In this profound conversation, Dr. Anthony Balduzzi welcomes attachment specialist Adam Lane Smith to unpack how our early childhood experiences wire our nervous systems—and how that wiring can shape everything from our health to our marriages. Adam explains the science and psychology of attachment theory, revealing why so many high-achieving parents silently suffer from emotional disconnection, loneliness, and self-sabotaging health behaviors.

Listeners will learn about the three main insecure attachment styles—avoidant, anxious, and mixed—and how they show up in relationships, parenting, and health choices. Adam provides a visceral, relatable description of how these patterns develop, the havoc they can wreak, and how they can be completely healed through conscious effort, safe relationships, and nervous system regulation.

But this episode isn’t just theoretical. Dr. Balduzzi and Adam dive deep into the practical side: how women can build secure attachment through small, consistent steps, how fitness plays a critical role in rewiring the brain for connection, and how parents can start creating transformational moments with their kids—without needing to be perfect.

This episode will resonate with anyone who’s ever felt disconnected despite doing everything “right.” It’s a wake-up call for high performers, a roadmap for parents, and a love letter to those willing to do the inner work. Don’t miss the insights that could quite literally transform your relationships—and your life.

Key Takeaways:

• Early trauma wires nervous system dysfunction
• Avoidant = survival mode, overwork, disconnected
• Anxious = approval seeking, learned helplessness
• Secure = calm, connected, honest communication
• Attachment issues crush hormone balance
• Most divorces = anxious woman + avoidant man
• High performers often hide deep loneliness
• Nervous system dysregulation blocks oxytocin
• Healing begins with awareness and self-reflection
• Fixing attachment transforms your physiology
• Parents must become self-correcting, not perfect
• Fitness supports nervous system healing
• Kids model what they see, not what you say
• Transparency + feedback = secure relationships
• Your health habits are also love habits

Learn More about Adam Lane Smith:

Website: https://adamlanesmith.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBO093GsMmnA9tb8lZPhbgg

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TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro?lang=en

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AdamLaneSmith/

Podcast: I Wish You Knew Podcast  https://iwishyouknew.show/

Threads: https://www.threads.com/@attachmentadam

Biographical Information on Adam Lane Smith:

Adam Lane Smith, MA Psych, is recognized globally for his groundbreaking work in applied attachment psychology. Over the past 15 years, he has guided more than 1,600 private clients  (including top executives, Hollywood A-listers, and management professionals) towards building resilient and effective relationships, both at home and at work. A former Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Adam left his practice in 2021 after developing a practical, attachment science driven approach that addresses the root causes of broken cooperation, conflict and isolation, while repairing and strengthening relationships. Now, he’s on a mission to bring secure attachment to 1 billion people worldwide.

Today, Adam is a sought-after author, specialist and media personality with over 650,000 followers who helps impactful individuals transform their relationships, reducing friction, increasing loyalty, and nurturing high-trust environments.

In his practice, he and his team of certified coaches translate cutting-edge attachment psychology into practical methodologies that businesses can apply immediately to bolster employee engagement, dedication, and performance. With an industry-leading 99.8% success rate within his private practice programs, Adam’s proven methods focus on what truly motivates people: feeling valued, safe, and connected to a larger mission.

Adam has been featured as an expert in over 100 media appearances, including large publications, multi-million viewer podcasts, and traditional media. He has received endorsements from iHeartRadio, the New York Post, Sal DiStefano (Mind Pump Show - 300K listeners), Chris Williamson (Modern Wisdom - 144K listeners), Max Lugavere (The Genius Life Podcast - 138K listeners), Mikhaila Peterson (The Mikhaila Peterson Show - 100K listeners), Zuby (Real Talk With Zuby - 32K listeners), Mark Groves (Create the Love Podcast - 180K listeners) and many more. 

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