Many couples don’t even notice when their relationship starts slipping into routine and mediocrity, until the spark feels completely gone. In this conversation with Matt and Sheri Salis, we uncover the subtle ways partners drift apart, how comfort can quietly turn into disconnection, and why ignoring the small warning signs can put intimacy and passion at risk. You’ll learn what patterns to watch for, why “settling” can feel safe but damaging, and most importantly, how to rekindle excitement, curiosity, and closeness before it’s too late. Whether you’ve been together for years or are simply committed to keeping your relationship strong, this video will inspire you to break free from autopilot and build a deeper, more intentional love with your partner.

Expertise: Matt Salis is a behavioral health researcher and writer with a masters in sexual health, and Sheri Salis is the star of the Untoxicated Podcast. Together, they have recovered individually, and grown their relationship, from Matt's ten years of active alcoholism. Sheri loves her kids and her cats more than Matt, but Matt is gaining on the cats.

https://un-toxicated.com/

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(0:00) Introduction to mediocrity and desire discrepancy in relationships

(0:18) Introduction of Matt and Sherry Salis

(0:38) Emotional safety, playfulness, and doing the work

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(2:28) Impact of alcoholism on relationships and Matt and Sherry's journey

(6:33) Sobriety, intimacy challenges, and obligatory sex perspectives

(12:25) Repairing intimacy and rebuilding trust

(19:08) Deep dive into emotional safety and intimacy

(23:42) The role of fun and playfulness in relationships

(25:41) Part two topics and libidocode.com quiz

(26:34) Sherry and Matt's podcast mention

(27:04) Final thoughts from Matt Salis

(28:10) Closing remarks and outro