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This week, Sarah and I had what Iâm calling our âfirst fightâ â over women getting engaged to their AI boyfriends. That debate led us straight into AI psychosis, grief, loneliness, and one very messy story about a woman who claimed she fell in love with her psychiatrist. Itâs about empathy, boundaries, and why real connection matters more than any chatbot.
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This week on Worth the Weight, Sarah and I close the book on And Just Like Thatâseries finale or not. From Carrieâs tomato-doll âparty of oneâ to Mirandaâs spiral, Seemaâs revelation, and Charlotteâs relentless optimism, we dig into the messy truths midlife women actually live. Was it rushed? Absolutely. Did we love parts anyway? Shockingly, yes.
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Are you as emotionally available as you think? In this solo bonus, I share the signs you might not be â and how to break those self-protection habits one small risk at a time.
If youâve ever wondered why real intimacy feels scary, why you gravitate toward people who canât (or wonât) show up for you, or how to stop self-sabotaging before anything begins â this oneâs for you
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Carrie finally centers herself. Took you long enough, sis.
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This week, Sarah and I sink our teeth into what might be the meatiest And Just Like That episode yetâone that hits every theme we love to unpack. We talk traditional gender roles, the messy intersection of masculinity and femininity, and the complicated emotions family and friends navigate when a loved one comes out as queer, trans, or non-binary.
And, of course, we get into the big one: the stigma around being single. From Carrieâs agent pushing her to tack on a âhappy endingâ to her manuscript, to Seemaâs offer that forces Carrie to confront her life without a partner, this episode asksâwhat if being alone is actually the point? I share why that scene resonated with me, and how reframing singlehood as a choice (not a failure) can change everything.
We also dissect Charlotteâs emotional moment with Rock, Mirandaâs rocky Thanksgiving guest list, and Harryâs selective memory about who he really is as a partner. Plus, weâve got a juicy âf*ck that personâ letter that proves core values matter more than love when it comes to lasting compatibility.
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Iâm digging into the difference between being valued for your vibe versus your valueâand why so many of us are exhausted by being treated like a mood instead of a whole person. I discuss dating apps, performative chemistry, boundaries, and the subtle ways women are trained to shrink their substance to stay likable.
If youâve ever put effort into showing your depth only to be reduced to âhot in that dress,â this oneâs for you.
Make sure to like, comment, and subscribe if this resonatesâor pisses you off in a productive way.
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This weekâs episode of Worth The Weight is a wild ride. First, Sarah and I break down the latest episode of And Just Like That, where Carrie mistakes attention for intellectual validation, Miranda confuses judgment for curiosity, and Seema somehow turns a plant into a red flag. (Girl, itâs chlorophyll not trauma.)
But thatâs just the warm-up.
Then we dig into a listener letter about a guy who seems great on paperâuntil the paper starts burning. It sparks a much-needed convo about core valuesâwhat they are, why they matter, and how to spot the difference between surface-level chemistry and actual compatibility. (Spoiler: Just because you both like road trips doesn't mean you're soulmates.)
I break down the five tiers of core values and show you how to suss out emotional intelligence earlyâyes, even before the third date.
And finally, we talk about the fuck that guy of all fuck that guys: Russell Hartley. If you donât know him, consider yourself lucky. If you do, weâre serving a takedown so savage it might need its own trigger warning. From red-pill grifter to "girlâs girl" rebrand, we dissect why some male âdating coachesâ are just digital predators with ring lights.
So pour the scotch you probably keep around for him, and press play. This oneâs got it all: fake feminists, fake publishing chemistry, and the very real importance of knowing your worth.
⨠Center yourself. De-center men. Value your damn time. â¨
00:00 â AJLT Recap (Carrie & Duncan, Mirandaâs mess, Seemaâs plant guy)
20:10 â Core Values 101: The 5 Tiers That Actually Matter
28:45 â Fuck That Guy: Russell Hartleyâs Rebrand Is a Scam
36:00 â How to Spot a Grifter in a Suit
Journaling
If you want to try journaling as a way to regulate your nervous system, you can check out some of my favorite tools â â at this link.â â As an Amazon Associate, I earn a small commission from qualifying purchases â and yes, it all goes right back into my planner addiction.
Whether you're actively swiping or on the verge of deleting everything, this oneâs for you.
Flirty, Fun, and Zero Cringe: TableTopics for First Dates
â â Table Topicsâ â conversation starter cards go way beyond âWhat do you do for work?â These questions are equal parts fun, unexpected, and wildly revealing. Think: first-date energy meets group chat chaos. If you've ever wanted to skip the small talk and get to the good stuff, this one's for you. â â Learn more here.â â (As an Amazon Affiliate, I receive a commission for each sale.)
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Protect Your Peace, Honor Your Worth, and Still Put Yourself Out There
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Itâs just me this week, and Iâm diving into something I know so many of us struggle with: how to use dating apps without completely wrecking your nervous system (and your self-worth). In this bonus episode, I break down what apps are really doing to your brain and body â from the dopamine rollercoasters to the rejection spirals â and more importantly, how to protect your peace while still putting yourself out there.
I share practical strategies to avoid burnout, recognize dysregulation, and date from a place of clarity instead of chaos. I also talk about how Iâve been using journaling â and letâs be real, an embarrassing number of pens and highlighters â as a grounding tool to process the emotional ups and downs that come with app culture.
Journaling
If you want to try journaling as a way to regulate your nervous system, you can check out some of my favorite tools â at this link.â As an Amazon Associate, I earn a small commission from qualifying purchases â and yes, it all goes right back into my planner addiction.
Whether you're actively swiping or on the verge of deleting everything, this oneâs for you.
Flirty, Fun, and Zero Cringe: TableTopics for First Dates
â Table Topicsâ conversation starter cards go way beyond âWhat do you do for work?â These questions are equal parts fun, unexpected, and wildly revealing. Think: first-date energy meets group chat chaos. If you've ever wanted to skip the small talk and get to the good stuff, this one's for you. â Learn more here.â (As an Amazon Affiliate, I receive a commission for each sale.)
Podcast Recommendations
â Regulate & Rewireâ
â Therapy In A Nutshellâ
â Somatic Healing Meditationsâ
Playlists
â Nervous System Regulationâ
â Gentle Nervous System Calming
Carrieâs chasing closure (again), Aidenâs tossing guilt like steak on a grill, and Miranda and Joy give us the emotional intimacy we actually want to see. This week, weâre unpacking the latest And Just Like Thatâfrom toxic dating patterns and emotional baggage to that five-word kiss of death: âYou smell like smoke. Get away.â
We break down the difference between closure and clarity, why Aidenâs still the same insecure guy from 2002, and how emotional labor shows up in the tiniest moments (looking at you, Herbert).
Plus, a rare scene that made me cryâin a good way. Miranda opens up, Joy doesnât flinch, and we talk about what it really means to share your baggage without dumping it.
Also: crystal deodorant, passive-aggressive dinner invites, and the official start of Fuck That Guy Fall. Youâve been warned.
Subscribe on Substack or Patreon for bonus episodes, exclusive letters, and hot takes we donât dare post publicly.
â° Episode Breakdown: Toxic Men, Emotional Baggage & the Myth of Closure
00:00 â 05:00 â Carrieâs need for closure & Aidenâs boundary stomping
05:00 â 10:00 â Passive-aggression, guilt trips & the âget away from meâ moment
10:00 â 15:00 â Aidenâs control issues, emotional sabotage & toxic dynamics
15:00 â 20:00 â Seemaâs subplot + commentary on dating red flags
20:00 â 25:00 â Miranda opens up, Joy responds with real vulnerability
25:00 â 30:00 â Emotional intimacy vs. oversharing & the value of clarity
30:00 â 35:00 â Duncan = Big 2.0? Carrie repeats her toxic patterns
35:00 â 43:00 â Closure vs. clarity, trauma loops & Fuck That Guy Fall begins.
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đ Got a dating dilemma? A ghosting mystery? An âis-it-me-or-is-he-just-delusional?â situation? Send it in!
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In this weekâs episode, we kick off another installment of Fuck That Guy Paloozaâbecause apparently cheating CEOs at Coldplay concerts just wonât stop giving. Yes, weâre talking about the Astronomer CEO who thought snuggling up to HR mid-marriage was a stealth move⌠until he got smacked by the karmic arm of the Jumbotron. Sir, youâre not even the brightest star in your own scandal.
But thatâs not allâwe also dive into the emotional mess that is Aiden 2.0. This man really said, âWhen did I become the bad guy?â as if gaslighting your partner, overstaying your welcome, and sabotaging her career meeting with a bestselling author isnât textbook man-baby behavior. (Spoiler: itâs been 20 years, bro.)
We break down the weekâs And Just Like That episodeâwhere self-abandonment is still trending, sober compatibility gets tested, and someone almost cheats (again) with someone named Marion. We also explore the very real emotional gymnastics women perform to keep the peace, hold the line, and hold their own.
Come for the sarcasm, stay for the heartbreak, and donât forget to decenter mediocre men.
Time Breakdown (because consent includes skipping the recap):
00:00 â And Just Like That Recap: Emotional manipulation, mid-life self-abandonment, and man-baby tantrums
19:00 â LTWâs creative chemistry: harmless crush or looming chaos?
30:00 â Mirandaâs gin dilemma: alcoholish, addiction, or just plain denial?
49:00 â Fuck That Guy Palooza: The Astronomer CEO, HR side chick, and the cold slap of Chris Martin
60:00 â Patreon bonus episodes, dating advice updates, and final thoughts
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đ Got a dating dilemma? A ghosting mystery? An âis-it-me-or-is-he-just-delusional?â situation? Send it in!
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This week on Worth The Wait, Sarah and I kick off another round of Fuck That Guy Paloozaâand this oneâs a doozy. We start with a listener letter about a woman who put together a thoughtful care package for a guy sheâd been seeing for two months⌠only to get a text back that basically said, âCool stuff, but calm down, Fatal Attraction.â We break down whether that kind of response is emotionally unavailable, avoidant, or just plain rudeâand why so many women internalize shame when men show zero empathy.
Then we dive into a second letter from someone dating a guy whoâs âniceâ but totally shut off emotionally. We talk about how to tell the difference between avoidant behavior and a man whoâs simply not investedâand why consistency is the key.
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BOOK RECOMMENDATIONS
In this weekâs episode, Sarah provides two book recommendations.
Pixel Flesh
Pixel Flesh is a bold, brilliant exposĂŠ on toxic beauty culture and the pressure to perform femininity online.
⨠If youâve ever looked in the mirror and wondered who you're really trying to impress, this book is for you.
đBuy it here â https://amzn.to/4eDjFRhâ Â (As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases.)
Writers & Lovers
If youâve ever felt stuck between who you were supposed to become and who you actually are, Writers & Lovers will hit you right in the gut.
đBuy it here â https://amzn.to/3G1BlcEâ (As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases.)
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