The Infidelity Recovery Podcast

Understanding Trauma Bonds: Why You Can't Leave Your Cheating Ex


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Struggling to maintain no contact after your partner cheated? You're experiencing a trauma bond. In this episode, I break down why boundaries feel impossible after infidelity, the science behind why you keep texting your ex, and practical strategies that actually work when willpower isn't enough.

Learn about trauma bonds after betrayal, role-based boundaries for co-parenting or reconciliation, micro-boundaries that build real momentum, and the delay technique to stop impulsive contact. Whether you're healing from a cheating spouse, navigating betrayal trauma, or trying to rebuild after an affair, this guide will help you understand why no contact is so hard and give you tools to protect yourself while you heal.

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0:00 - Introduction: The Struggle of Breaking No Contact

Why you keep texting them back and feel weak for doing it

1:00 - What's Really Happening: Trauma Bonds Explained

Your body doesn't differentiate betrayal from love—it just knows this person was your safety

2:00 - Why Boundaries Are Harder If You Struggled Before

If you had weak boundaries before the betrayal, this will be doubly difficult

3:00 - Understanding What Boundaries Actually Are

Healthy boundaries aren't black and white or completely flexible—they have both firmness and softness

4:00 - Role-Based Boundaries in Different Situations

How to navigate co-parenting or reconciliation while protecting yourself

6:00 - The Reality of Maintaining Boundaries

A single text can wreck your entire day—we need to be realistic about this

6:30 - Practical Strategies: Micro Boundaries

Start with 48-hour commitments instead of "never again"

7:00 - The Delay Technique and Replacement Rituals

Wait 10 minutes and replace texting habits with journaling or new connections

7:45 - Removing Triggers and Building Safety

Mute notifications, block numbers, find other sources of regulation

8:30 - Get Curious About Your Triggers

Identify what makes you want to break no contact and plan ahead

9:00 - Final Reminder: Boundaries Aren't Mean

This is protection and self-respect, not punishment

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