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S2.E20: We're diving deep into answering some of the most pressing questions about the Law of Attraction.

Show Highlights:

• The Basics of the Law of Attraction: We start with an introduction to the Law of Attraction, explaining it as the principle that what we focus on, positive or negative, can manifest in our lives. We explore how thoughts and emotions shape our reality and the power of this universal law.
• Why the Law of Attraction May Not Work: We delve into a crucial question – why the Law of Attraction might not be working for some. Negative thought patterns, resistance, and the importance of patience are discussed. We emphasize that the Law of Attraction is not about wishful thinking but aligning thoughts and actions.
• Removing Limiting Beliefs: Exploring the steps to remove limiting beliefs, we highlight the significance of awareness. The process of discovering these hidden beliefs is explained, touching on emotions as a clue and the role of discomfort in personal growth.
• Techniques for Raising Your Vibration: We reveal the most important technique for raising your vibrational frequency – self-love and self-care. We address the issue of conditional self-love and how it affects manifestation, emphasizing gratitude for oneself.
• The Law of Attraction and Health: The Law of Attraction's role in improving health is discussed, including personal stories of recovery and wellness through mindset. We mention Louise Hay, Anita Moorjani, Joe Dispenza, and how their experiences demonstrate the mind-body connection.
• Attracting Positive People: We answer how the Law of Attraction can help attract positive people into your life. The importance of self-focus and energetic alignment is emphasized, along with the notion that clearing space may be necessary for alignment with the right people.
• Debunking Common Misconceptions: We address common misconceptions about the Law of Attraction and provide explanations. For instance, instant manifestation is debunked, and the importance of understanding that emotions are a natural part of life is discussed. We explain that the Law of Attraction doesn't override free will.
• Maintaining Positivity in Adversity: We explore the challenging question of how to maintain a positive mindset in the face of adversity or challenges. The importance of faith in the process and processing emotions is highlighted.

Join us on this episode of Heal Yourself with the Law of Attraction, as we answer your questions, dispel common myths about the Law of Attraction, and provide insights into manifesting your desires, improving health, and embracing the journey of personal growth.

Important Links

Louise Hay

https://www.louisehay.com/

Anita Moorjani

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rhcJNJbRJ6U

Joe Dispenza

https://drjoedispenza.com/

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Just a quick note — this is an older episode recorded when the show was called Heal Yourself with the Law of Attraction. We've since rebranded to Why You Got Sick, where we continue to explore the deeper roots of health and healing. Thanks for being part of this journey.

The information shared in this episode is for educational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose, treat, or replace the advice of your doctor or healthcare provider. Always consult a qualified professional before making changes to your health.

In Season 2, Episode 19, of Heal Yourself with the Law of Attraction, we're going to explore perfectionism.

Show Highlights:

• Examine societal pressures that contribute to our obsession with perfection. From glossy magazine covers to those carefully curated social media feeds, we're constantly bombarded with images of seemingly perfect lives, leaving us feeling inadequate if we don't measure up.
• Discuss the impact of family values and upbringing on our perfectionist tendencies.
• Explore the generational component of perfectionism. It's fascinating how the pursuit of excellence becomes a family tradition, but it can lead to a lot of stress and anxiety.
• Shift gears to the cultural influences, especially in Asian cultures and immigrant families. There's a strong emphasis on diligence, discipline, and the pursuit of excellence. It often results in heightened expectations when it comes to academic and career success.
• Understand how perfectionism takes a toll on our mental and emotional well-being. We'll dive into specific behaviors, like that "black and white" thinking and the all-or-nothing mentality.
• Delve into another aspect: procrastination. For many perfectionists, it's like a coping mechanism driven by an underlying fear of failure. I'll share some personal experiences with procrastination and how it affected my work and well-being.
• Discuss the social anxiety that often comes hand in hand with perfectionism. It leads to constant self-doubt after social interactions and how we tend to seek validation from others.
• Discover the intense self-doubt that perfectionism fosters. It's this never-ending quest to find evidence of our own mistakes and flaws, even after making decisions.
• I'll share my own turning point and how I learned to let go of the need for perfection, embracing life's unpredictability.
• We'll also explore the 80/20 rule, a balanced approach to living, where 80% of the time is dedicated to mindful habits and behaviors, and 20% is reserved for spontaneity and joy.

Join me in this episode as we navigate the complex world of perfectionism, understand its roots, and discover the path to embracing imperfection and living life to the fullest. 

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Glucose Revolution

https://www.glucosegoddess.com/books

Just a quick note — this is an older episode recorded when the show was called Heal Yourself with the Law of Attraction. We've since rebranded to Why You Got Sick, where we continue to explore the deeper roots of health and healing. Thanks for being part of this journey.

The information shared in this episode is for educational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose, treat, or replace the advice of your doctor or healthcare provider. Always consult a qualified professional before making changes to your health.

In Season 2, Episode 18, we explore the intriguing concept of balancing masculine and feminine energies within relationships. We'll delve into how understanding these energies can significantly impact your approach to dating and sustaining a healthy partnership.

Show Highlights

Understanding the Law of Gender

• Clarifying that the Law of Gender is not about adhering to societal gender stereotypes but recognizing the existence of both masculine and feminine energies within each of us.
• Highlighting the ancient philosophy of Taoism, which underscores the balance and harmony of opposites, or yin and yang.

Masculine Energy in Relationships

Expanding on the characteristics of masculine energy within relationships, including:

• Protective instincts.
• Leadership and initiative.
• Taking responsibility for the relationship.
• Handling household responsibilities, not limited to traditional gender roles.
• Effective communication and problem-solving.
• Initiating physical intimacy.
• Providing financial stability.

Feminine Energy in Relationships

• Diving deeper into the qualities of feminine energy in relationships, such as:
• Allowing the partner to take the lead.
• Receiving care and affection.
• Nurturing independence.
• Setting and maintaining healthy boundaries.
• Prioritizing self-care and personal growth.
• Valuing connections beyond the partnership.

My Experiences

• Sharing a real-life observation of a couple in a restaurant, highlighting imbalanced energy dynamics.
• Discussing personal growth and the decision to trust the universe in the realm of dating.
• Expressing the relief in relinquishing control and the belief that the right person will naturally enter my life.

Just a quick note — this is an older episode recorded when the show was called Heal Yourself with the Law of Attraction. We've since rebranded to Why You Got Sick, where we continue to explore the deeper roots of health and healing. Thanks for being part of this journey.

The information shared in this episode is for educational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose, treat, or replace the advice of your doctor or healthcare provider. Always consult a qualified professional before making changes to your health.

In Season 2, Episode 17, we discuss how the feeling of experiencing great moments in life, can sometimes be followed by a lurking fear that something catastrophic is right around the corner.

Show Highlights:

• Exploring the phenomenon of feeling too good in life and the subsequent fear of impending catastrophe.
• Introduction to the "Upper Limit Problem," a concept from Gay Hendricks' book "The Big Leap," which delves into our self-imposed limitations in experiencing love, success, and creativity.
• Real-life examples illustrating the Upper Limit Problem, including scenarios like Sarah's dream vacation gone wrong due to illness, Rachel's self-sabotaging behavior in relationships, and Michelle's financial downfall following a significant promotion.
• Understanding the underlying causes of self-sabotage, including limiting beliefs rooted in childhood, societal conditioning, and past failures, as well as the fear of venturing beyond the comfort zone and the use of self-sabotage as a defense mechanism against vulnerability.
• The role of comfort zones and the subconscious mind's resistance to change, along with the amygdala's response to perceived threats, in contributing to the Upper Limit Problem.
• Strategies for overcoming the Upper Limit Problem, encompassing self-awareness, challenging limiting beliefs, self-compassion, celebrating achievements, expanding comfort zones, cultivating a growth mindset, seeking support, mindfulness and meditation, visualizing success, and lifelong learning.
• A personal anecdote emphasizing the importance of awareness in making choices aligned with happiness and embracing discomfort as a catalyst for personal growth and fulfillment.

Important Links

The Big Leap

https://www.amazon.com.au/Big-Leap-Conquer-Hidden-Level/dp/0061735361

Just a quick note — this is an older episode recorded when the show was called Heal Yourself with the Law of Attraction. We've since rebranded to Why You Got Sick, where we continue to explore the deeper roots of health and healing. Thanks for being part of this journey.

The information shared in this episode is for educational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose, treat, or replace the advice of your doctor or healthcare provider. Always consult a qualified professional before making changes to your health.

In Season 2, Episode 16 of Heal Yourself with the Law of Attraction, we're diving deep into the topic of understanding what it takes to fully invest in holistic health.

Show Highlights:

• Exploring the true cost of pursuing holistic health.
• Breaking down the investment into four parts: financial, time, mental and emotional, and its impact on relationships.
• Understanding that most standard health insurance plans don't cover holistic treatments, leading to significant out-of-pocket expenses.
• Recognizing the need for a gradual approach to holistic health practices to avoid overwhelm and burnout.
• Emphasizing the importance of investing wisely in practices and products that genuinely enhance well-being.
• Highlighting the challenges of shifting your focus inward after a day of external demands.
• Discussing the impact on relationships when loved ones struggle to adapt to your new priorities.
• Encouraging open communication and education to help loved ones understand the significance of holistic health practices.
• Stressing the importance of self-compassion and staying true to your intentions on this challenging journey.
• Exploring the connection between holistic health and the Law of Attraction.
• Emphasizing that self-care is an act of gratitude for your body and mind.
• Offering practical strategies to navigate challenges effectively, including pacing yourself and starting small.
• Advising on financial investment, research, and prioritization of holistic practices.
• Encouraging the evaluation of insurance coverage for potential support.
• Providing tips on communicating your journey to loved ones and fostering understanding.
• Promoting self-love and self-worth as the foundation of holistic health.

Just a quick note — this is an older episode recorded when the show was called Heal Yourself with the Law of Attraction. We've since rebranded to Why You Got Sick, where we continue to explore the deeper roots of health and healing. Thanks for being part of this journey.

The information shared in this episode is for educational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose, treat, or replace the advice of your doctor or healthcare provider. Always consult a qualified professional before making changes to your health.

In Season 2, Episode 15 of Heal Yourself with the Law of Attraction, we will explore the intriguing concept of being cast as the villain in someone else's story. We'll delve into the emotional impact, the science behind our need to be liked, and strategies to navigate these situations gracefully.

Show highlights:

• Our deep-seated need for social acceptance rooted in human psychology.
• How our brain's reward system responds to social validation.
• Signs and indicators of being perceived as the "villain" in someone's story.
• Emotional distancing, confrontation, and negative narratives.
• The challenge of not knowing what's been said and its impact on self-worth.
• How being cast as the villain can affect personal relationships.
• The erosion of trust and the difficulty of rebuilding it.
• Consequences within group dynamics and feelings of isolation.
• Practical strategies for approaching the situation with empathy and understanding.
• The importance of active listening and taking accountability.
• Creating a conducive space for dialogue and potential resolution.
• Possible outcomes after confronting the situation: resolution or continued tension.
• Respecting boundaries and acknowledging the autonomy of the other person.
• Accepting that not every narrative neatly concludes and how to come to terms with this.
• The concept of depersonalizing the experience by understanding diverse perspectives.
• Letting go of the need to control others' perceptions.
• Embracing the idea that every individual interprets situations differently based on their experiences and perspectives.
• The critical role of self-compassion in the process of internal recovery.
• Acknowledging and processing emotions without judgment.
• Engaging in self-care practices to promote emotional healing.
• How being cast as the villain can disrupt self-perception.
• Balancing the Law of Attraction with conflicting self-doubt or guilt.
• Focusing on genuine qualities and values that align with one's true self.
• The concept of Karma and the consequences of negative intentions.

Just a quick note — this is an older episode recorded when the show was called Heal Yourself with the Law of Attraction. We've since rebranded to Why You Got Sick, where we continue to explore the deeper roots of health and healing. Thanks for being part of this journey.

The information shared in this episode is for educational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose, treat, or replace the advice of your doctor or healthcare provider. Always consult a qualified professional before making changes to your health.

Season 2, Episode 14 of Heal Yourself with the Law of Attraction will be a continuation of last week’s topic. This will be PART II of the 2-part episode on eating disorder recovery leveraging the Law of Attraction. Today’s episode will highlight:

Struggles in Collegiate Rowing

• Weight Obsession: In my world of collegiate rowing, maintaining a low weight was essential for success.
• Rigorous Training: The demanding schedule includes early morning practices, afternoon weight sessions, and intense workouts.
• Fierce Competition: With limited spots in the top boat and scholarship contracts on the line, the competition is intense.
• Injury Culture: Injuries are met with skepticism, and there's a strong culture of pushing through pain.

Battle with Eating Disorders

• Eating Disorder: I fell into a dangerous cycle of extreme calorie restriction and purging to meet weight standards.
• "Breakfast Club" Shaming: Attempts to promote healthy eating habits often led to public humiliation.
• Lowest Weight: My obsession with weight reached its peak during my senior year.
• Self-Initiated Recovery: I took it upon myself to research and evaluate different avenues for help, steering my recovery journey.

Healing with the Law of Attraction

• Discovering the Law of Attraction: While seeking help, I discovered the Law of Attraction, emphasizing gratitude and alignment with values.
• Gratitude Practice: Gratitude became a daily ritual, allowing me to appreciate my body's resilience.
• Health is Paramount: I realized the significance of health and embarked on a journey of healing.
• Combining Approaches: I integrated the Law of Attraction principles with my ED treatment recovery process.

Embracing the Journey

• Non-Linear Healing: Recovery is a journey filled with ups and downs, and it's a deeply personal experience.
• Privacy and Control: I chose when and with whom to share my healing journey.
• Faith in Full Recovery: Despite statistics, I believed I could achieve full recovery.
• Ongoing Transformation: My journey continues, marked by continuous learning and personal growth.

Eating Disorder Resources

US National Eating Disorders Association (NEDA):

Website: https://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/

NEDA provides a wealth of information, resources, and support for individuals and families affected by eating disorders. They offer a helpline, online chat, and a confidential screening tool.

Project HEAL (Help to Eat, Accept, and Live):

Website: https://www.theprojectheal.org/

Project HEAL focuses on providing access to treatment and raising awareness about eating disorders. They offer treatment scholarships, support groups, and educational resources.

Butterfly Foundation (Australia):

Website: https://butterfly.org.au/

The Butterfly Foundation offers support, resources, and treatment options for individuals in Australia dealing with eating disorders and body image issues.

Eating Disorder Hope Recovery Helpline (United States):

Phone: 800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255)

This helpline provides confidential support for those struggling with eating disorders and related concerns. It's available in the United States and is a part of the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline.

Crisis Text Line (United States):

Text "NEDA" to 741741

This crisis text line provides support for individuals in times of crisis, including those dealing with eating disorders. It's available 24/7.

Local Mental Health Professionals:

Seeking therapy or counseling from licensed mental health professionals who specialize in eating disorders can provide personalized support and guidance. Psychologists, psychiatrists, dietitians, and therapists can all be valuable resources.

Support Groups:

Participating in local or online support groups can connect you with others who are facing similar challenges. Sharing experiences, strategies, and encouragement can be incredibly helpful.

Remember, seeking help is a sign of strength, and recovery is possible. If you're unsure where to start, consider reaching out to one of the resources mentioned above. Additionally, if you have a healthcare provider or therapist, they can offer guidance on finding appropriate resources and treatment options tailored to your needs.

Other Links

The Secret

https://www.thesecret.tv/products/the-secret-book/

The Magic

https://www.thesecret.tv/products/the-magic-book/

Just a quick note — this is an older episode recorded when the show was called Heal Yourself with the Law of Attraction. We've since rebranded to Why You Got Sick, where we continue to explore the deeper roots of health and healing. Thanks for being part of this journey.

The information shared in this episode is for educational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose, treat, or replace the advice of your doctor or healthcare provider. Always consult a qualified professional before making changes to your health.

Season 2, Episode 13, of Heal Yourself with the Law of Attraction will be the first of a two-part episode where I open up about my battle with an eating disorder, recovery, and the transformative influence of the Law of Attraction during my journey.

Show highlights:

• Early Struggles: Let's rewind a bit - I'm opening up about my childhood battles with body image and my complicated relationship with food that set the stage for my journey.
• Coping Mechanisms in Action: I'll take you through how I turned to sports as a way of coping - it became a lifeline when mental health resources weren't exactly overflowing.
• Rowing to Triumph: Picture this: my shift into competitive rowing. I'll spill the beans on how I shot up in personal growth and achievements, all thanks to some seriously awesome coaches.
• Confronting the Tough Moments: When exhaustion hit, my relationship with food took a turn - it became both a comfort and a bit of a challenge.
• Navigating College Changes: Fast forward to my college rowing days in the US - things got interesting. Suddenly, metrics like weight took the spotlight, and the cultural shift was real.
• Understanding Cultural Influence: We're breaking down how these shifts nudged me toward harmful eating behaviors, and how the culture's focus on weight messed with my self-esteem and performance.
• Untangling Complexity and College Impact: Trust me, the origins of eating disorders are anything but straightforward. And let me tell you, the college experience played a big role in steering me down a tough path.

Join me in this enlightening episode as we navigate the intricate path of eating disorders, recovery, and empowerment.

Eating Disorder Resources

US National Eating Disorders Association (NEDA):

Website: https://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/

NEDA provides a wealth of information, resources, and support for individuals and families affected by eating disorders. They offer a helpline, online chat, and a confidential screening tool.

Project HEAL (Help to Eat, Accept, and Live):

Website: https://www.theprojectheal.org/

Project HEAL focuses on providing access to treatment and raising awareness about eating disorders. They offer treatment scholarships, support groups, and educational resources.

Butterfly Foundation (Australia):

Website: https://butterfly.org.au/

The Butterfly Foundation offers support, resources, and treatment options for individuals in Australia dealing with eating disorders and body image issues.

Eating Disorder Hope Recovery Helpline (United States):

Phone: 800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255)

This helpline provides confidential support for those struggling with eating disorders and related concerns. It's available in the United States and is a part of the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline.

Crisis Text Line (United States):

Text "NEDA" to 741741

This crisis text line provides support for individuals in times of crisis, including those dealing with eating disorders. It's available 24/7.

Local Mental Health Professionals:

Seeking therapy or counseling from licensed mental health professionals who specialize in eating disorders can provide personalized support and guidance. Psychologists, psychiatrists, dietitians, and therapists can all be valuable resources.

Support Groups:

Participating in local or online support groups can connect you with others who are facing similar challenges. Sharing experiences, strategies, and encouragement can be incredibly helpful.

Remember, seeking help is a sign of strength, and recovery is possible. If you're unsure where to start, consider reaching out to one of the resources mentioned above. Additionally, if you have a healthcare provider or therapist, they can offer guidance on finding appropriate resources and treatment options tailored to your needs.

Other Links

Gluten-Free Cookbook

https://wholegreenbakery.com.au/gift-voucher/gluten-free-baking-made-simple-cook-book-by-cherie-lyden/

Just a quick note — this is an older episode recorded when the show was called Heal Yourself with the Law of Attraction. We've since rebranded to Why You Got Sick, where we continue to explore the deeper roots of health and healing. Thanks for being part of this journey.

The information shared in this episode is for educational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose, treat, or replace the advice of your doctor or healthcare provider. Always consult a qualified professional before making changes to your health.

In Season 2, Episode 12, we will explore how to use your phone to supercharge your health and wellness manifestations.

We will cover:

• Introduction to optimizing phone habits for health manifestations.
• Importance of mindfulness in daily life, introducing the concept of using the phone as a tool.
• Changing phone password to reflect intention and prompt conscious awareness.
• Statistics on how frequently people unlock their phones.
• Benefits of reinforcing health intention through password change.
• How this practice impacts both the conscious and subconscious mind.
• Using affirmations in app folder names for daily positive reminders.
• Linking affirmation-based folders to intentions like health and wealth.
• Automating morning affirmations through customized alarms.
• My personal experience and mood elevation from using morning affirmations.
• Utilizing phone wallpaper and lock screen for manifesting.
• Choosing health-related images and overlaying with affirmations.
• Connecting visual cues with intention.
• Exploring the significance of identity in successful manifestation.
• Role of identity in behavior, energy, and attraction.
• How phone hacks contribute to subconscious rewiring.

Just a quick note — this is an older episode recorded when the show was called Heal Yourself with the Law of Attraction. We've since rebranded to Why You Got Sick, where we continue to explore the deeper roots of health and healing. Thanks for being part of this journey.

The information shared in this episode is for educational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose, treat, or replace the advice of your doctor or healthcare provider. Always consult a qualified professional before making changes to your health.

In Season 2, Episode 11, we delve into the Growth-Oriented Dark Night of the Soul – a transformative process that involves profound change, evolution, and personal growth. 

Show Highlights

• Introduction: Understanding the concept of the Growth-Oriented Dark Night of the Soul and its distinction from the spiritual dark night.
• Duration and Complexity: Highlighting that this process is not a brief event but a longer journey of introspection and change.
• Five Phases of the Dark Night
• Initial Crisis: Triggered by unexpected traumatic events, leading to questioning and reevaluation.
• Dissolution: Experience of significant loss and upheaval in various aspects of life.
• Surrender & Confrontation with Self: Acknowledging lack of control, confronting inner conflicts, and facing past habits.
• Insight & Transformation: Deep exploration, learning, and healing to align with authentic self.
• Reintegration: Crafting a life reflecting newfound understanding and embracing change.
• Ongoing Transformation: Emphasizing that the dark night of the soul isn't a one-time occurrence but a cyclical process throughout life.
• Overcoming Fear and Embracing Transformation: The positive outcomes of challenges and growth.
• Personal Journey: A personal account of navigating the Growth-Oriented Dark Night of the Soul.

Join us in this episode as we navigate the twists and turns of the Growth-Oriented Dark Night of the Soul and emerge with a deeper understanding of personal transformation and growth. 

Remember, if you are going through a tough time, please reach out to Licensed Health Care Professionals to gain additional support.

Important Links

Pillow Thoughts II: Healing the Heart

https://www.amazon.com.au/Pillow-Thoughts-II-Healing-Heart/dp/1449495087