Do you ever wonder why you still feel triggered, even in a healthy relationship? In this live episode of Codependency Alchemy, I share what I’ve been navigating with my partner around boundaries, conflict, and the uncomfortable truth that our partners can’t always meet us the way we want. We explore what to do when one person needs space and the other wants resolution now, why codependency pulls us toward fawning, and how to use inner child healing to find safety in yourself instead of demanding it from someone else.

This episode is for you if:

* You feel activated even in a good relationship and don’t know why.

* You and your partner want opposite things in conflict (space vs. talk now).

* You tend to shut down, over-explain, or fawn to avoid tension.

* You’re ready to learn practices that bring compassion and clarity to your triggers.

I wish someone would have told me that triggers aren’t proof your relationship is broken, but that they’re invitations. Every time you’re activated, your nervous system is pointing to an old story: I’m not safe, I’m not loved, I’m on my own.

What if instead of demanding your partner to fix it, we asked ourselves: what part of me is being reactivated, and how can I meet that need myself? The moment you start giving yourself the safety, love, or validation you’re seeking, your triggers shift from enemies to guides.

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