Can you help someone out of their past, if the root of the problem still remains? 

I was listening to the news recently and heard the story about Michael Oher and his fight with the Tuohy family. It reminded me of how bringing someone into a healthy family can be an amazing thing, but if they don’t do the deep work, the problems will still remain. As a disclaimer, this is only my opinion, and I will be talking in generalizations, not specifically on this case, as I don’t have any inside info. 

Can you take a boy(or girl) that you see needs help and change their life with your faith, love, and family values? We have tried to do this. When my daughter was younger we took in her friend who needed all those things, however, the ending was different. 

You have to name the harm and go deeper with your story to clear out any more pain. The pain won’t completely go away, but you will know how to handle it, or will not carry any bitter root from it.

Figure out your past story. If you have grown up with highly traumatic or dysfunctional parents, please seek professional help and let this be an ongoing conversation until you feel the new growth possible!

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