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By Erika AlsbornSociety & Culture Health & Fitness Education Self-Improvement Relationships Sexuality

Yes, please... episodes

October 08, 202494: Kink as a healing and self-discovery tool with Faith Laux
What happens when you finally allow yourself to embrace your deepest desires fully?

In this deeply personal and raw episode, I talk with my friend and former client, Faith Laux. Faith is a somatic sex and relationship coach whose transformational work helps people reconnect with the wisdom, intuition, and magic of their bodies, empowering them to thrive sexually.

Today, Faith and I dive into the layers of healing, yearning, and self-discovery through the lens of kink. After being diagnosed with cancer, Faith experienced a life-altering realization: there were parts of herself she had suppressed, particularly in the realm of desire.

This episode explores how acknowledging and pursuing Faith’s long-held yearning for kink became a powerful tool for healing—not only for herself but also within her marriage.

We discuss the importance of owning your desires, the distinction between kink and sexuality, and how kink doesn’t always equate to sex. Whether you're familiar with kink or not, this conversation reveals how living fully aligned with your truth can unlock profound transformation and growth.

This episode is about more than just kink; it’s about desire, healing, and being honest with yourself and your partner.

In this episode:
How facing mortality can awaken dormant desires
The importance of acknowledging your yearning, even if you can’t fulfill it
Navigating consent and communication in relationships
Healing through kink and the different forms it can take
Emotional release and catharsis in kink practices
Misconceptions about kink and how it differs from the swinger community
The power of vulnerability and intimacy in non-sexual kink experiences

Let’s connect!
Come join me and like-minded women in my FREE women-only, sex-positive community – Pleasure Rebels Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/plsrebels
Follow and reach out on IG: https://www.instagram.com/erikaalsborn

Links and resources:
Pussy worship link:
https://view.flodesk.com/pages/606c5b3c156ede08a80af515

Connect with Faith:
Visit her website
Check out her Kink Curious Course
Find her on IG: https://www.instagram.com/faithlaux

Related Episodes:
77: Reclaiming Feminine Power & Energy with Sheila Kelley →
76: SHAMELESS - Exploring the Depths of Sexual Empowerment with Faith→
1 hr 6 min
September 24, 202493: Amazing sex = amazing life. Sexual growth is at the center of all personal growth
Why is understanding your sexual self the key to unlocking other desires and personal growth?
In this episode, I dive deep into the transformative power of sexuality. I talk about how working through sexual blockages and limiting beliefs not only enhances your sexual life but also has a profound impact on your overall well-being.
Drawing from personal experiences and coaching sessions in the "Shameless" program, I walk you through the stages of confronting and embracing sexuality.
By understanding and expanding the capacity to handle uncomfortable emotions, women can achieve a liberated, empowered life.
This episode is a call to prioritize pleasure, reclaim sexual agency, and take action to live the life you truly deserve.

In this episode:
The process of unblocking your sexuality for personal transformation
How clarity and acceptance help shift perspectives and behaviors
The importance of holistic sex practices and inner parts work
Rewiring your emotional responses and embracing uncomfortable emotions
Building capacity for uncomfortable emotions and expanding your sexual boundaries
The connection between sexual agency and overall life agency
Sexuality as a core aspect of human and feminine health
The journey from a disconnected, immature sexuality to full sexual agency
The role of sexual subjectivity and embracing sexual maturity
How embracing sexuality helps you embrace other desires in life, such as new hobbies and self-expression
Real-life transformations from the Shameless program
How sexual liberation leads to increased capacity, confidence, and happiness across all areas of life
Book recommendations

Let’s connect!
Come join me and like-minded women in my FREE women-only, sex-positive community – Pleasure Rebels Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/plsrebels
Follow and reach out on IG: https://www.instagram.com/erikaalsborn

Links and resources:
Honey pot link: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/602aaf6ff6b5473d9134edfc
Recommended books:
"Pussy: A Reclamation" by Regina Thomashauer
"Come As You Are" by Emily Nagoski Ph. D.

Related Episodes:
77: Reclaiming Feminine Power & Energy with Sheila Kelley →76: SHAMELESS - Exploring the Depths of Sexual Empowerment with Faith→
20 min
September 10, 202492: Menstruation part 1: A journey to menstrual empowerment and understanding
Have you ever stopped to consider the profound relationship you have with your menstrual cycle?
Welcome to today's episode! In this exciting first part of a three-part series on menstruation, I dive deep into the importance of discussing menstruation and the often-overlooked aspects of this natural process.
We explore why menstruation is relevant in conversations about female sexuality and empowerment. I’ll be reading a poignant poem about bleeding, sharing journal prompts, and encouraging you to embark on your own self-inquiry. My goal is to help you create a conscious relationship with your menstrual cycle and empower you to embrace this significant aspect of being a woman.
Join me as we begin to unravel the stigma surrounding menstruation and seek to honor the cycles that shape our lives.

In this episode:
The importance of talking about menstruation
Overcoming societal stigma around menstrual blood
The importance of understanding your own menstrual cycle
The impact of hormonal birth control on your menstruation
Creating rituals and celebrations around menstruation
Journal prompts for self-reflection and deeper understanding of your menstrual cycle
Understanding the four phases of the menstrual cycle: menstruation, follicular phase, ovulation, and luteal phase
The relationship between menstruation and female empowerment
Reading of the poem "Women are tired of the ways men bleed" by Judy Grahn

Let’s connect!
Come join me and like-minded women in my FREE women-only, sex-positive community – Pleasure Rebels Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/plsrebels
Follow and reach out on IG: https://www.instagram.com/erikaalsborn

Links and resources:
Honey pot link: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/602aaf6ff6b5473d9134edfc

Related Episodes:
64: Embracing your inner witch: remembering forgotten reproductive health and natural fertility awareness practices – interview with Siri Kalla →
83: How to release feelings of aversion and ickiness towards your lady bits →
19 min
August 27, 2024 91. The language of touch and using sensual massage as a path to deeper relationship intimacy
How can touch transform your relationship and bring back intimacy in ways you never imagined?
In today’s episode, I dive deep into the transformative power of touch within relationships. After a long and much-needed summer break filled with family time, I'm back to discuss the art of touch, its importance, and how it can rejuvenate your connection with your partner, children, and even friends.
This episode is packed with practical tips and techniques on how to cultivate a more intentional and sensual touch. Whether you're in a long-term relationship or navigating singlehood, this episode offers valuable insights into reigniting the spark through the often-forgotten language of touch.

In this episode:
- How touch can rekindle intimacy and connection, especially in long-term partnerships.
- Understanding our biological need for human contact and how to satisfy it.
- Practical techniques and tips on creating a sensual atmosphere, the importance of presence, and how to give and receive pleasure without expectation.
- Exploring often-overlooked areas of the body that can bring immense pleasure.
- How to lovingly communicate your desires and guide your partner during touch and massage.
- How can incorporating more touch deepen your bond with your children?
- Ideas for setting aside time for non-sexual sensual touch to nourish your relationship.
- Encouraging more verbal and non-verbal communication during intimate moments.

Let’s connect!
Come join me and like-minded women in my FREE women-only, sex-positive community – Pleasure Rebels Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/plsrebels
Follow and reach out on IG: https://www.instagram.com/erikaalsborn

Links and resources:
Honey pot link: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/602aaf6ff6b5473d9134edfc

Related Episodes:
86: Sensuality vs Sexuality →65: The power of surrender: unlocking deeper pleasure and presence →
35 min
August 06, 202490. Perfectionism is blocking you from intimacy, pleasure and partnered sex
Today Erika is debunking one of the reasons why a lot of women are not having amazing sensual and sexual experiences, solo or partnered: The strive for perfection in sexual encounters, even if it's unconscious. If you tend to be too harsh with yourself and/or if you are in a long-term relationship, this episode is for you.
Have you ever had the following thoughts? In order to have delicious sex and orgasms it all needs to be spontaneous and beautiful, the environment and mood must be ideal, there can't be any tension and you must get wet and horny immediately, If yes, that internal pressure on your body and pussy is blocking you from unparalleled sexual experiences and orgasms because it doesn't let you be fully present and get really intimate.
When you are in a long-term relationship, it is not uncommon to leave the sexual experiences just for "when they happen." If they happen, there are strict expectations around them, and often the turn-on comes AFTER, but it is hardly ever maintained as a constant state of mind. Intimacy is about connecting, not perfection.
Tune in and learn how to set the ground for consistency, maintain your turn-on, and eventually unlock unparalleled sexual pleasure and orgasms.
In this episode:
What is the big myth preventing you from experiencing sexual pleasure and orgasms.
What's the enemy of delightful sexual encounters in long-term relationships.
How to shift your mindset and "live" on the edge of having a fulfilling sexuality.

Let’s connect!
Come join me and like-minded women in my FREE women-only, sex-positive community Pleasure Rebels Facebook Group
Follow and reach out on IG
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15 min
July 23, 202489. Productivity vs pleasure – how to make space for pleasure in burn-out culture
Why do we prioritize productivity over pleasure, and how can we shift our mindset to embrace both?
In this episode, my goal is to encourage you to view sexuality as a vital part of your life and to rethink what it means to be productive. Nowadays, we have technology that helps us manage our daily tasks and free up time. How do you use that extra time? Self-care, particularly sexual self-care, is crucial as it significantly influences your relational well-being and romantic relationships. Let's delve into how you perceive productivity and its impact on your overall well-being, especially your sexual well-being. I hope this episode has inspired you to rethink your relationship with productivity and pleasure.

In this episode:
The conflict between productivity and pleasure in our sexual lives.
The societal pressures and beliefs that make us prioritize productivity over self-pleasure and intimacy.
My personal experiences and observations from my clients and course participants.
The impact of hustle culture and the paradox of modern life’s technological conveniences.
The importance of reframing sex and pleasure as productive activities.
Deconditioning the mindset that always equates self-worth with productivity.
Practical strategies to integrate pleasure and self-care into daily life.
The role of balance in maintaining a healthy, fulfilling life and sexuality.
Addressing the fears and perfectionism that hinder our ability to enjoy pleasure.
Journal prompts to help listeners reflect on their relationship with productivity and pleasure.

Let’s connect!
Come join me and like-minded women in my FREE women-only, sex-positive community – Pleasure Rebels Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/plsrebels
Follow and reach out on IG: https://www.instagram.com/erikaalsborn

Links and resources:
Honey pot link: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/602aaf6ff6b5473d9134edfc

Related Episodes:
65: The power of surrender: unlocking deeper pleasure and presence →
41: Healing journey from dormant pleasure to a rekindled life - Interview with Sofia →
25 min
July 09, 202488. Motherhood is kicking by butt lately and other motherhood, marriage and life reflections
Yay, another intimate, personal update episode! Motherhood is a 24/7 workout that’s kicking my butt lately, and yet I love it! In this deeply personal episode, I share my experiences and reflections on balancing the intense demands of motherhood with the joys and growth it brings.
This episode is all about the realities of juggling a thriving business, raising two young children, and navigating the complexities of life. From the beauty and exhaustion of motherhood to the growth and challenges in my marriage, I'm here to share it all.

In this episode:
Reflecting on the past year with my baby turning one and the physical and emotional demands of raising two young children.
How I manage the dual roles of being a mother and running a successful business.
A teaser about my amazing birth experience and plan to share more in an upcoming episode.
Discussing the impact of postpartum challenges.
Insights into the evolution of my marriage, from struggling to thriving, and the importance of communication and support.
The importance of staying present and embracing each chapter of life.
Overcoming feelings of guilt and embracing the abundance of love and success in my life.
Upcoming travel and professional development plans, balanced with family commitments.
Let’s connect!
Come join me and like-minded women in my FREE women-only, sex-positive community – Pleasure Rebels Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/plsrebels
Follow and reach out on IG: https://www.instagram.com/erikaalsborn

Links and resources:
Honey pot link: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/602aaf6ff6b5473d9134edfc

Related Episodes:
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28 min
June 25, 202487. You are your body
Do you often feel disconnected from your physical self? Are you more critical of your body than appreciative? In this thought-provoking episode, we dive deep into the profound relationship we have with our bodies.
Join me as I explore the common experience of body disconnection in Western society and the cultural and religious influences that contribute to this separation.
In this episode:
The concept of being a body:
Understanding the profound shift from "having" a body to "being" a body.
The impact of this mindset on your overall well-being and self-perception.
Mind-body connection:
Exploring how the mind and body are inseparably linked.
Modern science's recognition of the gut as the "second brain" and its implications for our understanding of consciousness.
Cultural and societal influences:
How Western culture and certain religious interpretations contribute to body disconnection and disassociation.
The role of the beauty and marketing industry in perpetuating body dissatisfaction.
The miracle of the human body:
Celebrating the complexity and cooperation of the trillions of cells that make up your body.
Reflecting on the biological marvel that enables us to live and thrive.
Practical exercises for reconnection:
Techniques for shifting your focus from incessant thinking to the sensations of your inner body.
The benefits of integrating body gratitude and awareness into your routine.
Let’s connect!
Come join me and like-minded women in my FREE women-only, sex-positive community – Pleasure Rebels Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/plsrebels
Follow and reach out on IG: https://www.instagram.com/erikaalsborn
Links and resources:
Honey pot link:
https://view.flodesk.com/pages/602aaf6ff6b5473d9134edfc

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12 min
June 12, 202486. Sensuality vs Sexuality
Have you ever wondered how understanding the difference between sensuality and sexuality can enhance your enjoyment of life?
In this episode, I dive into a very interesting topic of sensuality versus sexuality. We'll explore how these two aspects of our experiences are interconnected yet distinct, and how embracing both can lead to a richer, more fulfilled life.
Because sexuality is vast, diverse, and filled with endless possibilities. Your sexual energy is your life force, enhancing your physical, emotional, and spiritual wellbeing. By intentionally aligning with this energy, you nourish and empower yourself.
So get ready for an eye-opening discussion that will help you connect more deeply with your senses and sexual energy. Let's dive in and discover how to dazzle your life with sensuality and enhance your pleasure with a deeper understanding of sexuality.

In this episode:
What it means to be connected to your senses.
Understanding the capacity for sexual feelings and expression.
How sensuality and sexuality complement each other.
Ways to incorporate sensuality into everyday life.
Embrace your sensuality and sexuality to feel more confident and alive.

Let’s connect!
Come join me and like-minded women in my FREE women-only, sex-positive community – Pleasure Rebels Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/plsrebels

Links and resources:
Embodied & Sensual Series link: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/63a1d5251181890f30a54b91

Related episodes:
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30 min
May 28, 202485. Empowering Narrative meditation
What if you could rewrite your entire narrative around sexuality and pleasure, transforming it into a source of healing and empowerment?

In today’s episode, I embark on a transformative journey through a guided meditation and visualization exercise aimed at reshaping our inner narratives around sexuality and pleasure. Adapted from Layla Martin’s VITA coaching program, this practice will help you imagine growing up in a community with ideal values around sex, pleasure, and relationships.
Tune in to explore how this exercise can heal deep-seated narratives and create a positive, empowering perspective on sexuality.

In this episode:
Visualizing an ideal community with positive sexual values
Rewriting your personal narratives about sexuality
Normalizing and celebrating sexuality in everyday life
Embracing diverse sexual orientations and relationship structures
Linking sexuality with spirituality and personal growth
Exploring pleasure as a vital and lifelong companion
Affirming safety and consent in sexual expression
Honoring rituals around menstruation, sexual initiation, pregnancy, and birth
Integrating and processing emotions related to sexual narratives

Let’s connect!
Come join me and like-minded women in my FREE women-only, sex-positive community – Pleasure Rebels Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/plsrebels
Follow and reach out on IG: https://www.instagram.com/erikaalsborn

Links and resources:
Honey pot link:
https://view.flodesk.com/pages/602aaf6ff6b5473d9134edfc

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25 min

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This podcast is for you if you are dying to experience your most satisfying and mind-blowing sex, pleasure and orgasms – which inevitably means exploring and embodying your sexual confidence, sensual power, and learning the art of eroticism and feminine delight!