Do you ever leave a hard conversation thinking, “How am I here again?”

Or do you feel seen in therapy but the week rolls around and the same stress knocks at your door?

Maybe you’re the “strong one,” the giver… and privately you’re tired.

If that’s you, I made this week’s episode of Heal Your Heal Relationships for you:

“Your Complaints Are a Doorway to Your Healing.”

Here’s the heart of it:

I don’t want you to just feel better for an hour.

I want your capacity to grow so life feels different from the inside out and complaints can help us do that.

Not by fixing the surface problem, but by gently showing us the root that’s asking for care.

In this episode, I share a reframe I use as a physician:

Think of a complaint like a fever.

Comfort matters...

But real healing comes from finding the source. We walk through a real example (an overwhelmed teacher who’s busy-busy-busy to avoid a deeper loneliness), and I guide you to follow your own “little tributaries” back to the lake underneath.

Inside the episode:

• Why validation is soothing (and why it doesn’t always change tomorrow)
• How your recurring complaints point to subconscious core wounds (often held in the body)
• The “fever vs. source” lens you can use this week
• A gentle way to meet what’s underneath—paired with embodiment so shifts last

If you’ve been circling the same challenges and are ready to understand what’s underneath—this episode is for you.

I hope it brings clarity, compassion, and a deeper sense of power in your healing journey.

Take a deep breath, hit play, and let’s walk this path together.

Timestamps:

00:00 Why recurring complaints are clues to deeper wounds

01:08 How complaints help you map your inner world

02:25 Why traditional venting doesn’t create real change

03:11 What complaints truly are — expressions of subconscious dissatisfaction

04:26 How childhood experiences form core wounds stored in the body

06:39 Complaints as “symptoms” — following them like breadcrumbs to the source

09:00 An example: when busyness hides a deeper loneliness

12:28 Healing the source — combining inner work with embodiment

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