Sexual health is still taboo in many circles. Even for physicians. 

Many of us didn’t get enough sexual education when we were studying. Surprisingly, this also applies to OBGYNs. 

This is the reason why today’s guest, Dr Sadaf Lodhi, decided to become a sexual coach. She noticed a massive gap in her knowledge and took the matter into her own hands. 

Dr Sadaf Lodhi is a board-certified OBGYN and executive coach for women based in New York. She graduated from the University of Michigan with honors, receiving a Bachelor of Science in Biochemistry. 

Afterwards, she acquired her Doctorate in Osteopathic Medicine at Michigan State University. Then she completed her residency in gynecology and obstetrics in Michigan.

She earned her life and executive coach certification from Rutgers University and is now a sex counselor and educator. 

As a practicing OBGYN in New York for over 20 years, her mission has always been to empower and educate women. Most recently, she opened up a telehealth practice serving patients in New York and Michigan for sexual and menopausal health. 

Dr Sadaf Lodhi helps women with sexual confidence through coaching so that they can find pleasure in their relationships. She believes that all women, regardless of their backgrounds, have the potential to live life to its fullest.

What we discuss in this episode:

• The reason why did Dr Sadaf Lodhi become a sex coach 
• The explanation of the sexual response cycle
• The definition of “good enough sex”  

What you’ll learn from it:

• How to develop a more sex-positive mindset
• How to bridge the gap between sexual and emotional intimacy
• How to spice things up in a relationship that feels stale  
• How to activate your sexual desire when your plate is full of obligations 

I learn so much from this conversation. I hope you enjoy it and learn as much as I did.   

Thinking of you, Kavetha

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In This Episode:

00:00 Welcome back to another episode of Emotional Mastery

01:07 Introducing Dr Sadaf Lodhi

03:48 How did Dr Sadaf Lodhi get into coaching? 

06:53 When did Dr Sadaf Lodhi decide to become a coach?  

07:37 The discomfort associated with talking about sex 

08:49 How to develop a more sex-positive mindset? 

10:48 Some of the most common sex-negative thoughts 

12:01 How to bridge the gap between sexual and emotional intimacy?

15:19 How to spice things up in a relationship that feels stale? 

18:07 People who feel uncomfortable scheduling dates with their partner  

21:35 Explanation of the sexual response cycle 

26:53 How to activate your sexual desire when your plate is full of obligations?    

29:33 Balancing the household chores to increase the libido 

33:47 Definition of “good enough sex” 

36:52 Dr Sadaf Lodhi’s faith and its connection with her work

41:26 How can we help younger people be more sex-positive? 

43:59 Different religious backgrounds and sexual health

45:09 Does an increase in emotional intimacy reduce passion? 

47:47 How to create mystery with a long-term partner?

49:44 How to start teaching emotional mastery?

54:39 Don’t compare yourself to others

55:59 Where can we find Dr Sadaf Lodhi? 

57:04 Final words of wisdom

Resources mentioned: 

- Book “Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle” by Emily Nagoski PhD and Amelia Nagoski DMA - https://www.amazon.com/Burnout-Secret-Unlocking-Stress-Cycle/dp/1984818325/ 

Connect with Dr. Sadaf Lodhi: 

- Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/drsadafobgyn/ 

- TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@drsadafobgyn 

- Podcast - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-muslim-sex-podcast/id1603471810 

- Website - https://drsadaf.com/ 

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