When I got the phone call that my mom had broken her hip, believe me, I wanted to hang up and pretend I never heard it. 

My relationship with my mom was not the typical kind and taking care of her (again) was the last thing I wanted to do. When your toxic parent ages and you have to care for them what are you going to do?

When is it a good time to mend the relationship with your mom? When she is ill? 

I made a decision that I was going to take care of her, but this time with boundaries. Let’s explore how to help or find help to be a caring daughter (or son) when your mom falls ill and when we have to put some feelings aside to help out a sick parent. 

Remember you are the adult, you set the tone. Setting boundaries is crucial to remain true to yourself. 

It’s also okay to find help so the burden is not only on you, for outside help to come and fill in so you get a break. Let siblings help so the load is not all on you unless they want to do it themselves.

You will never regret helping when at the end of the day, you will always remember the love that was there.

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