10 BDSM SKILLS THAT CAN INFORM ALL RELATIONSHIPS : 05 - END YOUR SCENE!

Long-term couples are often struggling with recapturing the spark they felt with each other during the beginning of their connections.

Regular therapists offer their own solutions to what a couple might try to find their way out of the doldrums of an ongoing dynamic that may be prone to falling into domesticity rather than romance and passion.

BDSM has it’s own flavor of advice and wisdom:  

END YOUR SCENES!  

RITUALIZE YOUR RELATIONSHIP!

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Make your life into distinct scenes.

Close each scene.  

Make your scene interesting enough that you feel full at the end.

Know how to end on a peak.

A good scene is a full meal of relating.

When you talk to most couple, they may be spending hours each day together and yet it does not seem that they have had a full meal of relationship in a long time.

Scenes create intensity.

It’s satisfying to close scenes and cycles.

Satisfaction is experienced at the end of a cycle.  If you don’t end cycles, you may miss out on satisfaction.

We need distinct events in our relating.

We need punctuation marks in our relating.  Close sentences and paragraphs and chapters in your relating; then start new ones.  You need a change of costume.  You need a change of location.

How can long term couples end their scenes?

Create separation.  Set up a lifestyle with punctation marks instead of run-on sentences.  

Don’t try to ruin the separation.  Use life to create separation.  Create distance.  Enjoy distance.  Give each other separation.  

Stop being husband and wife for a while, and then pick it up again.  

Have a morning scene.  Have an evening scene.

Your time together should be a segment.

Make occasion of occasions.

Switch archetypes from scene to scene.

Separate scene from scene.

If you are going out to dinner, don’t have domestic conversation on the way to dinner or at dinner or after dinner.  Set up a domestic scene instead.  

Dress up for each scene.

If all this sounds extravagant, it’s your choice how deliberately you want to live your life.

More interesting is available in our living, but it does require more deliberate effort and creation.

End your scenes.  Divide your life into scenes.  In between the scenes let there be clean separation.

Let the man go do his Saturday scene.  Let the woman have her Saturday scene.  Give each other scenes separate from each other.

— Om Rupani

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