We Can Do Hard Things

1. Why no one talks about the complicated feelings of freedom after the death of a toxic loved one.

2. How Jennette’s mom enforced extreme calorie restriction to control and bond with Jennette, and the moment her body finally said, No.

3. What led Jennette to step away from acting after her iCarly stardom, and why she doesn’t think “resilient” is a compliment.

4. How Jennette found herself still “doing her mother’s work” in therapy – and how she stopped forcing forgiveness.

5. Why – when you’ve grown up in an environment of chaos and volatility – healthy, comfortable relationships can feel boring. 

6. Jennette's relationship with her inner voice – and how she understands and experiences Obsessive-compulsive disorder today.

CW // eating disorders, toxic relationships 

About Jennette:

Jennette McCurdy is the New York Times Bestselling author of I’m Glad My Mom Died, which stayed at #1 on the NYT bestseller list for eight consecutive weeks and has remained on the list for 24. In her memoir, Jennette dives into her struggles as a former child actor—including eating disorders, addiction, and a complicated relationship with her overbearing mother—and how she retook control of her life. Jennette has been honored as part of the 2022 TIME100 Next list, and her debut fiction novel will be released in 2024.

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1. Hard-won, joyful, practical wisdom from Bozoma’s exuberant life, and her lessons on how to overcome after enduring excruciating loss.

2. How big love and life can be when we are brave enough to be fierce and tender. 

3. The rarely talked-about confusion and fear that often come with pregnancy. 

4. Why love isn’t enough — and we all deserve a community surrounding our love.

5. Why Boz gave her husband a book report assignment before she’d go out with him, and the heart wrenching truth that you can carry anger toward a loved one even after death. 

About Bozoma: 

Bozoma Saint John is a Hall of Fame inducted Marketing Executive, author, entrepreneur, and general badass. In 2021, Harvard Business School published a multi-media case study written about her career, titled “Leading with Authenticity and Urgency”. And Bozoma’s highly-anticipated memoir, THE URGENT LIFE, is available now.

Bozoma’s brilliant career has spanned various industries and included roles as Global CMO of Netflix, CMO of Endeavor, CBO of Uber, Head of Marketing of Apple Music & iTunes and Head of Music and Entertainment Marketing at PepsiCo. 

Bozoma’s work has been lauded and awarded with notable recognition including inductions into the American Advertising Federation Hall of Achievement, Billboard’s Women in Music Hall of Fame, the Marketing Hall of Fame; and has been included in The Hollywood Reporter’s Women in Entertainment Power 100 list and crowned as The World's Most Influential CMO by Forbes. By far, her greatest achievement is raising her 13 year old daughter, Lael. 

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Glennon shares what she’s learning in therapy and what she feels we all could benefit from knowing – especially about wanting, yearning, fixing, and the next right thing. 

If talk about eating disorders and mental illness helps: Listen today.

If it triggers: Skip today.

CW // eating disorders

If you have an eating disorder, you may find the National Alliance for Eating Disorders a helpful resource: https://www.allianceforeatingdisorders.com/

In this Bonus episode, Amanda answers your follow-up questions:

1. How do you take care of the person who takes care of everyone else?

2. How do you find peace and closure when you will never know the story of what really happened?

3. The weird way Amanda can only relax when her husband gets fired up.

4. The strategy that now grounds Amanda when she is most activated and afraid.

1. Practical ways to make a friend and become what Dr. Franco calls a “Super-friend.”

2. How to address issues with a friend even if you hate conflict.

3. Why expressing anger is more likely to deepen a relationship than destroy it.

4. How we need to express vulnerability to make friends – but first, what the hell is vulnerability?

5. Destroying the unhelpful myth that friendship happens organically. 

About Dr. Franco: 

Dr. Marisa G Franco is psychologist, international speaker, and New York Times bestselling author known for digesting and communicating science in ways tha change their lives. She works as a professor at The University of Maryland and authored the New York Times bestseller Platonic: How The Science of Attachment Can Help You Make—and Keep—Friends.

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1. How your attachment style determines how you make – or don’t make – friends and becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.

2. How Dr. Franco’s work helped Glennon make healthy adult friendships over the past year.

3. Why we’re lonelier than ever – and how that loneliness can make us sick.

4. Why platonic friendships are beneficial to the health of our romantic partnerships. 

5. Learning to “trust the spark” when you meet a potential friend – and concrete steps to foster new friendship. 

About Dr. Franco:

Dr. Marisa G Franco is psychologist, international speaker, and New York Times bestselling author known for digesting and communicating science in ways tha change their lives. She works as a professor at The University of Maryland and authored the New York Times bestseller Platonic: How The Science of Attachment Can Help You Make—and Keep—Friends.

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IG: @drmarisagfranco

In this bonus episode, Glennon shares her “Sort Your Mail” rules for dealing with the inevitable criticisms you will receive from daring to say anything, do anything, or be anything. Learn to sort your mail so you can keep showing up!

Glennon and Abby interview their favorite person and co-host: Amanda Doyle! Examining the relationships, decisions, and travels that led her to today – from hitchhiking across Ireland, to prosecuting child sex offenders in Rwanda, to making the biggest decision of her life in an Ethiopian airport – they dive into Amanda’s lifelong fear of the ordinary.

About Amanda:

Amanda Doyle is Glennon Doyle’s Business Manager and co-host of the We Can Do Hard Things podcast with her sister Glennon Doyle and sister-in-law Abby Wambach. She is Vice President, General Counsel, and a member of the Together Rising Board of Directors. In these roles, Amanda is responsible for overseeing and advising on legal matters, including risk management, policy development, and programmatic affairs, as well as cultivating new initiatives and relationships to strengthen the organization’s impact. A former attorney at the law firm of Hogan Lovells and Legal Fellow with International Justice Mission, Amanda lives in Falls Church, Virginia with her husband and two children.

Today we’re talking about how to build healthy relationships — with ourselves and others — after enduring toxic relationships with both.

1. Signs of emotional toxicity in romantic relationships – and what finally made Lily get out of her unhealthy relationship.

2. How to begin reprogramming your brain after leaving a toxic relationship in order to trust yourself and other people again.

3. The process that caused Lily to become the smallest, quietest version of herself – and how she recovered into her biggest, brightest self.

4. What healthy conflict looks and feels like – and Lily’s new script for communicating when her old triggers arise.

CW: eating disorders, emotionally toxic relationships

About Lily: 

Lily Collins is a Golden Globe nominated actress, author of the international bestselling book “Unfiltered: No Shame, No Regrets Just Me”, and a philanthropist. Collins can currently be seen in the Netflix series “Emily in Paris,” for which she received her second Golden Globe nomination.Lily launched Case Study Films alongside her husband Charlie McDowell. Lily's philanthropic endeavors extend to participating in various “We Day” events and the GO Campaign. Born in West Sussex, England Collins moved to the United States at age six and currently resides in Los Angeles.

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We can do hard things, and yet, sometimes we can try easier. Glennon, Abby, Amanda – and the Pod Squad! — share the strategies they’ve used to suffer less – giving us simple Life Hacks for relationships, home, tech, travel, and saving time.