Episode 55: Hey my loves 💕 This week, we’re keeping things punchy and powerful as I break down something I see all the time in my community and my coaching sessions—when you know a relationship isn’t right for you, but you just can’t seem to leave.

Whether it's your spouse, your affair partner, or both, this episode is a loving and truth-filled deep dive into the real reasons why letting go feels impossible. (Spoiler alert: it’s not because you’re broken, weak, or indecisive. It’s your nervous system, babe. It’s trauma. It’s biology. And it's very real. 😮‍💨)

I’m walking you through the 4 biggest reasons that might be keeping you stuck and offering tangible tools for working through each one—including somatic practices, nervous system support, and some beautiful reparenting work.

And yes, this one goes out especially to my affair girlies 💋 who are feeling deep connection and deep confusion. You're not alone. You're not crazy. You're just wired for connection—and we’re going to talk about how to gently untangle those wires and come back home to YOU. 💫

If you’ve been layering on shame because you know you should leave but your body won’t cooperate, this is your episode. This is your permission slip to stop blaming yourself and start understanding yourself. 🌿💗

Let’s reframe “letting go” as a process—not a lightning bolt moment. You are not behind. You are exactly where you need to be.

Show Notes:

Attached - Amir Levine

Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving: A Guide and Map for Recovering from Childhood Trauma - Pete Walker

Breathwork - Allison Alexander's Website

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