Nope! We're Not Monogamous

Why You Keep Comparing Yourself to Your Metamour (And How to Stop), Ep. 107


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Struggling with comparison in your non-monogamous relationship?

Whether it’s jealousy, insecurity, or spiraling thoughts when your partner mentions someone new—you’re not alone, and you’re not broken.

In this episode, we explore why comparison shows up in polyamory and non-monogamy, how it impacts your nervous system, and what you can do to stop the spiral and build emotional safety.

You’ll learn:

  • Why comparison hits hard in non-monogamy (even when you “know better”)
  • How internalized patriarchy and survival instincts fuel insecurity
  • Grounding tools to manage triggers in real-time
  • Daily practices to rebuild self-trust and self-worth
  • How to reframe your value beyond your partner’s other connections

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Join the Beyond Compare confidence program waitlist here → https://elleciapaine.podia.com/beyondcompare

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