Flying Free

Why You Can’t Stop Thinking About Your Abuser—and When That Changes [326]


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Hey there, beautiful butterfly! It's Natalie here, and boy do I have an episode for you today that's going to make you feel SEEN in a way that might just take your breath away.


Have you ever found yourself at 3 AM, deep in a Google rabbit hole, trying to make sense of your husband's behavior like you're some kind of undercover FBI agent? Well, I'm here to tell you that this obsession isn't a sign you're losing it—it's actually the FIRST step toward your freedom.


In this episode, I'm breaking down the five stages of recovery from emotional abuse that I've witnessed time and again in my work with thousands of women:

  • Discover why your brain's detective mode is actually a necessary part of healing (and why you should stop beating yourself up for "still thinking about him")
  • Learn about the powerful moment when your focus shifts from figuring HIM out to reclaiming YOU—and why this is where the real magic happens
  • Understand how your healing journey transforms you from a survivor desperately searching for answers to the wise mentor you never had (but always deserved)
  • Find out why setting boundaries isn't just about protecting yourself—it's about rediscovering joy and learning to trust yourself again

Remember, healing isn't linear, and every stage serves a purpose. Whether you're analyzing text messages at midnight or helping other women find their wings, you're exactly where you need to be. Grab your coffee (or wine—zero judgment here!), get comfortable, and let me walk you through how this messy, beautiful recovery process really happens.


You are becoming who you were always meant to be. And I promise you, butterfly—you are NOT alone.


Read the show notes and/or ask Natalie a question here


Related Resources:

  • Liked this episode? Here are some other episodes and an article that you may find helpful as well: 
  • Episode 306, “Lessons I’m Learning in Physical Therapy About How We Heal.” 
  • Episode 277, “What the Healing Journey Looks Like.” 
  • An article, “7 Steps to Identifying and Healing from an Emotionally Abusive ‘Christian’ Marriage.” 
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