10 BDSM SKILLS THAT CAN INFORM ALL RELATIONSHIPS : 01 - CONTAIN YOUR SUBMISSIVE

People often ask whether BDSM principles and energetics can be applied to other relationships and dynamics.  I’ve heard too many bad answers to this inquiry.  I’ve decided to make my own series of conversations to talk about how the skills from a good and balanced D/s dynamic might be extrapolated to :

1.  Non-BDSM / Vanilla relationships.
2.  Work dynamics where there is a Employer/employee, Leader/follower dynamic.

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CONTAINMENT!

First and foremost, let’s start with the skill and mastery of Containment.

Containment is the first skill and energetics needed to make a D/s dynamic work.

Containment is what the Dom offers to their submissive at the beginning of every scene.

It’s in the giving and receiving of Containment between the Dom and the sub that their relationship is established.

It is the first skill and the most crucial skill that Doms needs to learn.

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VANILLA RELATIONSHIPS : Containment is needed in all personal relationships.  In all relationships, at least one of the two people should be able to offer great Containment to the other.

The polarity in a relationship is often established along the lines of which person is generally in greater need of Containment and which person is more easily able to offer Containment.

In a man-woman dynamic, almost without exception, men really need to step up and learn to offer great Containment to their women.

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WORK DYNAMIC : Good leaders offer good Containment to their followers.  Good bosses offer Containment to their employees.

When the leader walks into the room, the others should feel a sigh of relief.  They should feel more assured.  They should feel more held.

Feeling this way towards one’s leader inspires our follower-ship.  Receiving this Containment from our leader inspires us to trust them and to support them.

— Om Rupani

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