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How about we stop normalizing quickie engagements?

Yesterday, People magazine announced the engagement of influencer Danielle Walter and her boyfriend, Lucas Alcantara. True to form, any woman who expressed skepticism about the upcoming nuptials was labeled a Bitter Betty. Because when a relationship is built in public, God forbid people analyze what they see. And what many see is a big, bright bouquet of red flags.

In this episode, I’m talking fast-tracked relationships, curated transparency, influencer echo chambers, and why women are still expected to ignore red flags and context clues in favor of blind support.

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If every straight man on your dating apps says Good Will Hunting is his favorite movie, that’s not taste. That’s a red flag with a screenplay.

In this episode, I break down why men relate to Will, how avoidant attachment shows up in straight single men on dating apps, and why emotional unavailability keeps getting mistaken for depth.

We’re talking fear of vulnerability, mixed signals, and what happens when someone doesn’t know how to process emotion so it comes out as sarcasm, shutdowns, or sudden anger.

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Carrie Bradshaw gave us a lot of ideas. Not all of them were good. A creator recently shared a story about a “social experiment” she conducted with her friends. She invited about 25 women to celebrate her 35th birthday with a destination trip and was devastated by the response she got from her friends.

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Some people sabotage relationships by pushing people away. Others sabotage relationships by turning their love lives into content.

In this episode of Character Analysis, I take a deep dive into dating influencer Danielle Walter and why her smug 21-part relationship docu-series made her a viral punch line.

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Hey there! It's been a minute. Christan has launched her solo podcast (with occasional appearances by Sarah) called Character Analysis. Here's the latest CA episode. If you like it, come on over and subscribe.

Narcissist. Psychopath. Sadist.

These labels explode every time a case like Bryan Kohberger’s hits the headlines — but do any of them actually mean something in a courtroom?

In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Ziv E. Cohen, a forensic psychiatrist, to unpack how mental-health defenses really work, including what Luigi Mangione’s potential mental-health defenses might look like — and where they fall apart. We spend significant time on Bryan Kohberger, digging into the role of sadism, fantasy, control, and narcissistic traits, and why those patterns matter when people are searching for motive. We also pull comparisons to Bundy and BTK, exploring why the same psychological questions resurface across cases.

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01:22 – 03:12How forensic psychiatry works: profiling, ethics, pattern recognition.

03:12 – 07:56Luigi Mangione case: deliberate violence, psychopathy vs sadism, why impulse and psychosis don’t fit.

07:56 – 11:59Psychosis, manifestos, grandiosity, and how writings factor into mental health defenses.

11:59 – 17:53Extreme Emotional Disturbance, insanity defenses, and why Luigi’s legal options are limited.

17:53 – 23:14Brian Kohberger: motive-less violence, criminology obsession, and psychopathy frameworks.

23:14 – 29:45Fan culture, hybristophilia, narcissism, control, and psychological sadism.

29:45 – 36:45Fear, power, sexual sadism, and why Idaho looks different from Luigi’s case.

36:45 – 39:56Final reflections, why “why” may be unknowable, bonus episode + wrap-up.

Dr. Ziv E. Cohen, M.D., is a psychiatrist and the CEO of ⁠Principium Psychiatry⁠, a leading national mental health organization with offices in New York, Connecticut, California, and Florida. Principium’s multidisciplinary team of psychiatrists, nurse practitioners, psychologists, and therapists provides comprehensive treatment across the full continuum of care, from psychotherapy and medication management to advanced interventional and forensic services. Under Dr. Cohen’s leadership, Principium has become known for integrating cutting-edge therapies such as TMS, ketamine and Spravato treatments, ketamine-assisted psychotherapy, ECT, and IOP programs, while also expanding its expertise into civil and criminal forensic evaluations.

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This is the penultimate episode of Worth the Weight before we wrap things up next week — and pivot into my new podcast, Character Analysis. After years of exploring dating, identity, and mental health, I’m taking everything I’ve learned and going deeper into where true crime, psychology, and pop culture collide.

In this episode, I break down the difference between narcissistic traits and Narcissistic Personality Disorder, how narcissists charm and manipulate social situations, and why we’re so often drawn to them. From Blair Waldorf to Patrick Bateman, Regina George to Joe Goldberg, I unpack the spectrum of narcissism — from magnetic to malignant.

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Dating while neurodivergent can feel like playing a game where everyone else got the rulebook and you’re improvising. This week, Sarah and I sit down with Brit, an autism specialist, to unpack the real challenges (and surprising strengths) of dating with ADHD, autism, and beyond. From oversharing to rejection sensitivity, overstimulation to ghosting, we get into what’s really happening under the surface—and how to date with more clarity, grace, and self-compassion.

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Timestamps:
00:00 – Late-in-life diagnoses & light bulb moments
03:00 – Social cues, sarcasm & sensory overload
08:30 – Oversharing vs. undersharing: finding the middle
19:50 – Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria in dating
23:30 – Anger, patriarchy & rejection
25:20 – Limerence: when crushes tip into obsession
30:00 – Ghosting, texting back & repair strategies

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This week, Sarah and I had what I’m calling our “first fight” — over women getting engaged to their AI boyfriends. That debate led us straight into AI psychosis, grief, loneliness, and one very messy story about a woman who claimed she fell in love with her psychiatrist. It’s about empathy, boundaries, and why real connection matters more than any chatbot.

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This week on Worth the Weight, Sarah and I close the book on And Just Like That—series finale or not. From Carrie’s tomato-doll “party of one” to Miranda’s spiral, Seema’s revelation, and Charlotte’s relentless optimism, we dig into the messy truths midlife women actually live. Was it rushed? Absolutely. Did we love parts anyway? Shockingly, yes.

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Are you as emotionally available as you think? In this solo bonus, I share the signs you might not be — and how to break those self-protection habits one small risk at a time.

If you’ve ever wondered why real intimacy feels scary, why you gravitate toward people who can’t (or won’t) show up for you, or how to stop self-sabotaging before anything begins — this one’s for you

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