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There are certain experiences that are excruciatingly hard to talk about, and from which healing is incredibly difficult. Sexual abuse is far more common than most people realize, yet survivors often feel isolated and carry shame over their abuse. They need kind, caring people to support their healing.

Corinne Vance is that kind of person. She has worked therapeutically with men, women, and adolescents for over 20 years. She has provided training and consultation (globally and in the U.S.) in the areas of aftercare for survivors of sex trafficking and domestic violence. She recently served as Director of Trauma Therapy at The WellHouse, a safe haven for victims of human trafficking in Alabama, and continues to provide clinical supervision for staff there.

Corinne describes sexual trauma as something "that affects every family." In our conversation we unpack some of the intricacies of sexual trauma & abuse, talk about its impact on all relationships, and discuss how wrestling with God is a good thing.

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One of the most frightening types of abuse to think or talk about is sexual abuse. So many survivors keep their stories silent, hiding in shame and never experiencing true healing. CORINNE VANCE is a trauma-trained therapist who specializes in helping clients identify, name, and explore healing from sexual trauma and abuse. She is also the Senior Trauma Therapist at The Well House, a residential facility in Alabama that provides safety for sex trafficking survivors.

Corinne says ALL families have some story of sexual abuse, and understanding what it is and how it affects us is key to healing.

Episode 41 | Corinne Vance: Putting the Pieces Together will be available Tuesday, July 8th!

#corinnevance #traumatherapy #sexualtrauma #sexualabuse #therapy #healing #thewellhouse

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What do you do when your spouse tells you she wants a divorce and is in love with another man?

That was a question Harrison Scott Key never thought he'd have to answer. But it's exactly what happened. Over the course of several years he navigated an excruciating saga of fighting for his marriage and for his sanity. He tells the story in his New York Times bestselling book How to Stay Married: The Most Insane Love Story Ever Told.

In our conversation with Harrison, we talked about what it was like living it, writing about it, and the unexpected impact of book tour promotion about such a personal experience. We talked about family healing, and how his friends and his church helped him find the capacity for forgiveness.

It's a rare talent who can take such a heartbreaking story and also make it so funny; but that's exactly what Harrison does - in the book and in our conversation. Harrison is a professor at Savannah College of Art & Design, has written three books, and lives in Savannah with his wife Lauren and their kids. (He's also the drummer in a cover band called The Love Handles.)

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Stacey and I got to visit with HARRISON SCOTT KEY, a college professor, world-renowned speaker, and best-selling author of three books, including How To Stay Married: The Most Insane Love Story Ever Told." It's a humorous and heartbreaking memoir, recounting some of the most excruciating years in the life of Harrison and his wife. It's a beautiful story of a marriage facing adultery and the journey towards healing and redemption. 

It's a raw, honest, wide-open conversation where we talked about the pain of infidelity and the frightening process of forgiveness. 

Episode 40 | Harrison Scott Key: Do You Want to Be Married to Me? will be available Tuesday, June 24th!

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During his years as a church worship pastor, Greg was heavily influenced by today's guest Todd Fields. As a worship leader associated with 7:22, a weekly worship gathering started in 1995 by Louie Giglio at Northpoint Community Church in Atlanta, and as someone who has written and led worship music and produced multiple recordings over the years, Todd is a skilled musician who knows what he's talking about with corporate worship.

More importantly, though, Todd knows how critical it is for worship leaders to be spiritually and emotionally healthy; and how often this is not the case. Often seen and valued primarily for their skill and what they can produce, it's common for people in these positions to experience brokenness and burnout.

In 2014, Todd and his wife Carrie felt God was calling them to pay closer attention to their own hearts and souls, and this calling birthed a new ministry called Worship Circle. This is a community offering small group and one-on-one connection between worship leaders/pastors and small group leaders; participants receive love, care, and investment in who they are as people, not just for what they can do as musicians. 

Todd's heart for Worship Circle is so consistent with our heart for Awaken, it was a joy for like-minded (and like-hearted) people to get to have a conversation about this passion. We hope it will encourage you to care for your heart and soul, and to remember that you're loved and not alone!

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One of the most enjoyable conversations we've had yet, with TODD FIELDS. As a former worship pastor, Greg loved connecting with Todd's heart for supporting people who minister in this area and for doing our own healing work. 

Todd has been a worship leader for decades, and was involved in the early days of 722 with Louie Giglio and Northpoint Community Church with Andy Stanley. In 2014 he founded The Worship Circle, a virtual community helping people in ministry pay attention to the development of their own hearts and souls amidst the stress of public ministry.

Episode 39 | Todd Fields: You Are Loved and Not Alone will be available Tuesday, June 10th!

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When situations in life activate our emotions, it can be easy to stay on the surface, focusing on what's going on and how we can "fix it." But often, the parts of us being activated aren't above the surface. We have to go deeper. 

In this episode, Dr. Eddie Capparucci talks about how his Inner Child Model of therapy can give great understanding about how we process difficult and traumatic situations. Eddie is the author of several books, including Going Deeper: How the Inner Child Affects Your Sexual Addiction. Many people in recovery from problematic unwanted or addictive sexual behavior have found that early life experiences affect how they show up in the present. Identifying what type(s) of wounded "inner children" are activated can inform a helpful and compassionate path to healing.

Eddie and his wife Teri have a therapy practice in Texas, and have co-authored the book Going Deeper for Betrayed Partners.

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A clarifying, infomative, and encouraging conversation with EDDIE CAPPARUCCI, therapist and author of multiple books, including Going Deeper: How the Inner Child Affects Your Sexual Addiction.

Episode 38 | David Thomas: Recognize, Regulate, and Repair will be available Tuesday, May 27th!

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Raising kids in a way that nurtures them and sets them up for a healthy life is SO difficult. Most parents deeply desire to provide for their kids in the best ways they can. But often they feel like they're showing up with a deficit, not having received nurture, care, and attention from their parents to the extent they needed it.

Our guest, David Thomas, has been helping parents, kids, and families navigate through these types of life struggles for decades. As co-founder and Executive Director of Daystar Counseling Ministries in Nashville TN, David is dedicated to providing support, encouragement & compassion to children, adolescents & families in need through counseling.

David is also the author of several books, including Raising Emotionally Strong Boys: Tools Your Son Can Build On for Life. He and his partner at Daystar Sissy Goff host the incredibly popular and helpful podcast Raising Boys and Girls, which has helped thousands of parents engage more lovingly and confidently with their kids. 

David and Sissy have just released a series of children's books, called The Daystar Dogs, which help parents navigate complicated emotions with their kids.

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An encouraging and helpful conversation for parents, with DAVID THOMAS, author, therapist, executive director of Daystar Counseling Ministries (Nashville TN), and co-host of the wildly popular podcast Raising Boys and Girls.

Episode 37 | David Thomas: Recognize, Regulate, and Repair will be available Tuesday, May 13th!

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