Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk about Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather. On this episode, we answer the following questions:

• Since discovery, it's been hard for me to know when my husband is telling me the truth. Should I trust my gut intuition even though he’s telling me I’m being paranoid?
• What is gaslighting? Can you give examples of what this looks like?
• What are the best ways to respond if I think someone is gaslighting me?

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The Betrayal Bind, by Michelle Mays

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Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk about Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather. In this episode, we answer these questions: 

• Why am I so angry?
• My husband betrayed me; why am I taking it out on my kids?
• Growing up, it was implied that being angry was sinful. I know I'm hurt but how do I know if I'm dealing with anger?

Anger Test

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Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk about Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather. In this episode, we answer these questions: 

• Is calling a sexual sin “addiction” just excusing the behavior?
• Is sex addiction real?
• People who struggle with sex addiction, why can’t they just stop the behavior?

Unraveled: Managing Love, Sex, and Relationships

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Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk about Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather. In this episode, we answer these questions: 

• What is betrayal trauma?
• My husband says I'm overreacting but the pain and foggy-headedness I'm feeling seem uncontrollable. Is it possible to heal from betrayal trauma?
• Women I’ve been with in group use phrases like "before Pure Desire and after Pure Desire.” What are they referring to?

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In this episode, we answer these questions: 

• Is fantasy ever okay?
• Should my husband share his fantasies with me?
• I can’t be intimate with my husband unless I fantasize. How can I practice being more present?

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The Fantasy Fallacy, by Shannon Ethridge

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Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk about Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather. 

In this episode, we answer these questions: 

• I quit drinking and now I don’t enjoy sex. How can I learn to like sex again?
• I am afraid to re-engage with my husband sexually after quitting porn. How do I learn to become aroused by my husband instead?
• My husband and I are doing well with our recovery and healing but I’m still afraid to engage sexually, because I can’t get the images of his porn use and affairs out of my head. Will this ever go away and what can I do to help this process?

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In this episode, we answer these questions: 

• I’m nervous about telling anyone what’s really happening in my marriage. Where can I find safe people?
• Since discovery, I feel like I’m going crazy! Where can I find help?
• Is this long, expensive process going to fix anything, when I’m not the one with the problem?

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Since 2016, Ashley Jameson and Heather Kolb have supported, educated, and equipped women to experience sexual health, healing from betrayal trauma, and success in relationships. We know what it’s like to be in crisis—searching for answers—and continually hearing the churchy answer. Each week, you’ll hear real talk about sex and relationships from a biblical and clinical perspective.

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