It’s not that your mom doesn't love you, it’s that she doesn’t know how to love you. 

Have you ever found yourself wondering, ‘Does my mom really love me?’ It’s a painful question that many of us with difficult mothers have asked. In this episode, I dive into the emotional and psychological impact of growing up with a mother who couldn’t love the way we needed. 

Inspired by Susan Forward’s book Mothers Who Can’t Love, I explore how understanding your mother’s past and patterns can be the key to healing and breaking the cycle.

If you’ve struggled with feelings of rejection, longing, or even guilt surrounding your mother-daughter relationship, this episode is for you. 

You are not alone, and healing is possible.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

✔️ Why the question isn’t "Does my mom love me?" but rather "Does she even know how to love?"

✔️ How generational trauma and unmet childhood needs shape our mothers—and us

✔️ The different types of emotionally unavailable or toxic mothers

✔️ Steps to start healing and freeing yourself from the emotional weight of your past

✔️ How to ensure you don’t repeat the cycle in your own family

Resources Mentioned:

📖 Mothers Who Can’t Love by Susan Forward, PhD: https://bit.ly/3QhTRPs

📖 UnMothered: Life with a Mom Who Couldn’t Love Me: https://www.phylismantelli.com/shop/p/unmothered

📚 My 6-week course "Patience & Grace" – A program designed to help women heal from toxic mother wounds: https://www.phylismantelli.com/shop/p/unmothered

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*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.