Regulate & Rewire: An Anxiety & Depression Podcast

Understanding Freeze— The “Wired-But-Tired” State (Part 3)


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"Freeze" is arguably the most confusing, nuanced, and self-blame-inducing state for people to understand. We often mistake it for laziness, depression, or some character flaw — it’s not.  It's a protective state that your nervous system creates when it's had too much for too long and doesn't know what to do next. This episode takes a compassionate deep dive into this common but misunderstood experience. We untangle what's happening when your body's gas and brake pedals are pressed at the same time and offer gentle, practical ways to find movement again when you feel trapped.

*This episode serves as Part 3 in our "Different States Series"

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • The key differences between freeze, activation (anxiety), and shutdown (depression).
  • Why you get stuck in freeze, from current overwhelm to past experiences of powerlessness.
  • How conflicting internal "parts" can create the gridlock that keeps you feeling paralyzed.
  • A toolkit of "micro-mobilization" strategies designed to gently thaw the freeze response without causing more stress.
  • Why gentleness, not force, is the most effective approach to healing a stuck system.

3 Takeaways:

  1. Freeze is protection, not procrastination.
  2. Start micro, stay gentle.
  3. The deeper work: Address the internal conflict, not just the symptoms. 

Categories of Tools for Freeze mentioned in this episode:

  • Small-Movement: Sway gently side-to-side, rock back and forth, walk slowly barefoot, gently shake out your hands, stand up and stretch.
  • Gentle Breath & Sound: Notice your natural breath with slightly longer exhales (don't force deep breathing), make soft humming sounds or audible sighs, listen to rhythmic, lo-fi music. Whisper comforting phrases to yourself like "I'm here," or "I'm safe," or "It's okay to move slowly."
  • Orienting & Vision Resets: Slowly scan the room and name 5 neutral things, gently turn your head from side to side, let your eyes rest on something calm like a plant or a photo.
  • Sensory Grounding & Pressure: Wrap yourself in a blanket, place your hands on your chest and belly, press your feet into the floor, head containment practice, sip some water, feel a soft texture, put on socks.
  • Gentle Action & Connection (1% or Micro): Put one cup in the sink, text one person back, sit outside for three minutes, pet an animal. Remember: small = safe = enough.
  • Parts Work: Get curious about which parts are in conflict (e.g., the part that's exhausted vs. the part that's scared of being lazy). Acknowledge both parts and offer them compassion, reassuring them that it's safe to move slowly now.

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