In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn sits down with thought habit strategist and author Amy Kemp to unpack one of the most damaging patterns women struggle with—tying our self-worth to performance.

From subconscious thought loops to resentment signals, Amy shares the surprising truth behind why we feel exhausted, unseen, and over-obligated—and what we can do to reclaim our identity and energy.

If you're spiraling in your own pool of thoughts, this episode will help you understand the thought habits secretly draining you and how to replace them with empowering defaults.

Golden Episode Nuggets:

💎 You are not your thoughts—your brain’s habits can be rewired

💎 Resentment is a neon sign flashing: “Missing boundary here”

💎 “I should” and “I have to” are energy leaks disguised as productivity

💎 Confidence isn’t a feeling—it’s what shows up after you act

💎 Your natural genius is the thing that feels easy to you but amazes others

Key Moments:

· 3:45 – Why 80% of our thoughts are subconscious (and how to catch the unhealthy ones)

· 7:10 – The “value vs. performance” hand exercise that could change how you see yourself

· 12:50 – What resentment actually means (hint: it’s a missing boundary)

· 15:00 – The 3 most common toxic thought habits women carry

· 21:40 – The Resentment Audit: a practical way to uncover unspoken needs

· 25:15 – How to find your “natural genius” and stop undervaluing your gifts

About Our Guest:

Amy Kemp is a leadership coach, speaker, and author of I See You: A Guide for Women to Make More, Have More, and Be More. Her work helps women reprogram limiting thought habits so they can stop second-guessing themselves and start living and leading with clarity and energy.

Take her free Habit Finder assessment to discover your subconscious thought patterns and how to shift them at www.amykemp.com.

Resources Mentioned:

• The Habit Finder Assessment – Free at amykemp.com
• I See You by Amy Kemp – available on Amazon, Audible, and Bookshop.org

Quote of the Episode:

“Every time you feel resentment, imagine a neon sign flashing ‘Missing Boundary’—because your energy is trying to tell you something.” – Amy Kemp

Perfect for listeners who:

· Constantly feel like they “should be doing more”

· Struggle with people-pleasing, burnout, or overthinking

· Want to break free from perfectionism and performative self-worth

· Are ready to understand their energy leaks and reclaim peace

· Are looking to rediscover their identity beyond roles and titles

📝 Leave a review and let us know—what’s one thought habit you’re ready to rewire?

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