Brilliant Balance

When your problem solving becomes a problem


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Have you ever caught yourself slipping into "fixer mode," always jumping in to solve everyone's problems, sometimes before they even ask? In today's episode, I'm sharing the psychology behind why so many of us feel compelled to take charge and what it's really costing us (and those we care about most).

You'll discover why being the go-to problem-solver isn't always helpful and how it can unintentionally hinder others' growth while depleting your own reserves. I'll offer a practical roadmap to shift from rescuing to coaching, showing you how to empower those around you at work and at home to step up, learn, and grow.

Whether you're a leader, a parent, or just someone who feels responsible for everyone else's happiness, this episode is for you. Tune in to learn how to create healthier, more sustainable relationships—and reclaim some much-needed headspace for yourself.

Show Highlights:

  • Invitation to my "Clarity & Courage" workshop on June 5. [01:29]
  • What is the fixer reflex? [03:07]
  • Over-functioning vs. under-functioning. [04:19]
  • The psychological reasons behind fixer behavior. [06:25]
  • How chronic fixing depletes the fixer. [10:55]
  • The debilitating costs of fixing to the dependent. [13:44]
  • Why breaking free from the fixer pattern is challenging. [16:38]
  • Learned responsibility bias and unlearning it. [18:39]
  • Beginning the shift from being a fixer to a facilitator. [20:37]
  • Join our BOLD community for support to overcome fixer habits. [25:17]

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