Are you a physician… and tired of getting triggered, even when you know better?

For years, I didn’t even realize I was being triggered.

I thought I was just reacting… normally.

Reasonably.

Like anyone would.

One moment I’d be completely calm,

and the next, something small would happen and it felt like I’d been hijacked.

Like a wild elephant had taken over.

And whatever came out of me in those moments…

felt justified at the time.

But often came with regret later.

It didn’t feel like a “trigger.”

It just felt like… me.

Which made it even more confusing.

What I didn’t understand back then is this:

If a reaction feels huge, it’s usually not because the moment is huge —

it’s because something inside of us is.

In this week’s episode, Where Do Triggers Come From, The Answer May Surprise You…, we gently unpack what’s actually happening underneath those reactions.

Because triggers are not random.

And they’re not caused by the other person.

They’re pointing somewhere.

And when you start to see them differently, everything begins to shift.

Episode timestamps:

00:50 — Why triggers don’t feel like triggers (they just feel like “you”)

01:54 — What triggers actually are and why they feel so overwhelming

03:01 — The first big shift: seeing triggers as gifts, not problems

04:12 — Why triggers come from within (not the situation)

06:13 — The “minefield” metaphor that changes everything

07:07 — Why some comments don’t affect you… and others hit deeply

09:04 — How your past shapes your emotional reactions

10:22 — The second shift: your reaction reveals a “raw spot”

10:49 — Why healing yourself changes everything in your relationships

11:36 — Why external fixes don’t work without inner healing

12:21 — The foundation: becoming a more aware, healed version of you

One of the biggest shifts for me was this:

I stopped seeing triggers as problems…

and started seeing them as invitations.

Because if growth really matters —

then the only way forward is through the exact places that feel hardest.

And those moments?

They’re not setbacks.

They’re signposts.

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And if you’re reading this thinking… this is exactly what I struggle with —

we’ve just launched something new called Untriggerable.

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