I just came back from a trauma class in Chicago. There we had to start digging into parts of our story that have been buried to survive. We spend half our lives just surviving the trauma that has been done to us.

This class left me stunned with the realization that I had never dug into my story of being taken from the only home I had known in my eight years of life. What do we do to keep going through the traumas of our life? Today we will find out why it is important to hold those stories well and grieve them. It is only then that we can start getting honest about why our bodies react to triggers and start regulating our minds and bodies to a better space.

Some questions I want you to think about after today’s episode is:

• Do you know your hard story?
• Are you willing to ask questions about it even if it means learning that your parents may have played a part in the trauma?
• Do you want to start the change of familiar habits that don’t serve you well anymore? (self-protection, walls of protection)

We need to ask God to help us get healthy and not just survive but thrive! When you can get truthful about all the things that you have gone through and start working out your hard story, you will find freedom. Find someone (most likely a coach or a therapist) that you can share some hard truths with. Stop and breathe when you feel the old patterns start to rise up and ask yourself why it is happening. Grieve your trauma well, but then learn that you need to let it go! 

Ask God to help you with all of this. Ask Him to point out the things that are holding you back from all He wants you to be.

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*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.