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103: 7 things i’d NEVER do again if i DATED now as a secure woman 🍷💐 (what to do instead)
…and the last one will shock you
7 Things I’d Do Differently If I Dated Now As a Secure Woman
How to STOP needing so much reassurance via text ❤️🩹📱
https://www.julanoelle.com/textanxiety
If you’ve ever met one guy on a dating app and your brain immediately built a whole 10-year love story in 48 hours… this episode is your new medicine.
I’m breaking down the 7 things I would do completely differently if I dated again - now that I’m securely attached and no longer chasing crumbs 💋ྀིྀི
Inside this episode, you’ll learn:
★ Why dating multiple people at once keeps you in CHOICE instead of obsession
★ How dating slow protects you from falling for “potential”
★ The reason secure women show up authentic fast, instead of performing
★ Why I wait for emotional safety before ANY intimacy
★ How to actually date head over heart (and stop confusing chaos for chemistry)
★ What detached energy looks like when you’re not in scarcity anymore
★ Why keeping your life the main event makes you more attractive instantly
★ And the extra rule that would SHOCK old me:
I don’t initiate or follow up after early dates - ever
If you want to attract a secure, emotionally available partner…
If you’re tired of overthinking texts, panicking after dates, or getting attached to someone you barely know…
If you want to date from your POWER and not your fear…
This episode is your roadmap
I’m sharing real stories, client examples, and the exact shifts that turn anxious dating into secure dating.
This isn’t fluffy advice.
These are the rules that create healthy, grounded, actual connection — not fantasy bonds.
🌷✨ Listen now if you want to stop chasing chemistry and start choosing compatibility.
1:1 Coaching Offers (via video calls or whatsapp)
https://tr.ee/PInPmy
Free Find your ANXIOUS Archetype NOW (to feel calmer)
https://tr.ee/9s05-v9M30
Free: Anxious to Secure Checklist
https://www.julanoelle.com/anxioustosecurechecklist
FREE 3min Attachment Style QUIZ (join 4K others)
https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz
🖤 💆🏻♀️ How to STOP needing so much reassurance via text
(because safety comes from within, and you chasing or not settling boundary is the thing that give you anxiety, NOT a delayed text.)
https://www.julanoelle.com/textanxiety
▶️ Chapters:
00:00 Introduction to Secure Dating Tips
00:34 7 Secure dating Tips (from an EX Anxious Attachment Girly)
00:44 Dating tip #01
03:57 Dating Tip #02
06:44 Dating Tip #03
08:40 Dating Tip #04
09:55 Dating Tip #05
11:41 Dating Tips #06
13:41 Dating Tip #07
17:23 Bonus Dating Tip #08
22:06 Remember THIS
DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor.
This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions.
This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.
Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.
ON SALE: How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in 4 Steps
(With Your Avoidant Partner)
https://www.julanoelle.com/overthinkingcourse
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By Jula - The Anxious To Secure Coach
3.7
33 ratings
…and the last one will shock you
7 Things I’d Do Differently If I Dated Now As a Secure Woman
How to STOP needing so much reassurance via text ❤️🩹📱
https://www.julanoelle.com/textanxiety
If you’ve ever met one guy on a dating app and your brain immediately built a whole 10-year love story in 48 hours… this episode is your new medicine.
I’m breaking down the 7 things I would do completely differently if I dated again - now that I’m securely attached and no longer chasing crumbs 💋ྀིྀི
Inside this episode, you’ll learn:
★ Why dating multiple people at once keeps you in CHOICE instead of obsession
★ How dating slow protects you from falling for “potential”
★ The reason secure women show up authentic fast, instead of performing
★ Why I wait for emotional safety before ANY intimacy
★ How to actually date head over heart (and stop confusing chaos for chemistry)
★ What detached energy looks like when you’re not in scarcity anymore
★ Why keeping your life the main event makes you more attractive instantly
★ And the extra rule that would SHOCK old me:
I don’t initiate or follow up after early dates - ever
If you want to attract a secure, emotionally available partner…
If you’re tired of overthinking texts, panicking after dates, or getting attached to someone you barely know…
If you want to date from your POWER and not your fear…
This episode is your roadmap
I’m sharing real stories, client examples, and the exact shifts that turn anxious dating into secure dating.
This isn’t fluffy advice.
These are the rules that create healthy, grounded, actual connection — not fantasy bonds.
🌷✨ Listen now if you want to stop chasing chemistry and start choosing compatibility.
1:1 Coaching Offers (via video calls or whatsapp)
https://tr.ee/PInPmy
Free Find your ANXIOUS Archetype NOW (to feel calmer)
https://tr.ee/9s05-v9M30
Free: Anxious to Secure Checklist
https://www.julanoelle.com/anxioustosecurechecklist
FREE 3min Attachment Style QUIZ (join 4K others)
https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz
🖤 💆🏻♀️ How to STOP needing so much reassurance via text
(because safety comes from within, and you chasing or not settling boundary is the thing that give you anxiety, NOT a delayed text.)
https://www.julanoelle.com/textanxiety
▶️ Chapters:
00:00 Introduction to Secure Dating Tips
00:34 7 Secure dating Tips (from an EX Anxious Attachment Girly)
00:44 Dating tip #01
03:57 Dating Tip #02
06:44 Dating Tip #03
08:40 Dating Tip #04
09:55 Dating Tip #05
11:41 Dating Tips #06
13:41 Dating Tip #07
17:23 Bonus Dating Tip #08
22:06 Remember THIS
DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor.
This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions.
This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.
Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.
ON SALE: How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in 4 Steps
(With Your Avoidant Partner)
https://www.julanoelle.com/overthinkingcourse
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