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Episode 085: Jessica Lahey – Why Your Parenting Style Is Wrong

Jessica Lahey is an extremely intelligent leader.  She truly understands the importance of an intense focus on continuous improvement.  Learning more about the most important job we (parents) will ever have is imperative to me.  Jessica shares detailed, research backed evidence to how we can better lead our children.  We are extremely fortunate to have Jessica share her knowledge with us, the loyal listeners of The Learning Leader Show. 

Jessica Lahey is an educator, author, and speaker. She writes "The Parent-Teacher Conference" column for the New York Times, is a contributing writer for The Atlantic, and a commentator for Vermont Public Radio. Her new book, The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed is a New York Times bestseller.

Episode 085: Jessica Lahey – Why Your Parenting Style Is Wrong

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“If your daughter forgets her homework on the kitchen table, should you take it to her?  Or should you allow her to fail and face the consequences?”

Some Questions I Ask:

  • What are the common characteristics of leaders who have sustained excellence over time?
  • What are your thoughts on kids “playing up” a level in sports as a means to experience failure?
  • Why do parents always publish pictures of their kids smiling perfectly on Facebook?
  • Why is it a terrible idea to reward your kids for getting straight A’s
  • How do you handle household duties?  How do you ensure stuff gets done?
  • How do you discipline your children?
  • How can we think long term when we see our children suffering?
  • What does being a learning leader mean to you?
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    In This Episode, You Will Learn:

    • Not getting overwhelmed by the enormity of a task… A “ how to”
    • “Playing Up” and the power of playing against great competition and failing
    • Not doing the homework for your children… Why?
    • Facebook and why people only show their highlight reel and why it’s bad for children
    • How giving your child a reward (money, toys, etc…) for getting good grades can hurt them long term
    • Setting specific expectations – A How To
    • Thinking Long Term…
    • The importance of taking a complicated message and making it clear
    • “Extrinsic Motivators Can Be Really Harmful For Creativity And Learning”

      Continue Learning:

      • Go To Jessica’s website: com
      • Read: The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed
      • Read: How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success
      • Follow Jess on Twitter: @jesslahey
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        Episode edited by the great J Scott Donnell

        Bio From JessicaLahey.com

        Jessica Lahey is an educator, author, and speaker. She writes "The Parent-Teacher Conference" column for the New York Times, is a contributing writer for The Atlantic, and a commentator for Vermont Public Radio. Her new book, The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed is a New York Times bestseller.

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