety and I thought I was an introvert
• Much of what is written about introversion (memes and graphics) also include the traits of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)
• When we mistakenly think we're introverts, we may be missing out on things, that we are able to tolerate and might actually enjoy
• Once we understand why we struggle, and we learn to interpret the sensations we're experiencing, we may realize that it's not social anxiety or anxiety
• We feel things strongly, and we want to have meaningful connections
• We may have experienced overstimulation when we were younger, but didn't realize what it was, and we paired it with the social situation, so we tend to avoid these things because we didn't understand
• Misconception about introverts and extroverts with the analogy of the battery. This may be true to NON-HSPS
• When we read about introversion and it includes the traits of being an HSP, but it doesn't say that, we may thing we need to avoid social situations, but it's not what we need
• We may go into a social situation and be unable to connect, but we inaccurately think some is wrong with us, but it may be that we are trying to connect with someone who has difficulty with deep connection
• We may tell ourselves that we can't connect because there's something wrong with us, but we may be trying to connect with others who don't connect easily
• With introversion, you want to look at the 4 Core Characteristics that Dr. Elaine Aron provides
  • Depth of Processing
    • We are deep thinkers and we don't do well with chit chat or small talk
  • Overarousal and Overstimulation
    • We take in so much information that we can get saturated very quickly
    • We notice things in the environment that others don't
    • We may need to be more mindful about how we use our energy when we go into social situations
  • Emotional Responsiveness and Empathy
    • We feel things deeply and we're going to be more emotionally impacted than non-HSPs
  • Sensitive to Subtleties
    • We notice non-verbal cues and other things when we interact
    • We can also be sensitive to bright lights, strong smells, loud noises
  • Even a Highly Sensitive Extrovert will most likely prefer a more quiet environment with a few friends, and then will need time to regenerate mand recharge
  • Highly Sensitive Extroverts need to find their sweet spot of getting enough stimulation.
  • When we withdraw thinking that's what we need, we may feel depressed or listless if we're a HS extrovert
  • We can manage in environments that are not HS friendly under the right circumstances
  • It's also not uncommon that as Highly Sensitive People, we may resist or not want to travel, but when we do, we find out we can manage much better than we think we can
  • There are so many ways we can work with our traits to manage overwhelm and overstimulation
  • It's an ongoing process and we need to work on it, but we can live fuller lives
  • When you see graphics about introversion, please check and see if they're talking a Highly Sensitive person
  • Jaquelyn Strickland talks about introverting and extroverting as a verb
  • These labels can put us in a box and limit us, or can free us up and give us more freedom about our traits

PODCAST HOST

Patricia Young works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).

LINKS

Introversion, Extroversion and the Highly Sensitive Person by Jaquelyn Strickland https://hsperson.com/introversion-extroversion-and-the-highly-sensitive-person/

Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com

Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/

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Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber

e-mail-- [email protected]

Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive

Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

TITLE

What is an Emotionally Immature Parent, & How to Identify a Healthy Relationship

GUEST

Lindsay Gibson, PsyD.

EPISODE OVERVIEW

Dr. Lindsay Gibson, author of Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, & Recovering from Emotionally Immature Parents explains what an emotionally immature parent is, and how this impacts their adult children. I talk about crying when I got overwhelmed when my kids were young, and Lindsay comments on this. We talk about how to establish good emotional ties with our children, and what constitutes good enough parenting, Lindsay provides nineteen qualities to identify what a healthy relationship looks like.

HIGHLIGHTS

• What is emotionally immaturity?
• Why is it important to understand it?
• What are the main characteristics of an emotionally immature parent?
• How do relationships with emotionally immature parents affect their children's lives?
• What are the main things to remember when dealing with emotionally immature parents?
• If you're dating, how do you pick a person who is emotionally mature?
• How do you identify what a healthy relationship looks like?
• What is our human Bill of Rights?
• We talk about repair work with parenting
• I share that I'd get really frustrated with my boys when they were young, and I'd cry because I didn't know what else to do
• Lindsay talks about how she views this
• We talk about the pressures of parenting
• Lindsay explains what good enough parenting is—which should be very reassuring to parents!
• I share about having a tantrum when my son had a tantrum and how it felt lousy afterward
• We'd do good repair work, but I eventually learned to stay calm
• I would also let my boys know when I was edgy and close to loosing it. I would let them know what they could do to help me.
• They've told me as young adults how helpful this was to them
• We talk about emotional intimacy with our children
• How do we let ourselves be known by our children when we are having difficult feelings
• How to establish good emotional ties with our kids in a good way
• Winnicut talks about good enough parenting
• Research shows that it just takes 30% of being a good enough parent in order to have a favorable outcome
• Lindsay gives an example of how an adult child could set a limit with their emotionally immature parent if they decided not to spend Thanksgiving with the family
• When adult children set limits with their emotionally immature parents, the parent feels rejected; unloved or they have a strong defensive reaction
• When setting a boundary, you want to stay present to your own heart
• You want to be able to have empathy and acknowledge what it is like for the other person
• You want to remember what your goal is for the interaction, so your intention is clear for yourself
• You also have an opportunity to observe how the other person is reacting, and the defenses that they use
• Emotionally Healthy Relationships
  • Is the person generally realistic and reliable?
  • Do they work with reality rather than fighting it?
  • Are they finding ways to solve problems or are they complaining about how they've been victimized?
  • Do they have a consistent and reliable nature about them?
  • Do they take things personally?
  • When they get upset, can they still think? Do they lose the ability to be rational?
  • Signs of temper, impatience or impulsivity should be a red flag—those are cardinal signs of immaturity
  • Another red flag is when a person gets very upset, then tells you it's just because they love you
  • You want your partner to be reciprocal; you do something for them and they do something for you
  • You set a boundary, and they say OK
  • If you set a boundary, and your partner tries to talk you out of it, or walk you out of it, that is two red flags
  • Boundaries at the beginning of the relationship will tell you almost everything you want to know about that person
  • Being flexible and able to compromise is a sign of maturity
  • You want someone who is basically truthful; that you can trust who they are
  • Does the person respond to you in a manner that you feel safe, and seen and heard?
  • Do they reflect on their mistakes and try and change, or do they make excuses?
  • Do they reflect when you tell them you're mad at them, or do they say, "Why do you keep bringing that up? What's wrong with you?"
  • If they can't accept when you're angry and they get defensive, that's about having a major lack of empathy
  • Your partner is thin skinned meaning they do not allow other's reactions to happen, because that person gets so reactive
• Nobody is more intrinsically important as an adult than anybody else
• They way that emotionally immature people react with guilt, shame, fear and self-doubt, can make the other person start to doubt their reality
• This is where you have to remember that "There's good stuff in me!"

GUEST BIO

Lindsay Gibson, PsyD. has been a licensed clinical psychologist for over thirty years and specializes in individual adult psychotherapy with adult children of emotionally immature parents. She is the author of three books, the most recent being Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents and just out in May of this year, Recovering from Emotionally Immature Parents. In the past Dr. Gibson has served as an adjunct assistant professor teaching doctoral psychology students, and she writes a monthly Well-Being column for Tidewater Women magazine in Virginia Beach, VA.

PODCAST HOST

Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).

LINKS

Website— http://www.drlindsaygibson.com/

Dr. Elaine Aron's website—HSP self-test

https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/

Dr. Gibson's book was translated from English to Russian by Elena Tereshchnkova You can find the actual translator here--

https://www.facebook.com/elena.tereshchenkova

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e-mail-- [email protected]

Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive

Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

TITLE

Creating Sanctuary in the Home; How to Create a Space You Love

GUEST

Helen Joy Butler

EPISODE OVERVIEW

Helen Joy Butler is a Sanctuary Creator, Elemental Space Clearer and #HSP Warrior. She talks about creating external sanctuary in our home, which helps to create internal sanctuary. This helps to decrease stress and increase peace. It can also help us feel more grounded in our space. What do we want people to feel when they enter our home? Helen talks about ways to clear or shift stagnant energy in our home. She talks about small ways to make changes so we don't feel overwhelmed, and the importance of being gentle with ourselves.

HIGHLIGHTS

• We need to create external sanctuary; this helps to create internal sanctuary
• What externally brings you a sense of sanctuary
• You can create sanctuary pockets or vignettes in your home
• This creates a greater sense of grounding
• Things come to you that you need, and things you don't need tend to fall away
• You can start with your front door, or the center of your home
• What is my vision for this space?
• What do I want someone to feel when they come into my home?
• What's a place in your home that is causing you stress?
  • If you're sick or upset, or the area is emotionally charged, it may be best to hold off working on this space
• BE GENTLE WITH YOURSELF
• You can start with something small like a junk drawer, or a sock drawer
• When you get rid of things, you create a vortex or a vacuum—the tendency is to refill that space once it's emptied
• Elemental space clearing—cleansing the energy in a space
• How to energetically clear a space
  • Light a candle
  • Put on music
  • Dance
  • Have tea with a friend
  • Move things out as gently as you need
  • Move furniture around
  • Change the sheets, move a lamp
  • Laugh and bring joy into the space
• Do it piece by piece. You don't want stagnant energy in a room, so you want to keep moving the energy
• What is your intention for the room?
  • Joy, connection, happiness, love
• How to create a space you love
  • Connect with nature
  • Where do I spend my time
  • How can I reduce my stress
• Be gentle; be kind

BIO

Helen Joy Butler is a Sanctuary Creator, Elemental Space Clearer and #HSP Warrior. Through her business Helen blends practicality and spirituality to create Sanctuary in her client's home and life. Helen is an accredited Expert Professional Organiser, Certified Elemental Space Clearing® Practitioner, is attuned to Reiki Level 1 and has a Masters of Business Administration as well as two teaching degrees. After the birth of her son, Helen left teaching and started her Professional Organising business, working with clients in their homes as well as educating thousands of people online about organising, decluttering and living a balanced life. Helen lives in Brisbane, Australia, with her husband, teenage son and Elvis the dog.

PODCAST HOST

Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).

LINKS

Helen's Links

https://helenjoybutler.com

5 Days to Sanctuary (free course)-- https://www.helenjoybutler.com/five-days-to-sanctuary-challenge/

Patricia's Links

Meetup Saturday October 5, 2019 10 am – noon. Jacaranda Drive between Jacaranda Place and Upas Street at Morley Field. Bring chairs or blankets https://www.meetup.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-Meetup/events/264665841/

Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com

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Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive

Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

TITLE

I Wasn't Invited...there's more. Sigh….

GUEST

Solo Episode

EPISODE OVERVIEW

Is it ok to NOT want information about a situation that may have felt hurtful to us? If we continue to have strong feelings about it, does it mean we're not healing? Is it possible to feel uncomfortable, AND be healing at the same time? Do I regret releasing any of these episodes about the situation? What does self-compassion have to do with all of this? No matter what feelings come up, ALL feelings are welcome, and need to be honored!

HIGHLIGHTS

• How to take care of ourselves when we feel uncomfortable and not ready
• Is it ok to not pick up your phone when you feel rattled when someone calls
• I feel like I was 12 years old again. I felt really anxious
• Feelings of shame, and guilt came up for me, and it was uncomfortable
• When something happens and we have a strong emotional response, if we're verbal processors, it can help to talk to someone who is safe
• What do we do when shame surfaces and we feel like we did something wrong
• We can have strong emotional responses, but it doesn't mean that we haven't "worked through" our stuff
• When we have strong emotional responses, we can often attach a negative meaning, but it's not the truth
• We can feel strong feelings, and still be courageous even if we're feeling fear
• When we have strong feelings, we often feel like we have to justify why we're having strong feelings
• Others have a right to invite whomever they want to and they don't ever have to include us
• Others have a right to post on social media
• There is no right or wrong, and no one is to blame
• If it brings up feelings for us, we get to focus on the healing we need to do
• It's really important to start talking about these things with safe people who can support us
• No matter what feelings come up (joy, sadness, jealousy, anxiety, depression), all of our feelings are ok
• We need to find ways to honor all the feelings that come up
• We need to get support
• We need to use tools
• We can reflect on the conversation and situation if we need to make sense out of it
• When we get stressed or have things to do, we have our internal "taskmaster" show up
• My "taskmaster" generally lacks empathy and just wants to get stuff done
• It's also important to talk about how we're impacted by other's behavior (if they are safe people that can engage with us)
• It's really important to talk about our expectations
• We may have a plan, but not communicate it to someone else, and it can cause a rift if we don't communicate
• There is no right or wrong way of doing things
• If we're able to communicate; the recommunicate and recommunicate. It's about going back in and doing what we need to do understand and to be understood
• This is about our imperfection, our humanity, about showing up and being in the messy middle, and not know what the outcome is going to be
• What happens when we have bumps; how do we process; what do we do when we're having a harder time letting it go
• If someone gives us a "valid" reason when we got hurt, does it mean that we shouldn't have had a reaction?
• Sometimes we see things as "either, or" then I realized there was another perspective
• Is it ok to NOT want information about a situation where we felt hurt
• I felt like I "should" be open to hearing information, which made me feel guilty, and somewhat anxious, and I doubted myself and felt like I wasn't doing it "right."
• We get to choose what we want in our life
• Gremlins will come up for us
• My gremlins told me I shouldn't be talking about this on a podcast
• Is it wrong to process what goes on for me publicly?
• Is it "worth" it if it helps others?
• I want to model how as deep feelers and thinkers how we go through difficult situations
• When we overdo it, we may feel vulnerable and tend to take things more personally
• We can observe and know that we will come back to balance again
• We will get activated, and it may take time to restore and get our balance again
• Setting limits and boundaries can feel challenging to us, and it may bring up things for us
• We need to trust ourselves; be gentle with ourselves and have lots of self-compassion
• We can trust that we know what's right for us at that moment
• Give yourself permission to be exactly where you're at today

PODCAST HOST

Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).

LINKS

Meetup Saturday October 5, 2019 10 am – noon. Jacaranda Drive between Jacaranda Place and Upas Street at Morley Field. Bring chairs or blankets https://www.meetup.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-Meetup/events/264665841/

Bonus Episode 54 I Wasn't Invited; This Sucks! Now What? https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/bonus-episode-56/

Bonus Episode 56 I Wasn't Invited—Follow Up https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/bonus-episode-58/

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Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/

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Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/

Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber

e-mail-- [email protected]

Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive

Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com