How to thrive with an avoidant man, love an avoidant partner, and stop chasing in an anxious–avoidant relationship 🖤✨

If you have an anxious attachment style and you’re in a relationship with an avoidant man, this episode will feel painfully familiar 👀

I break down the anxious–avoidant cycle in simple words and show you why neutral moments suddenly feel threatening, why you lean in when he pulls away, and why chasing, fixing, or people-pleasing feels safe in the moment but creates more distance over time 🔄

We talk about how to live with an avoidant partner without walking on eggshells, how to love a dismissive avoidant man without losing yourself, and the four conditions that decide whether an anxious–avoidant relationship can actually work 💭

You’ll learn why it only takes one person to break the cycle, how emotional regulation changes the entire dynamic, and how to stop making your partner your only source of safety and reassurance 🧠✨

Then I share 7 practical rules that helped me and my clients feel calmer, more grounded, and more secure while staying in relationships with avoidant partners. This includes how to give space without panicking, speak up without criticism, and create closeness without pressure 🤍

This episode also naturally covers how to deal with an avoidant partner during stress or conflict, how to stop obsessing over his moods, and how to shift from fear-based attachment to clarity and self-trust 🫂

This is not about manipulation or making him change.

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00:00 What is the Anxious Avoidant Cycle?

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This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

Avoidant attachment or narcissist?

In this episode, I explain the difference between avoidant attachment style and narcissism, and why anxious partners so often confuse the two.

Some behaviors look similar on the surface, but the intention, nervous system response, and emotional capacity underneath are very different.

You’ll learn how to tell:

I also explain:

If you’ve ever searched:

this episode will give you clarity.

The real question isn’t what label your partner has.

CHAPTERS:

00:00 Understanding Attachment Styles and Narcissism

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This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

In this episode, we break down the Brooklyn Beckham family situation through attachment theory 🧠✨ because THIS will reveal the truth, what's actually happening in the beckhams family life NOT gossip.

NOT drama.

NOT taking sides (well..maybe a little) let me know WHICH side you are on, TEAM Victoria or TEAM Nicola?

But real PSYCHOLOGY behind love, loyalty, power, and fear of abandonment

From one EX-anxious attached girl, to you, so you can learn from Brooklyn's dating mistakes..or heart break mistakes, as he is NOT even dating anymore.

We talk about:

➞ anxious attachment vs avoidant dynamics

➞ why romantic love can feel SAFER than family

➞ when “choosing your partner” turns into emotional survival

🚨 ➞ the cutting off family trend and when it’s healthy… and when it’s NOT 🚩

➞ how power, control, and unmet childhood needs show up in adult love This is NOT about blaming Brooklyn Beckham or Nicola Peltz.

This is about asking the deeper question 👀💭

“Where do I see MYSELF in this story?”

#brooklynbeckham #nicolapeltz #attachmenttheory #narcissism #relationshipredflags

If you’ve ever:

➞ over-chosen a partner 🫂

➞ felt torn between love and family 💔

➞ stayed loyal even when it hurt 🌪

➞ feared losing your relationship more than losing yourself 🥶

This episode is for YOU 🫶✨ 🎙 Unedited. Real.

Attachment theory explained simply.

Remember: change in your relationship starts with YOU. Thought by thought. Action by action. Episode by episode.

CHAPTERS:

00:00 Understanding Attachment Theory

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This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

If you’re still anxiously attached…

This episode is for YOU. 

In this podcast, I share 26 practical, real-life things you can start doing in 2026 to finally heal anxious attachment and become SECURELY ATTACHED not just in love, but in life. 

Because this work doesn’t just change your relationships.

I was anxiously attached for 30+ years.

Not just how I love.

Whether you’re in your 20s, 30s, or 40s —

Because what’s the point of:

…if you feel anxious, insecure, and disconnected from yourself inside? 🚩

In this episode, you’ll learn how to:

This is not theory.

🎧 Grab a pen.

Your younger YOU deserves this.

💌 Want my support?

Sending you a secure, calm, empowered 2026 

Love,

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CHAPTERS:

00:00 Introduction to Anxious Attachment and Healing

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This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

36 LESSONS I’VE LEARNED ABOUT LOVE, RELATIONSHIPS, ATTACHMENT & SELF-WORTH 🎙✨🖤

This episode is for you if you’ve ever loved deeply…

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If you’ve ever:

These 36 lessons are not theory.

This episode is about anxious attachment, emotional safety, boundaries, self-esteem, self-worth, friendships, and secure love.

You’ll hear why secure people don’t chase, they attract.

You’ll learn how your body knows before your brain does.

We talk about boundaries.

You’ll hear the truth about “boring” love.

This episode breaks down why chemistry without safety is often trauma bonding.

We also talk about self-esteem.

You’ll learn why self-esteem grows through actions, not affirmations alone.

There’s also truth about growth.

You’ll hear why love should add to your life, not become your whole life.

We talk about nervous system regulation.

And finally, the truth that changes everything:

If something in your life isn’t working, waiting won’t fix it.

This episode is a mirror.

Listen if you’re ready to stop chasing love…

Because your healing doesn’t start with someone else changing.

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CHAPTERS:

Part 02:

00:00 intro 36 Lessons about love, attachment, self-esteem etc

14:52 lesson 35

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This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions.

This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

This episode is for the version of you who feels like they’re behind in life…

If you’ve ever thought:

This episode will land DEEP 💎🧠✨

In Part 01, I’m sharing the first 18 life lessons I’ve learned about love, anxious attachment, self-esteem, self-worth, friendships, confidence, healing, and choosing yourself.

We start with one of the most important truths:

Even if you’re not married.

You’ll hear why your brain lies to you about timelines…

We talk about why your brain obsesses over the ONE person who doesn’t choose you…

You’ll learn why everything you want already exists…

We also get real about confidence.

You’ll hear why anxiety isn’t proof something is wrong.

We talk about:

There’s a powerful reminder that one day…

We talk about gratitude without bypassing pain.

This episode also dives into:

And one of the biggest shifts:

Over-giving isn’t love.

This episode is a mirror 🪞

Listen if you want to:

Because healing doesn’t start with fixing your partner.

🎧 After listening, tell me:

Lots of love 🫶

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CHAPTER:

00:00 Celebrating 36 Years: A Journey of Lessons

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This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions.

This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

Why do affirmations sometimes make you MORE anxious instead of calm? 🌪

If you’ve ever thought:

You’re not broken 🫂

In this episode, I explain why most affirmations don’t work for anxious attachment — and how they can actually strengthen your abandonment fears, texting anxiety, and relationship overthinking 🚩

You’ll learn:

And then I walk you through a simple 5-step action plan to make affirmations ACTUALLY work — in real life, in real relationships, during real triggers 💪🏽🖤

This is for you if:

No fluff.

Just attachment-safe tools that calm your body, rewire your brain, and help you feel steady inside yourself 🔒✨

CHAPTERS:

00:00 Understanding Affirmations and Attachment Anxiety

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This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions.

This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

Your Trust Issues Will Make Him Break Your Trust in your anxious-avoidant relationship

Have you ever thought:

“I trust my boyfriend when he’s done nothing wrong… so why am I still anxious?”

“Why do I always worry my partner might leave me?”

“Why do trust issues show up even in healthy relationships?”

This episode is for women with trust issues, relationship anxiety, and fear of abandonment who feel on edge even when nothing bad is happening.

If you’ve been the “chill” woman on the outside while secretly scanning for danger on the inside… re-reading texts, checking tone, bracing for pain...you’re not broken. Your brain is running a self-fulfilling prophecy. 🌀

We’ll break down:

How trust issues form (even when men haven’t actually betrayed you)

Why anxiety behaviors push secure men away and activate avoidant ones

How over-checking, reassurance-seeking, and control loops reinforce the belief “men can’t be trusted”

Why your nervous system is protecting you... and how that protection turns into self-sabotage

You’ll learn how to rebuild trust in yourself, regulate your nervous system, and shift out of hypervigilance.. so love stops feeling like a threat and starts feeling safe again. 

⏰ Chapters

00:00 Why trust issues create self-fulfilling prophecies

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This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

Have you been wondering: “Why isn’t my partner saying ‘I love you’ more?”

Or maybe it’s more like:

Why does my boyfriend not say “I love you” first?

Why does my husband not say “I love you” back sometimes?

Why does he just say “love you” or “me too” instead of the words I need? 🌪

7 Truths you’re MISSING about love, words, and attachment

Hey love… if your chest tightens when he says “love you” instead of “I love you,” or a simple “me too” makes your stomach drop 🌪, this episode is for you.

If you’re re-reading texts, scanning every emoji, and panicking:

…then this is EXACTLY for your anxious attachment brain 

Here’s the truth: it’s probably NOT about him.

Not about your relationship.

And definitely not about you.

Most likely, your partner loves you deeply… but shows it in a different language than your nervous system was shaped to understand.

Yay. (thats the GOOD news.) 🕊💛

This episode is for women with relationship anxiety, fear of abandonment, and those hypervigilant to verbal reassurance.

You’ll learn how to see his love, read his actions, and shift your nervous system so you stop chasing or doubting.

If you’re ready to feel safe, loved, and confident in your relationship, even when the words aren’t exactly what your brain expects, press play 🎧🩹🤍

00:00 Understanding Love Language and Attachment Styles

✨ Stop *FINALLY* Obsessing Over Texts 

NOT how they communicate with you)

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This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

If you’re an anxiously attached woman who keeps overthinking texts, overgiving in dating, and chasing emotionally unavailable men, this episode is for you 🖤✨

This is what I wish I knew in my 20s about men and relationships

 before I burned myself out trying to be chosen, trying to be “easy to love,” and trying to make men stay.

In this podcast episode, I share dating advice for anxious attachment, explain how men actually fall in love, and why chasing, proving, and people-pleasing push men away instead of creating connection.

You’ll learn how to stop obsessing, stop abandoning yourself, set healthy boundaries, and attract secure, emotionally available men without playing games or pretending not to care.

This episode is especially for women struggling with relationship anxiety, fear of abandonment, limerence, and anxious-avoidant dating dynamics — the women who keep asking:

You’re not broken. This is about attachment wiring, not your worth 🔒🧠

✨ Stop *FINALLY* Obsessing Over Texts 

NOT how they communicate with you)

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00:00 Understanding Men's Love Dynamics

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This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions.

This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.