Language of Love with Dr. Laura Berman

Why Does Sex Leave Me Feeling So Alone?


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You just had sex… and now you feel worse." The bodies were close, the chemistry was there, maybe even fireworks. But now you're lying there, staring at the ceiling, wondering why do I feel so damn empty? Maybe there was  no emotional spark, just physical contact—and now you're caught in the afterglow of regret. You’re not broken. You’re not alone. And no, you’re not crazy for wanting more than just skin-on-skin.

In this episode of Language of Love Bite, we’re talking about lonely sex—why it happens, how to spot it, and how one honest sentence can shift everything. It’s raw. It’s real. And it might just save your next connection from becoming another ghost in your bed.

We're going deep on:

  • Why sex doesn’t automatically equal intimacy – How physical closeness can still leave you feeling disconnected  

  •  The “maintenance sex” trap – When sex becomes transactional (and why quickies aren’t the problem)  

  • Why emotional foreplay matters – Especially for those with responsive desire or “feminine” energy  

  •  How past trauma or dissociation can creep into the bedroom – Leaving you feeling alone even when you’re not  

  •  The one sentence that can transform your connection – A simple invitation to bring hearts (not just bodies) closer  

    Feeling disconnected even in a sexually active relationship? You’re not the only one.  Share your story: Email [email protected]—your experience could help someone else feel less alone.

    Craving a deeper connection? Grab my book Sex Magic for tools on sacred intimacy.

    Because you deserve sex that makes you feel whole—not hollow.


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