This is a rebroadcast of Episode 238, republished as Episode 316. In this pivotal episode of Thrive Beyond Pornography, Zach Spafford breaks down what he calls the Detour Cycle—a five-step process that explains how and why we move away from our values and turn to pornography. From the subtle beginning of a negative narrative to the emotional triggers and the rationalizations that lead to a breach of personal integrity, Zach lays out a clear and practical framework to help listeners understand and interrupt the cycle. If you’ve ever felt stuck in old habits, this episode offers both clarity and a way forward.

Thrive Beyond Pornography is about real change. Overcoming pornography was the hardest challenge of my life and marriage. It shattered my confidence, tainted my most important experiences, and felt impossible to escape.

But I did.

This podcast—and the resources at GetToThrive.com—will help you understand the struggle, break free from pornography, and build a thriving life with your spouse.

At some point, I stepped away from 12-step meetings and counselors. I stopped looking for outside solutions and started figuring out my own mind. That shift changed everything. Here, I share those lessons with you. You’ll get the tools, principles, and mindset shifts you need to reclaim control—starting today.

Whether you're struggling with unwanted pornography use, supporting a spouse, or just feeling stuck, this podcast will help you move forward. You’ll hear real conversations with my spouse, experts in human sexuality, and former users who have broken free.

Thrive Beyond Pornography brings a fresh perspective to your journey, helping you change the way you think—and, ultimately, the way you live.