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What the Emotionally Unavailable Man Is Really Thinking
In this episode, I dive deep into the psychology of emotional unavailability — what’s really going on beneath the surface when someone pulls away just as things start to feel real.
I talk about how emotionally unavailable people often operate from a state of dysregulation, not detachment. They’re not intentionally cold or manipulative — they’re usually in survival mode, reacting to intimacy as if it’s dangerous. When closeness triggers fear, their instinct is to withdraw, avoid, or shut down.
Understanding this dynamic doesn’t excuse their behavior, but it helps you stop taking it personally and start seeing these patterns for what they are — unconscious defense mechanisms rooted in fear, not rejection.
If you’ve ever dated someone who ran hot and cold or disappeared after things started getting deeper, this episode will help you make sense of it, stay grounded, and approach relationships with more awareness and compassion.
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In this episode, I dive deep into the psychology of emotional unavailability — what’s really going on beneath the surface when someone pulls away just as things start to feel real.
I talk about how emotionally unavailable people often operate from a state of dysregulation, not detachment. They’re not intentionally cold or manipulative — they’re usually in survival mode, reacting to intimacy as if it’s dangerous. When closeness triggers fear, their instinct is to withdraw, avoid, or shut down.
Understanding this dynamic doesn’t excuse their behavior, but it helps you stop taking it personally and start seeing these patterns for what they are — unconscious defense mechanisms rooted in fear, not rejection.
If you’ve ever dated someone who ran hot and cold or disappeared after things started getting deeper, this episode will help you make sense of it, stay grounded, and approach relationships with more awareness and compassion.
Get my book- Detached: How to Let Go, Heal, and Become Irresistible
Join my inner circle
Follow me!
Instagram: @sabrinabendory
@youwillbeokpodcast
Tik Tok: @sabrinabendory
#DatingAdvice #RelationshipAdvice
#EmotionalUnavailability #DatingAdvice #RelationshipAdvice #Intimacy #DefenseMechanisms
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