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Ever start off hot and heavy with a guy who suddenly pulled back or ghosted? Of course, you have. Ever start off hot and heavy with a guy and realize he's not the man for you? Of course, you have. Check out this Love U Podcast to understand why this is the very nature of dating - and how not to take it personally.

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Hi, I'm Evan Marc Katz, Dating coach for smart, strong, successful women and your personal trainer for love. Welcome to the Love U podcast. Stick around to the end to discover why we're all hypocrites when it comes to love and why it's essential to recognize our own hypocrisy. When we're done, I'll let you know how you can join Love U to create a passionate relationship that makes you feel safe, heard, and understood. 

So true story, my client, Brianna, is a forty-nine year old, never married woman who's always been drawn to emotionally unavailable men. 

When she started Love U Masters coaching, Brianna meets this guy, comes on strong, calling her every day saying, "you're the one." And soon they're spending the night together four or five times a week. Now, like many relationships that start off hot and heavy, it feels great. Dopamine, serotonin, norepinephrine, chemistry, talking about a future, think I'm falling in love with you. 

And after a few weeks, Brianna starts to realize as she learns more about this guy who she's spending all of her time with, that something didn't feel quite right. And, she wasn't gonna come out and criticize him or tell him what was wrong with him, whatever her misgivings were. She just recognized that this thing that she thought was right wasn't right. She dove into the pool and there was no water in the pool, and she decided she needed to get out of the pool. So she breaks up with him. And he was shocked because everything seemed so great. But she did the right thing objectively. She did the right thing instead of continuing a relationship that didn't feel right. 

Now, would anybody, maybe you, doubt that Brianna is a good person? I wouldn't. She is my client. And if Brianna is a good person for diving into a hot and heavy relationship and then having second thoughts, doesn't it stand to reason that a man could do the exact same thing? Yeah. 

So that doesn't absolve they are actually bad men. There are bad men who just use you for sex without commitment and know they're doing something wrong. But I think there's a lot more situations like the one I just described with Brianna.