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Grandparents raising grandkids or aunts and uncles raising nephews and nieces is often complicated and comes with a mix of challenges and blessings. What are the unique issues that kinship caregivers face and what do they need to succeed. We talk about these issues with LaNette Jacobs, an aunt raising her two nephews; Marla Galvan, a licensed clinical social worker and Foster Care Strategic Consultant for Child Welfare Information Gateway; Dr. Ali Caliendo, the Executive Director of Foster Kinship, a nonprofit support of kinship families in Nevada; and Jaia Lent, the Deputy Executive Director at Generations United where she provides direction for the National Center on Grandfamilies.

In this episode, we covered:

• Kinship care, also often called grandparent care or grandparent-led families, is used to care for children whose parents are unable. And while we will often use the term grandparent, we fully recognize that it is often aunts, uncles, cousins, and sometimes other siblings that are stepping up to care for these children. Kinship care can be permanent or temporary, financially subsidized or not, formal or informal. Kinship care at its best helps to maintain family connections and cultural traditions that can minimize the trauma of family separation. 
• Grandparents raising grandkids or aunts and uncles raising nephews and nieces is often complicated and comes with a mix of challenges and blessings.
• There is often a blurred line between being a family member and assuming responsibility for a relative's children. Is your role the grandparent or the parent and if parent, to whom is your first allegiance—to your child or your grandchild.
• It’s also a blessing. It’s a do over, a chance to be fully involved in a child’s life again and make a difference in the next generation.
• Why is raising your grandkids different from raising your own kids the first time around?
• Understanding emotions. 
  • Guilt, shame, anger, distrust, loss, loneliness, grief. And these feelings are often felt by both the parent and the kinship caregiver.
  • Managing boundaries.
• Communication
• Being honest about your needs and the kids needs
• Putting the children’s needs first.
• How to help with reunification?
• Try to show empathy towards the challenges that the parents are struggling with. 
• Don’t put down birth parents, especially in front of the kids.
• Assure children that their parents love them.
• Tell parents that you know that they love their child.
• Don’t put the children in the middle.
• Make visits a conflict free zone—if possible.
• Have adult conversations on working out disagreements away from the kids.
• Support change in the parents.
• Support groups.
• Not financially prepared for the addition of kids.
• Parenting kids who’ve experienced trauma.
• Legal resources to be in the best position to advocate for the child.

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