Episode 69: Hey, my loves! 💕 This week’s episode emerged from a comment shared with me by one of my community members and I cannot wait for you to dive into the goodies that came out of it with me. We’re talking about something BIG—moving from an expectation mindset (hello control + perfectionism 👋) into an exploration mindset that gives you SPACE to breathe, play, and actually be human. 🌱

So many of us, especially as women, are living under crushing double standards. We give everyone else so much grace—our kids, our partners, even strangers—yet hold ourselves to impossibly high bars. And when we dig deeper, we see how this is rooted in childhood trauma, cultural programming, and patriarchal BS. 🙅‍♀️

I’m going to share:
 ✅ Where this pattern of perfectionism and self-abandonment comes from.
 ✅ How to spot when you’re living from expectation instead of exploration.
 ✅ Why an exploratory mindset is your birthright (and how it changes EVERYTHING).
 ✅ What this looks like inside real relationships—and what to do if your marriage doesn’t allow room for exploration.

This episode is part pep talk, part permission slip, and 100% your reminder that you were never meant to be perfect—you were meant to BECOME. 💫

Grab your headphones, take a deep breath, and let’s reclaim that juicy, curious, messy, ALIVE version of you. You deserve this. ❤️

Show Notes:

The Man Music Video - Taylor Swift

Ejaculate Responsibly: A Whole New Way to Think About Abortion - Gabrielle Stanley Blair

The Crane Wife - CJ Hauser 

The Tragedy of Heterosexuality - Jane Ward

Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships - Marshall B. Rosenberg PhD

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