For years, I would get hurt, triggered and worked up easily.And I tried everything that my therapist suggested.Counting to 10, using I-statements, deep breaths….nothing worked.It took a couple years, but I finally figured out why.It was because I was not engaging my frontal lobe. When my frontal lobe is not online, I can’t stop the triggering thoughts and feelings.But how do you switch your frontal lobe on?That’s what I will share with you in this episode.This can change your life if you use it.FREE tools:<ul><li>Get FREE access to my ‘Conflict Cure’ mini-course, plus weekly relationship tools delivered straight to your inbox —> <a href="https://bit.ly/RelationalIQ-Newsletter" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://bit.ly/RelationalIQ-Newsletter</a></li></ul> <ul><li>Need more customized support? Apply for a Relationship Breakthrough Call with Dr. Kavetha Sun —> <a href="https://go.oncehub.com/BreakthroughCallwithDrKavethaSun" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://go.oncehub.com/BreakthroughCallwithDrKavethaSun</a></li></ul>

For years, I would get hurt, triggered and worked up easily. And I tried everything that my therapist suggested. Counting to 10, using I-statements, deep breaths….nothing worked. It took a couple years, but I finally figured out why. It was because I was not engaging my frontal lobe. When my frontal lobe is not online, I can’t stop the triggering thoughts and feelings. But how do you switch your frontal lobe on? That’s what I will share with you in this episode. This can change your life if you use it. FREE tools:Get FREE access to my ‘Conflict Cure’ mini-course, plus weekly relationship tools delivered straight to your inbox —> https://bit.ly/RelationalIQ-Newsletter Need more customized support? Apply for a Relationship Breakthrough Call with Dr. Kavetha Sun —> https://go.oncehub.com/BreakthroughCallwithDrKavethaSun

For years, I would get hurt, triggered and worked up easily.And I tried everything that my therapist suggested.Counting to 10, using I-statements, deep breaths….nothing worked.It took a couple years, but I finally figured out why.It was because I was not engaging my frontal lobe. When my frontal lobe is not online, I can’t stop the triggering thoughts and feelings.But how do you switch your frontal lobe on?That’s what I will share with you in this episode.This can change your life if you use it.FREE tools:<ul><li>Get FREE access to my ‘Conflict Cure’ mini-course, plus weekly relationship tools delivered straight to your inbox —&gt;&nbsp;<a href="https://bit.ly/RelationalIQ-Newsletter" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://bit.ly/RelationalIQ-Newsletter</a></li></ul> <ul><li>Need more customized support? Apply for a Relationship Breakthrough Call with Dr. Kavetha Sun —&gt;&nbsp;<a href="https://go.oncehub.com/BreakthroughCallwithDrKavethaSun" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://go.oncehub.com/BreakthroughCallwithDrKavethaSun</a></li></ul>

Why Counting to 10 Doesn't Work and What to Do Instead?

This is a show about marriage, Unlike other shows about marriage, Heal Your Relationships is for women whose partners refuse therapy. If that is you, please know that you can still have the marriage you want, and we can help you get there.

I’m your host Dr. Kavetha Sun, M.D. Even as a double board-certified psychiatrist, I struggled for years in my intimate relationships. This show is a culmination of everything I learned over ten years of stumbling through my own healing journey. My hope is that it gives you a head start. Each week, I will share simple, research-backed tools that you can use immediately to help you resolve conflict, restore connection, and pass on a legacy you are proud of.

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This is a show about marriage, Unlike other shows about marriage, Heal Your Relationships is for women whose partners refuse therapy. If that is you, please know that you can still have the marriage you want, and we can help you get there. I’m your host Dr. Kavetha Sun, M.D. Even as a double board-certified psychiatrist, I struggled for years in my intimate relationships. This show is a culmination of everything I learned over ten years of stumbling through my own healing journey. My hope is that it gives you a head start. Each week, I will share simple, research-backed tools that you can use immediately to help you resolve conflict, restore connection, and pass on a legacy you are proud of. PS: Whenever you’re ready, here are two ways I can support you further: ⚡️Want my personalized help to break trauma patterns and heal your relationships in just 90 days? Book a free call to see if our flagship program Resilience 360 is the right next step for you → https://go.oncehub.com/BreakthroughCallwithDrKavethaSun ⚡️Have you seen my YouTube Channel? I'm putting a lot of energy into creating valuable content that you won't find anywhere else. Come check out my latest stuff, and give me a like and subscribe. → https://bit.ly/DrKavethaSunYouTubeChannel ⚡️ Or if you have any questions, feel free to write us an email at admin@drkavethasun.com — we’d love to hear from you. Let’s get started.

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