Yes, please...

By Erika AlsbornSociety & Culture Health & Fitness Education Self-Improvement Relationships Sexuality

Yes, please... episodes

July 13, 2025104: "It changed me forever": MC's year spent in SHAMELESS with pleasure, practice & coming home to one
In this episode, I sit down with a 2023 graduate of my program, SHAMELESS - MC - to reflect on her journey, months after completing the year-long container. We talk about what led her to say yes to the program, how it changed her relationship with her body and sexuality, and the lasting impact it’s had on her life. This is a tender, honest, and often funny conversation about the real work of healing and remembering who we are.
In this episode:
What made her join SHAMELESS and why it felt like a full-body yes
Her struggles with pleasure, intimacy, and old emotional patterns
The shifts she experienced through consistent practice and group support
How my voice and guidance helped her feel safe enough to soften and open
What she’d say to a woman thinking of joining: “If I can do this, so can you”
This conversation is for anyone craving more connection to their sensuality, softness, and self-expression. I'm so honored to share her story with you.
Related episodes:
76: SHAMELESS - Exploring the Depths of Sexual Empowerment with Faith→
73: Marcella's Journey Through SHAMELESS and the Story of Surrendering to Self→
Let’s connect!
Come join me and like-minded women in my FREE women-only, sex-positive community –
Pleasure Rebels Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/plsrebels
Follow and reach out on IG: https://www.instagram.com/erikaalsborn
Links and resources:
Join the waitlist for Shameless: https://www.erika-alsborn.com/shameless-waitlist
34 min
July 11, 2025103: I'm back – BTS summary of what's been going on
Hey, dear friend,
It’s been a while. This episode is me catching you up on where I’ve been, what I’ve been moving through, and why I took a 5-month break from the podcast. No script, just me showing up raw, real, and ready to be seen.
I share about the deep inner work I’ve been doing behind the scenes—what cracked me open, some old painful beliefs that surfaced, and what it’s been like to really face myself. It’s been humbling, healing, and wild. And honestly, I feel like I’m coming back to life. Slowly. Gently. But truly.

In this episode, I share:
Why I hit pause on everything and what brought me to my knees
The spiral of “I’m not good enough” that took over last winter
How I decided to finally face the roots, not just the symptoms
What it means to feel safe, loved, and enough in my body again
How this deep inner work has made me a better coach, partner, and human
A little peek at what’s coming next (👀 Shameless is returning soon!)

This isn’t just a “back online” announcement—it’s a love letter to my own healing and an invitation for you to feel a little less alone in yours. I’m still integrating, still unwinding old stories, still walking the walk. But I’m here. And I’m so glad you are too.
Thanks for listening. Thanks for being here.
Talk soon,
Erika

Links and recourses:
Shameless mastermind opening soon: https://www.erika-alsborn.com/shameless-waitlist

Related Episode:
39. SHAMELESS – Magnify your capacity to feel pleasure and be powerful and orgasmic
https://open.spotify.com/episode/26A7X2Blk40S9bddSpyEWQ?si=0c93984d06d4490e
17 min
January 28, 2025102: Roleplay as a way to rekindle intimacy and adventure in your relationship
Tired of the same old, same old in the bedroom? Feeling bored with your sex life? This episode explores how incorporating roleplay can reignite passion, deepen intimacy, and bring back the thrill to your relationship.
I dive deep into the world of sexual roleplay, exploring its benefits, how to get started, and how to make it a safe and enjoyable experience for both partners. We'll discuss how roleplay can break down inhibitions, foster communication, and add a much-needed dose of adventure to your relationship.
Join for valuable insights and practical tips on how to rediscover the spark in your relationship.
In this episode:
The importance of play.
Understanding the nuances of roleplay and how it can be applied to sexual encounters.
Benefits of roleplay
How roleplay can help you break free from sexual inhibitions and explore new desires.
How to get started with roleplay
Tips for successful roleplay
Common misconceptions of roleplay
Special Mention:
Enrollment for Slut Academy is now open! This transformative four-month course is designed to help you reclaim your sexual power, creativity, and pleasure. With guided rituals, practices, and a supportive community, it's the ultimate journey to rediscover and celebrate your erotic essence.
LINK TO SLUT ACADEMY

Let’s connect!
Come join me and like-minded women in my FREE women-only, sex-positive community – Pleasure Rebels Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/plsrebels
Follow and reach out on IG: https://www.instagram.com/erikaalsborn

Links and resources:
Honey pot link: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/602aaf6ff6b5473d9134edfc

Related Episodes:
97: Erotic expansion – understanding and playing with domination and submission→94: Kink as a healing and self-discovery tool with Faith Laux →
31 min
January 14, 2025101: Menstruation part 3: rituals, release, and guided meditation
Have you ever wondered how to transform your menstruation into a source of power, honor, and healing?
In this final episode of the three-part series on menstruation, I delve into the transformative power of your cycle and the deep symbolism of menstrual blood. From rituals that honor your feminine essence to meditation designed to help you connect with your womb, this episode offers profound tools to shift your mindset and embrace menstruation as a sacred practice. Whether you're actively menstruating or past that phase of life, this episode provides insights and practices that can resonate with every woman.
This episode invites you to reimagine your relationship with menstruation and discover the profound empowerment it holds.

In this episode:
The importance of changing your attitude toward period blood.
Ritualistic ways to honor your menstrual cycle, including painting, free bleeding, and offering your blood to nature.
How to use menstruation as a portal for emotional and spiritual release.
Practical guidance on how to release negative beliefs and embrace the dark goddess within.
Using your cycle as a time for introspection, wisdom gathering, and transformation.

Special Mention:
Enrollment for Slut Academy is now open! This transformative four-month course is designed to help you reclaim your sexual power, creativity, and pleasure. With guided rituals, practices, and a supportive community, it's the ultimate journey to rediscover and celebrate your erotic essence.
https://www.erika-alsborn.com/s-academy

Let’s connect!
Come join me and like-minded women in my FREE women-only, sex-positive community – Pleasure Rebels Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/plsrebels
Follow and reach out on IG: https://www.instagram.com/erikaalsborn

Links and resources:
Honey pot link: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/602aaf6ff6b5473d9134edfc

Related Episodes:
92: Menstruation part 1: A journey to menstrual empowerment and understanding →
95: Menstruation part 2: The power of bleeding, life and death cycles and menarche →
27 min
December 31, 2024100: Celebrating 100 episodes and a personal update!
What does it mean to reflect on a decade of transformation—as a coach, entrepreneur, wife, and mother—and come out stronger, hornier, and more grateful than ever?
In this milestone 100th episode, I take a heartfelt and celebratory dive into a decade of personal and professional evolution. From starting this podcast in 2022 to 10 transformative years as a sex coach, this journey is marked by challenges, profound self-growth, and unapologetic celebration. Join me as I reflect on building a thriving business, navigating the deep spiritual practice of marriage, motherhood, and self-acceptance, and embracing life as a vibrant, sexual woman. This episode is a love letter to you, the listener, and to the power of following your desires, facing your fears, and honoring your unique journey.

In this episode:
The birth and growth of the podcast over the past two and a half years.
A decade-long journey from nursing to becoming a successful online sex coach.
Overcoming fears, doubts, and societal expectations to follow a deep desire for transformation.
The evolution of business maturity: navigating jealousy, comparison, and finding your unique pace.
Transformative lessons learned as a wife and the profound impact of marriage on personal growth.
Reflections on motherhood, grief, and gratitude for the joys and responsibilities it brings.
Embracing a calm, grounded life versus the excitement of youth—and finding joy in simplicity.
The spiritual practice of devotion, surrender, and acceptance in marriage and life.
Sexual liberation as a choice: how intimacy and sexual expression thrive in everyday life.
Insights from The Empowered Wife by Laura Doyle and its role in reigniting intimacy in marriage.
Highlights from a transformative family trip to Thailand: balancing expectations and reality.
Launch of Slut Academy: a container for sexual liberation, freedom, and expression.

Related Episodes:
98: Unleash and embody the Slut Archetype for the best sex and pleasure! →
88: Motherhood is kicking my butt lately and other motherhood, marriage and life reflections →
Let’s connect!
Come join me and like-minded women in my FREE women-only, sex-positive community – Pleasure Rebels Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/plsrebels
Follow and reach out on IG: https://www.instagram.com/erikaalsborn

Links and resources:
Honey pot link: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/602aaf6ff6b5473d9134edfc
Slut Academy waitlist: https://www.erika-alsborn.com/s-academy-waitlist
Join my newsletter here: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/60197b02f8ac924b3dce5b50
27 min
December 17, 202499: Sensation focus - a key tool to knowing yourself sexually AND spiritually
Do you truly feel your sensations? Or are you disconnected from the language of your inner world?
In this episode, I explore the profound and transformative practice of sensation focus - learning to tune into the subtle signals of your body to deepen your connection with pleasure, self-awareness, and spiritual essence. From understanding the basics of sensation literacy to how it can unlock better orgasms and an anchored sense of self, this conversation is an invitation to step beyond a thought-based identity and into your embodied inner life.
Take a moment to pause, turn your gaze inward, and explore what your body is communicating to you right now. This episode invites you into a deeper relationship with yourself, empowering you to feel more, experience more, and ultimately, be more.
In this episode:
Why sensation focus is essential for pleasure, self-knowledge, and spiritual fulfillment.
How pleasure, energy, and sensation are interconnected.
The disconnection many people feel from their inner bodies—and how to overcome it.
Practical exercises to cultivate sensation focus, including meditative and self-pleasure practices.
Why a thought-based identity limits your sense of self and how sensations can help bridge the gap.
The transformative power of naming sensations and creating a nuanced "language of sensation."
Examples of sensations you can tune into, from fluttery and pulsating to grounded and expansive.
Related Episodes:
94: Kink as a healing and self-discovery tool with Faith Laux →
91: The language of touch and using sensual massage as a path to deeper relationship intimacy →
Let’s connect!
Come join me and like-minded women in my FREE women-only, sex-positive community – Pleasure Rebels Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/plsrebels
Follow and reach out on IG: https://www.instagram.com/erikaalsborn

Links and resources:
Honey pot link: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/602aaf6ff6b5473d9134edfc
Slut Academy waitlist: https://www.erika-alsborn.com/s-academy-waitlist
16 min
December 03, 202498: Unleash and embody the Slut Archetype for the best sex and pleasure!
What does it mean to truly embrace your pleasure?
Channeling the Slut archetype is about owning your joy, playfulness, and satisfaction. It’s about enjoying your body and its capacity for pleasure—free of shame and guilt. The slut celebrates pleasure for its own sake, in every form: from sex to dancing, eating, singing, and beyond.
In this episode, I dive deep into the misunderstood power of the slut archetype. Why is this energy judged and suppressed? How can reclaiming it leads to liberation and empowerment?
Learn how to embrace your inner slut and unleash her vibrant, sexy, and joyful essence—for your benefit and for those lucky enough to encounter a free slut’s energy.
In this episode:
What are archetypes?
Redefining the slut archetype.
How liberating your inner slut can transform your life.
A guided practice to unleash your slut energy.
Everything you need to know about Slut Academy.
Related Episodes:
14: How to be sexual/sexy AND feel safe in this world→
24: Harness your erotic power →
25: Slut Academy →
Let’s connect!
Come join me and like-minded women in my FREE women-only, sex-positive community – Pleasure Rebels Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/plsrebels
Follow and reach out on IG: https://www.instagram.com/erikaalsborn

Links and resources:
Honey pot link: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/602aaf6ff6b5473d9134edfc
Slut Academy waitlist: https://www.erika-alsborn.com/s-academy-waitlist
31 min
November 19, 202497: Erotic expansion – understanding and playing with domination and submission
Why do so many women feel a powerful craving for surrender in the bedroom but hold themselves back?
How do modern ideals shape our desires and fears in intimate dynamics?
In this episode, I dive deep into the often taboo topic of domination and submission in sexuality, exploring how contrary to a common opinion, these dynamics can lead to profound bliss, healing, and self-intimacy. I talk about the conflict many women feel when considering the desire for surrender, the pressures of modern feminist ideals, and the misconceptions around submission.
This episode reveals how true domination and submission transcend stereotypes through insightful examples and wisdom from experts like Kasia Urbaniak, offering a transformative way for women to connect deeply with their own desires.
In this episode:
The taboo and craving for surrender in the bedroom: why so many women desire it yet hesitate. How feminist ideals can create inner conflict.
Breaking down stereotypes and misconceptions.
The importance of safety and trust in dominant-submissive dynamics.
How submission invites profound intimacy and self-connection for women.
The difference between toxic power dynamics and consensual, healing experiences.
Dominant's focus outward and submissive's focus inward.
Recognizing dominance and submission beyond the bedroom.
Kasia Urbaniak's perspectives on attention and healthy submission.
Introducing different sexual personality types from Miss. Jaiya.

Let’s connect!
Come join me and like-minded women in my FREE women-only, sex-positive community – Pleasure Rebels Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/plsrebels Follow and reach out on IG: https://www.instagram.com/erikaalsborn
Links and resources:
Honey pot link: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/602aaf6ff6b5473d9134edfc
Related Episodes: 65:
The power of surrender: unlocking deeper pleasure and presence →
94: Kink as a healing and self-discovery tool with Faith Laux →

Kasia’s Urbaniak book: https://www.amazon.com/Unbound-Womans-Guide-Kasia-Urbaniak/dp/0593084519
37 min
November 05, 2024Sex after birth: intimacy, pleasure, and pussy rehab
Have you ever wondered about what sex after birth truly feels like? Not the advice you get in medical handouts, but the real, raw experience of reconnecting with your body after the intense transformation of giving birth.
In today’s episode, I’m addressing an often-overlooked topic: sex after giving birth. This conversation is for every mother—whether you’re just beginning to think about motherhood, you’ve been a mother for years, or you’ve experienced childbirth long ago. I’m here to discuss how society’s focus on a baby’s health often leaves mothers’ physical, mental, and sexual wellbeing in the shadows. Together, we’ll explore how to approach sex after birth as a healing, ritualistic experience, and how to reconnect with your sexuality in a way that feels safe, honoring, and even pleasurable.
This episode is an invitation to slow down, honor your needs, and reconnect with your body in a new way—no matter when you give birth.

In this episode:
Healthcare’s narrow focus on new mother's sexual and mental health after giving birth.
Sex after childbirth can be a tender and transformative experience.
How can the first experience be made back intimate and ceremonial, allowing for healing and integration of the birth experience.
How to experience both, pleasure and healing.
The role of open and honest communication with your partner.
How to honor physical changes and explore intimacy in a way that is grounded and aligned with the new motherhood experience.
Embracing the duality of being both a mother and a sexual woman.
A practical exercise as a way to reconnect, heal, and bring compassion to your body and experience.

Let’s connect!
Come join me and like-minded women in my FREE women-only, sex-positive community – Pleasure Rebels Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/plsrebels
Follow and reach out on IG: https://www.instagram.com/erikaalsborn

Links and resources:
Honey pot link: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/602aaf6ff6b5473d9134edfc

Related Episodes:
90: Perfectionism is blocking you from intimacy, pleasure and partnered sex →69: The ultimate desire hack: how to have more sex in your longterm relationship →65: The power of surrender: unlocking deeper pleasure and presence →
30 min
October 22, 202495: Menstruation part 2: The power of bleeding, life and death cycles and menarche
Have you ever thought about the connection between your menstrual cycle and the cycles of life and death?
In this episode, I continue the exploration of the topic of menstruation with part two of a three-part series. I dive into the symbolism of menstruation, its deep connection to the moon, and how your body mirrors the cycles of nature. You’ll also learn how creating rituals around your menstrual cycle can bring healing, and empowerment, and even alleviate symptoms like PMS. Discover the wisdom that your womb carries and how to reclaim the sacredness of menstruation.
Tune in for a deeper understanding of the magic and power of your womb!

In this episode:
The life-death cycle and its connection to menstruation
How your first period (Menarche) sets the tone for your menstruating years
The phases of your menstrual cycle and how they correspond with the moon
The power of rituals in honoring your body and cycle
Shedding societal shame and embracing the beauty of menstruation
The eight phases of the moon and their connection to the menstrual cycle
How modern life disrupts this natural alignment
Rituals for tuning into your cycle and feeling connected to the moon's energy
The symbolism of menstruation and its connection to life, death, and liberation
How ancient cultures honored menstruation and why it's powerful to reclaim this wisdom today
The sacred ritual of Menarche
Let’s connect!
Join me and like-minded women in my FREE women-only, sex-positive community – Pleasure Rebels Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/plsrebels
Follow and reach out on IG: https://www.instagram.com/erikaalsborn

Links and resources:
Honey pot link: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/602aaf6ff6b5473d9134edfc

Related Episodes:
92: Menstruation part 1: A journey to menstrual empowerment and understanding →
44 min

About Yes, please...

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This podcast is for you if you are dying to experience your most satisfying and mind-blowing sex, pleasure and orgasms – which inevitably means exploring and embodying your sexual confidence, sensual power, and learning the art of eroticism and feminine delight!