This short episode is a love note to your sexuality, and an invitation to come home to it.

I share one of my favorite analogies to help you understand what it means to truly inhabit your sexual self, to stop treating your sexuality like an abandoned house and start tending to it like the warm, beautiful home it’s meant to be.

In this episode, I share:

The difference between being disconnected from your sexuality and feeling fully at home in it

How neglecting your pleasure shows up in your body and relationships

What it means to take ownership of your sexual energy and desires

How you can start reclaiming your sexuality through simple, embodied practices

An invitation to join Pleasure Treats - my mini course to help you do exactly that

Links and resources: 

Join Pleasure treats: https://www.erika-alsborn.com/p-treats

Related episodes:

32: PLEASURE TREATS →

Let’s connect!

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This episode is another Q&A, and I love doing these because the questions always open up such real and juicy conversations. Today, I answer three big ones. They’re not quick yes or no questions, they’re the kind that touch on shame, fear, pleasure, kids, relationships, healing after trauma — all the stuff that makes sex and intimacy feel complicated and human. I share some of my own tools and perspectives that you can actually try in your own life, whether you relate directly to the questions or not.

Questions answered in this episode:

1.How do I get over my insecurity with pleasuring a man?

I explain how to shift from embarrassment to curiosity, work with the fears underneath, and allow yourself to learn step by step.

2. How can I feel sexual and free when I am also a mom and my kids are in the house?

I talk about starting honest sex education early, creating boundaries like locking the door, and doing your own inner work so kids see sex as normal and positive.

3. Can I ever truly enjoy sex after experiencing sexual trauma?

I share that deeper healing is possible by working with the subconscious and body, aiming first for emotional neutrality and then for joy and connection.

Related episodes:

93: Amazing sex = amazing life. Sexual growth is at the center of all personal growth →

Let’s connect!

Follow and reach out on IG: https://www.instagram.com/erikaalsborn 

In this episode, I talk about desire as a sacred path back to yourself—how wanting (not just needing) is deeply empowering in life and in the bedroom. I share how to recognize true desires, rekindle turn-on with simple practices like fantasy and play, and meet any inner resistance with compassion. We finish with a gentle guided visualization to help you connect with your own desire and take one small, aligned step forward.

In this episode, I talk about:

How your desires can guide you toward an authentic life

Needs vs. desires — why the difference matters

Building self-worth and daring to want more

Desire as the gateway to your erotic self

Why fantasizing is good for your sex life

Owning your turn-ons (and turn-offs) without shame

Why desire doesn’t have an expiration date

A guided practice to connect with what you truly crave

This is a recording from a live online event I taught. Enjoy!

Join my mastermind SHAMELESS

https://www.erika-alsborn.com/shameless

Related episodes:

94: Kink as a healing and self-discovery tool with Faith Laux →

93: Amazing sex = amazing life. Sexual growth is at the center of all personal growth →

Let’s connect!

Come join me and like-minded women in my FREE women-only, sex-positive community – Pleasure Rebels Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/plsrebels

Follow and reach out on IG: https://www.instagram.com/erikaalsborn 

This Q&A is overflowing with bold, vulnerable, and relatable questions from my FREE GROUP COACHING gathering. It’s playful, honest, and deeply empowering. Zero shame, zero filter — only truth, guidance, and pussy wisdom.

In this episode, I answer:

How to rebuild intimacy and desire after heartbreak in a long-term relationship

Keeping the sexual spark alive in long-term relationships

How to communicate likes and dislikes in bed without offending my husband

How to express wanting a highly sexual partner while dating, without attracting men only seeking casual sex

Are any sexual fantasies “unhealthy”?

Struggling with arousal after having a child and feeling unsatisfied with quick, non-nourishing orgasms

How to tell my partner I want deeper sexual growth and fulfillment when I feel too shy

Overcoming shame around quick masturbation after trauma and learning to enjoy “quickies” with myself

Why did my body shut down sexually after breakthrough orgasmic experiences at age 57?

You can still join the FREE GROUP COACHING with me - it's free!!

You the recording from the first session and are invited to the final session on Wednesday, August 27th.

https://www.erika-alsborn.com/free-group-coaching

Join my mastermind SHAMELESS

https://www.erika-alsborn.com/shameless

Related episodes:

91: The language of touch and using sensual massage as a path to deeper relationship intimacy

98: Unleash and embody the Slut Archetype for the best sex and pleasure! →

90: Perfectionism is blocking you from intimacy, pleasure and partnered sex →

Let’s connect!

Come join me and like-minded women in my FREE women-only, sex-positive community – Pleasure Rebels Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/plsrebels

Follow and reach out on IG: https://www.instagram.com/erikaalsborn 

This Q&A episode is packed with real, raw, and relatable questions from my FLOWER POWER event last week. Listen and learn lots! It's fun, honest, and empowering. No shame, no filter – just truth, insight, and lots of pussy wisdom.

In this episode, I answer:

What does it mean that the brain is the biggest erogenous zone?

Why do I feel shame or lack of fulfillment after orgasming quickly?

What is de-armoring and how does it help with sexual healing?

Can I explore cervical stimulation if I have an IUD?

Why can’t I locate my cervix – where is it really?

How do I know if a penis is touching the cervix?

Is it normal to have structures inside my vagina that feel like tubes?

Why do clitoral orgasms feel too intense or make me cramp?

What’s the difference between self-pleasure and masturbation?

What can I do when I can’t orgasm with a partner due to pressure?

You can still join FLOWER POWER - it's free!!

You get all the recordings and are invited to the final session on Thursday, August 14th.

https://www.erika-alsborn.com/flower-power-blossom-edition

Join my mastermind SHAMELESS

https://www.erika-alsborn.com/shameless

Related episodes:

98: Unleash and embody the Slut Archetype for the best sex and pleasure! →

90: Perfectionism is blocking you from intimacy, pleasure and partnered sex →

Let’s connect!

Come join me and like-minded women in my FREE women-only, sex-positive community – Pleasure Rebels Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/plsrebels

Follow and reach out on IG: https://www.instagram.com/erikaalsborn 

In this episode, I’m joined by Johanna, a graduate of my SHAMELESS program, just a few months after she completed the year-long journey. This conversation is full of depth, nuance, and honesty as we explore what it really means to move from codependency and self-doubt to a place of grounded, embodied power. Johanna shares how she went from longing for something she couldn’t name to fully claiming her pleasure, her voice, and her womanhood.

In this episode:

Johanna’s transformation from insecurity and people-pleasing to grounded self-trust

What it means to “choose yourself” and move from girl to woman

Releasing the fantasy of a “life script” and embracing self-authored sexuality

Rewiring pleasure through consistent self-practice

Investing in herself: time, energy, and money, and why it was worth it

The beauty of a multi-generational women’s group and being deeply witnessed

This one is rich. Johanna’s story is a beautiful example of what happens when we say yes to ourselves and allow transformation to unfold in the body, on our terms.

Related episodes:

40: Reclaiming your sexuality as a personal growth journey - Interview with Carolina →

39: SHAMELESS - Magnify your capacity to feel pleasure and be powerful and orgasmic →

Let’s connect!

Come join me and like-minded women in my FREE women-only, sex-positive community – Pleasure Rebels Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/plsrebels

Follow and reach out on IG: https://www.instagram.com/erikaalsborn 

Links and resources: 

Join the waitlist for Shameless: https://www.erika-alsborn.com/shameless

In this episode, I sit down with a 2023 graduate of my program, SHAMELESS - MC - to reflect on her journey, months after completing the year-long container. We talk about what led her to say yes to the program, how it changed her relationship with her body and sexuality, and the lasting impact it’s had on her life. This is a tender, honest, and often funny conversation about the real work of healing and remembering who we are.

In this episode:

This conversation is for anyone craving more connection to their sensuality, softness, and self-expression. I'm so honored to share her story with you.

Related episodes:

76: SHAMELESS - Exploring the Depths of Sexual Empowerment with Faith→

73: Marcella's Journey Through SHAMELESS and the Story of Surrendering to Self→

Let’s connect!

Come join me and like-minded women in my FREE women-only, sex-positive community –

Pleasure Rebels Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/plsrebels

Follow and reach out on IG: https://www.instagram.com/erikaalsborn 

Links and resources:

Join the waitlist for Shameless: https://www.erika-alsborn.com/shameless-waitlist

Hey, dear friend,

It’s been a while. This episode is me catching you up on where I’ve been, what I’ve been moving through, and why I took a 5-month break from the podcast. No script, just me showing up raw, real, and ready to be seen.

I share about the deep inner work I’ve been doing behind the scenes—what cracked me open, some old painful beliefs that surfaced, and what it’s been like to really face myself. It’s been humbling, healing, and wild. And honestly, I feel like I’m coming back to life. Slowly. Gently. But truly.

In this episode, I share:

Why I hit pause on everything and what brought me to my knees

The spiral of “I’m not good enough” that took over last winter

How I decided to finally face the roots, not just the symptoms

What it means to feel safe, loved, and enough in my body again

How this deep inner work has made me a better coach, partner, and human

A little peek at what’s coming next (👀 Shameless is returning soon!)

This isn’t just a “back online” announcement—it’s a love letter to my own healing and an invitation for you to feel a little less alone in yours. I’m still integrating, still unwinding old stories, still walking the walk. But I’m here. And I’m so glad you are too.

Thanks for listening. Thanks for being here.

Talk soon,

Erika

Links and recourses:

Shameless mastermind opening soon: https://www.erika-alsborn.com/shameless-waitlist

Related Episode:

39. SHAMELESS – Magnify your capacity to feel pleasure and be powerful and orgasmic

https://open.spotify.com/episode/26A7X2Blk40S9bddSpyEWQ?si=0c93984d06d4490e

Tired of the same old, same old in the bedroom? Feeling bored with your sex life? This episode explores how incorporating roleplay can reignite passion, deepen intimacy, and bring back the thrill to your relationship.

 I dive deep into the world of sexual roleplay, exploring its benefits, how to get started, and how to make it a safe and enjoyable experience for both partners. We'll discuss how roleplay can break down inhibitions, foster communication, and add a much-needed dose of adventure to your relationship.

Join for valuable insights and practical tips on how to rediscover the spark in your relationship.

In this episode:

The importance of play.

Understanding the nuances of roleplay and how it can be applied to sexual encounters.

Benefits of roleplay

How roleplay can help you break free from sexual inhibitions and explore new desires.

How to get started with roleplay

Tips for successful roleplay

Common misconceptions of roleplay

Special Mention:

Enrollment for Slut Academy is now open! This transformative four-month course is designed to help you reclaim your sexual power, creativity, and pleasure. With guided rituals, practices, and a supportive community, it's the ultimate journey to rediscover and celebrate your erotic essence.

LINK TO SLUT ACADEMY

Let’s connect!

Come join me and like-minded women in my FREE women-only, sex-positive community – Pleasure Rebels Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/plsrebels

Follow and reach out on IG: https://www.instagram.com/erikaalsborn 

Links and resources: 

Honey pot  link: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/602aaf6ff6b5473d9134edfc

Related Episodes:

97: Erotic expansion – understanding and playing with domination and submission→94: Kink as a healing and self-discovery tool with Faith Laux →

Have you ever wondered how to transform your menstruation into a source of power, honor, and healing?

In this final episode of the three-part series on menstruation, I delve into the transformative power of your cycle and the deep symbolism of menstrual blood. From rituals that honor your feminine essence to meditation designed to help you connect with your womb, this episode offers profound tools to shift your mindset and embrace menstruation as a sacred practice. Whether you're actively menstruating or past that phase of life, this episode provides insights and practices that can resonate with every woman.

This episode invites you to reimagine your relationship with menstruation and discover the profound empowerment it holds. 

In this episode:

The importance of changing your attitude toward period blood.

Ritualistic ways to honor your menstrual cycle, including painting, free bleeding, and offering your blood to nature.

How to use menstruation as a portal for emotional and spiritual release.

Practical guidance on how to release negative beliefs and embrace the dark goddess within.

Using your cycle as a time for introspection, wisdom gathering, and transformation.

Special Mention:

Enrollment for Slut Academy is now open! This transformative four-month course is designed to help you reclaim your sexual power, creativity, and pleasure. With guided rituals, practices, and a supportive community, it's the ultimate journey to rediscover and celebrate your erotic essence.

https://www.erika-alsborn.com/s-academy

Let’s connect!

Come join me and like-minded women in my FREE women-only, sex-positive community – Pleasure Rebels Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/plsrebels

Follow and reach out on IG: https://www.instagram.com/erikaalsborn 

Links and resources: 

Honey pot  link: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/602aaf6ff6b5473d9134edfc

Related Episodes:

92: Menstruation part 1: A journey to menstrual empowerment and understanding →

95: Menstruation part 2: The power of bleeding, life and death cycles and menarche →