The Anxious To Secure PODCAST

By Jula - The Anxious To Secure Coach

Welcome to Anxious to Secure - the podcast for anyone who feels anxious in love and wants to feel calm, confident, and connected.

If you’re chasing an emotionally unavailable (Avoidant) partner…

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January 13, 2026 116: *36 Life Lessons* Part 2 about becoming securely attached, love, relationships YOU'll need to know
36 LESSONS I’VE LEARNED ABOUT LOVE, RELATIONSHIPS, ATTACHMENT & SELF-WORTH 🎙✨🖤
This episode is for you if you’ve ever loved deeply…
and lost yourself in the process 🫂💔

👇 RESOURCES 👇
💎 Courses
✨ Stop FINALLY Obsessing Over Texts
➞ https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety

💛 Free Stuff – 30+ resources
Free Attachment Library
➞ https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach/shop

If you’ve ever:
➞ overthought every text 📱⛈
➞ confused anxiety with intuition 🔮🚩
➞ stayed too long because of hope 🎢
➞ abandoned your routines, friends, or goals for love
➞ felt “too much” and “not enough” at the same time 🥶🔥
These 36 lessons are not theory.
They’re lived.
Felt.
Learned the hard way 💎🧠✨
This episode is about anxious attachment, emotional safety, boundaries, self-esteem, self-worth, friendships, and secure love.
Not in a perfect, polished way.
But in a real, honest, nervous-system-level way 🫂🔒
You’ll hear why secure people don’t chase, they attract.
Not because they’re lucky.
But because they choose themselves first 🖤✨
You’ll learn how your body knows before your brain does.
Why butterflies aren’t always a green flag.
And how tight chests, knots in your stomach, and “chemistry” can actually be your past asking for attention 🚩🪞

We talk about boundaries.
Why they don’t push the right people away.
Why they filter out what no longer matches your energy.
And why people-pleasing was never keeping you safe in the first place 🔒✨
You’ll hear the truth about “boring” love.
Why healthy love can feel unfamiliar when chaos felt like home.
And how peace becomes the most exciting thing once your nervous system learns it’s safe 🌤🧘🏼‍♀️

This episode breaks down why chemistry without safety is often trauma bonding.
Why you don’t need one soulmate.
Why slow, steady connections deserve time.
And how peace doesn’t mean lack of passion long-term 💛🔥
We also talk about self-esteem.
Not the fluffy kind.
The real kind 💪🏽🖤

You’ll learn why self-esteem grows through actions, not affirmations alone.
Why tiny brave acts change your attachment patterns.
And how choosing yourself consistently changes who chooses you 💎
There’s also truth about growth.
How you may lose people as you heal.
Why that’s not a failure.
And how outgrowing old dynamics is often a sign you’re finally coming back to yourself 🦋✨
You’ll hear why love should add to your life, not become your whole life.
Why interdependence beats obsession.
And how missing someone doesn’t automatically mean they belong in your future 🫂🚪
We talk about nervous system regulation.
Why the same relationship feels different when YOU are regulated.
Why you stop sending anxious paragraphs.
Why you stop abandoning yourself first 🧠🔒
And finally, the truth that changes everything:
Hope is not a strategy. Action is.
If something in your life isn’t working, waiting won’t fix it.
Healing requires movement.
Boundaries.
New standards.
New choices ✨💥
This episode is a mirror.
Not to judge you.
But to remind you who you are 🪞🖤
Listen if you’re ready to stop chasing love…
and start choosing yourself.
Because your healing doesn’t start with someone else changing.
It starts with YOU.
Thought by thought.
Action by action.
And one honest decision at a time

🖤 About me
I’m Jula, an attachment style coach.
I help women heal trust issues, stop chasing, and build secure love ✨

💌 Work with me
➞ All offers: https://tr.ee/PInPmy
WhatsApp Coaching ➞ https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textandtalk

CHAPTERS:
Part 02:
00:00 intro 36 Lessons about love, attachment, self-esteem etc
00:36 lesson 19
05:04 lesson 25
10:01 lesson 30
13:05 lesson 35
14:52 lesson 35

DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor.
This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions.
This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.
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17min
January 08, 2026 115: *36 Life Lessons* about love, relationships Attachment
This episode is for the version of you who feels like they’re behind in life…
even though they’ve already survived so much 🫂⛈
If you’ve ever thought:
➞ “I should be married by now”
➞ “Everyone else has it figured out except me”
➞ “Why do I always overthink, attach, or care more?”
➞ “Why does love feel so hard when I try so much?”
This episode will land DEEP 💎🧠✨
In Part 01, I’m sharing the first 18 life lessons I’ve learned about love, anxious attachment, self-esteem, self-worth, friendships, confidence, healing, and choosing yourself.
Not from books.
Not from theory.
From LIVING it 🖤
We start with one of the most important truths:
You are not behind.

Even if you’re not married.
Even if you don’t have the house, the kids, or the five-year plan.
Even if your life doesn’t look “right” on paper 📄🚩

You’ll hear why your brain lies to you about timelines…
and how comparison keeps you disconnected from your own growth 🪞
We talk about why your brain obsesses over the ONE person who doesn’t choose you…
while ignoring the people who already do 💔🎢
And how anxious attachment turns “hard to get” into “must have” 🚩
You’ll learn why everything you want already exists…
and how following the right blueprint changes what feels possible for you
We also get real about confidence.
The difference between external confidence (looks, body, validation)
and real inner confidence that doesn’t disappear when no one texts back 📱🥶
You’ll hear why anxiety isn’t proof something is wrong.
It’s proof your brain THINKS something is wrong 🧠🚨
And how butterflies, nerves, and intensity are not the same as love ❤️‍🔥🚩

We talk about:
✣ Why doing the same thing over and over keeps you stuck
✣ Why closure doesn’t come from them, it comes from YOU
✣ How repetition literally rewires your brain and attachment style
✣ Why self-criticism trains your nervous system to feel unsafe
✣ How self-trust is built in seconds, not years

There’s a powerful reminder that one day…
you’ll miss the life you’re living right now 🌤🫂
Even the “boring” days.
Even the messy chapters.
We talk about gratitude without bypassing pain.
About how modern dating and technology have changed connection.
And why slowing down your nervous system matters more than getting answers 🔒🧘🏼‍♀️

This episode also dives into:
✣ Why postponing happiness keeps you anxious
✣ Why healing is about the DAILY habits, not the end goal
✣ Why forcing love never creates safety
✣ Why anxious attachment is NOT your personality
✣ How abandonment wounds make you chase reassurance instead of safety
And one of the biggest shifts:
If you’ve abandoned yourself long enough, others will too.

Over-giving isn’t love.
It’s fear wearing a cute outfit 🫂🚩
This episode is a mirror 🪞
Not to shame you.
But to remind you who you are beneath the anxiety 💎
Listen if you want to:
➞ stop chasing reassurance
➞ stop overthinking texts
➞ stop feeling “too much”
➞ and start building real emotional safety within yourself

Because healing doesn’t start with fixing your partner.
It starts with choosing yourself.
Again.
And again.
And again 🖤✨
🎧 After listening, tell me:
Which lesson hit you in the chest the most?
And which one are you ready to LIVE next?
Lots of love 🫶
I see you.
And I’ll see you in Part 02 ✨🎙

👇 RESOURCES 👇
💎 Courses
✨ Stop FINALLY Obsessing Over Texts
➞ https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety

💛 Free Stuff – 30+ resources
Free Attachment Library
➞ https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach/shop

🖤 About me
I’m Jula, an attachment style coach.
I help women heal trust issues, stop chasing, and build secure love ✨

💌 Work with me
➞ All offers: https://tr.ee/PInPmy
WhatsApp Coaching ➞ https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textandtalk

CHAPTER:
00:00 Celebrating 36 Years: A Journey of Lessons
01:15 lesson 01
03:36 lesson 02
04:18 lesson 03
05:18 lesson 04
06:17 lesson 05
07:19 lesson 06
07:47 lesson 07
08:12 lesson 08
08:55 lesson 09
09:58 lesson 10
11:29 lesson 11
13:59 lesson 12
16:12 lesson 13
17:06 lesson 14
17:34 lesson 15
18:05 lesson 16
19:38 lesson 17
20:52 lesson 18

DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor.
This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions.
This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.
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24min
January 06, 2026 114: Why affirmations can make you MORE anxious or simply don't work (for love, relationships, secure attachment))
Why do affirmations sometimes make you MORE anxious instead of calm? 🌪
Why do they feel fake… forced… or even triggering? 🧨
And why do you end up overthinking MORE after saying them? 🧠💭
If you’ve ever thought:
➞ “Affirmations don’t work for me.”
➞ “I feel worse after saying them.”
➞ “They just make me more aware of my fears.”
You’re not broken 🫂
You’re not doing it wrong 🖤
Your brain is just doing EXACTLY what it’s designed to do 🔒🧠
In this episode, I explain why most affirmations don’t work for anxious attachment — and how they can actually strengthen your abandonment fears, texting anxiety, and relationship overthinking 🚩
You’ll learn:
✨ Why your brain hears fear words FIRST
✨ Why repeating affirmations without feeling them backfires
✨ Why big “I am secure” statements get rejected
✨ Why timing matters more than repetition
✨ Why your BODY must feel safe before your mind believes
And then I walk you through a simple 5-step action plan to make affirmations ACTUALLY work — in real life, in real relationships, during real triggers 💪🏽🖤
This is for you if:
➞ You overthink texts 📱
➞ You panic when there’s space or silence 🌪
➞ You feel needy, clingy, or “too much” 🩹
➞ You want secure attachment but don’t know how to get there 🗝
No fluff.
No toxic positivity.
No lying to your nervous system.
Just attachment-safe tools that calm your body, rewire your brain, and help you feel steady inside yourself 🔒✨

CHAPTERS:
00:00 Understanding Affirmations and Attachment Anxiety
01:03 Why changing your limiting beliefs is important to becoming securely attached
02:28 01. The brain hears words literally
05:10 02. Repeating without feeling doesn’t work
10:28 03. You affirmations are NOT believable
13:46 04. You're not repeating it in the RIGHT moment
17:11 05. Aligning Actions with Affirmations
20:02 How to become secure with coaching
23:23 5 Steps how to make affirmations work for love, secure attachment and self-esteem
32:05 Bottom line

👇 RESOURCES 👇
💎 Courses
✨ Stop FINALLY Obsessing Over Texts
➞ https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety

💛 Free Stuff – 30+ resources
Free Attachment Library
➞ https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach/shop

🖤 About me
I’m Jula, an attachment style coach.
I help women heal trust issues, stop chasing, and build secure love ✨

💌 Work with me
➞ All offers: https://tr.ee/PInPmy
WhatsApp Coaching ➞ https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textandtalk

DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor.
This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions.
This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.
...more
34min
January 01, 2026113: YOUR trust issues will make HIM break your trust (Anxious-Avoidant Trust Cycle)
Your Trust Issues Will Make Him Break Your Trust in your anxious-avoidant relationship
Have you ever thought:
“I trust my boyfriend when he’s done nothing wrong… so why am I still anxious?”
“Why do I always worry my partner might leave me?”
“Why do trust issues show up even in healthy relationships?”

This episode is for women with trust issues, relationship anxiety, and fear of abandonment who feel on edge even when nothing bad is happening.
If you’ve been the “chill” woman on the outside while secretly scanning for danger on the inside… re-reading texts, checking tone, bracing for pain...you’re not broken. Your brain is running a self-fulfilling prophecy. 🌀

We’ll break down:
How trust issues form (even when men haven’t actually betrayed you)
Why anxiety behaviors push secure men away and activate avoidant ones
How over-checking, reassurance-seeking, and control loops reinforce the belief “men can’t be trusted”
Why your nervous system is protecting you... and how that protection turns into self-sabotage
You’ll learn how to rebuild trust in yourself, regulate your nervous system, and shift out of hypervigilance.. so love stops feeling like a threat and starts feeling safe again.

⏰ Chapters
00:00 Why trust issues create self-fulfilling prophecies
02:14 Dating stage: trust issues in the talking phase
06:48 How anxiety behaviors push good men away
11:02 Relationship stage: overthinking, jealousy, reassurance loops
15:40 Why avoidant partners are drawn to anxious patterns
19:30 The psychology behind “I trust him but still feel unsafe”
23:10 The real shift: rebuilding trust in yourself
27:05 4 mini steps to rewire trust
31:40 What changes when trust heals

💎 Courses
✨ Stop FINALLY Obsessing Over Texts
➞ https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety

💛 Free Stuff – 30+ resources
Free Attachment Library
➞ https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach/shop

🖤 About me
I’m Jula, an attachment style coach.
I help women heal trust issues, stop chasing, and build secure love ✨

💌 Work with me
➞ All offers: https://tr.ee/PInPmy
WhatsApp Coaching ➞ https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textandtalk

DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor.
This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions.
This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.
...more
29min
December 30, 2025112: Why isn't my partner saying 🗣️💖 I love you MORE (back or first) (7 truths you're missing)
Have you been wondering: “Why isn’t my partner saying ‘I love you’ more?”
Or maybe it’s more like:
Why does my boyfriend not say “I love you” first?
Why does my husband not say “I love you” back sometimes?
Why does he just say “love you” or “me too” instead of the words I need? 🌪

7 Truths you’re MISSING about love, words, and attachment
Hey love… if your chest tightens when he says “love you” instead of “I love you,” or a simple “me too” makes your stomach drop 🌪, this episode is for you.

If you’re re-reading texts, scanning every emoji, and panicking:
🧨 “Is he pulling away?”
🧨 “Did the love change?”
🧨 “Is something wrong?”
…then this is EXACTLY for your anxious attachment brain
Here’s the truth: it’s probably NOT about him.
Not about your relationship.
And definitely not about you.

Most likely, your partner loves you deeply… but shows it in a different language than your nervous system was shaped to understand.
Yay. (thats the GOOD news.) 🕊💛

This episode is for women with relationship anxiety, fear of abandonment, and those hypervigilant to verbal reassurance.
You’ll learn how to see his love, read his actions, and shift your nervous system so you stop chasing or doubting.
If you’re ready to feel safe, loved, and confident in your relationship, even when the words aren’t exactly what your brain expects, press play 🎧🩹🤍

⏰ Chapters
00:00 Understanding Love Language and Attachment Styles
02:30 What if he doesn't love me anymore?
02:47 First… this fear is NOT about your partner
04:37 Second… words are NOT the only proof of love
08:58 Third… silence doesn’t mean distance
09:56 Fourth… your fear is a PART of you, not ALL of you
11:27 Fifth… ask yourself this instead
12:29 Sixth… here’s the honest, empowering truth
13:09 Seventh...You are NOT asking for too much (but you NEED words to feel safe))
16:54 Last thing

💎 Courses
✨ Stop *FINALLY* Obsessing Over Texts
(because YOU're BRIAN is the one creating YOUR anxiety,
NOT how they communicate with you)
➞ Grab It Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety

💛 Free Stuff 30+ resources
Free Attachment Library
➞ https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach/shop

🖤 About me
I’m Jula, an attachment style coach.
I help women stop chasing, stop overgiving, and attract secure love ✨

💌 Work with me
➞ All offers: https://tr.ee/PInPmy
WhatsApp Coaching
➞ Start Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textandtalk

DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor.
This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions.
This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.
...more
21min
December 25, 2025 111: (part 2) 10 truths about men I wish I KNEW SOONER when I was insecure
10 Hard Truths to STOP Chasing (Anxious Attachment & Dating Advice)
If you’re an anxiously attached woman who keeps overthinking texts, overgiving in dating, and chasing emotionally unavailable men, this episode is for you 🖤✨
This is what I wish I knew in my 20s about men and relationships — before I burned myself out trying to be chosen, trying to be “easy to love,” and trying to make men stay.
In this podcast episode, I share dating advice for anxious attachment, explain how men actually fall in love, and why chasing, proving, and people-pleasing push men away instead of creating connection. You’ll learn how to stop obsessing, stop abandoning yourself, set healthy boundaries, and attract secure, emotionally available men without playing games or pretending not to care.
This episode is especially for women struggling with relationship anxiety, fear of abandonment, limerence, and anxious-avoidant dating dynamics — the women who keep asking:
“Why do I care more than he does?”
“Why do men pull away when I get attached?”
You’re not broken. This is about attachment wiring, not your worth 🔒🧠

💎 Courses
✨ Stop *FINALLY* Obsessing Over Texts
(because YOU're BRIAN is the one creating YOUR anxiety,
NOT how they communicate with you)
➞ Grab It Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety

💛 Free Stuff 30+ resources
Free Attachment Library
➞ https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach/shop

⏰ What you’ll learn in this episode:
00:00 Understanding Men's Love Dynamics
00:07 01. Understand how MEN fall in love (not what you think)
04:26 02. Let Him Be Your Hero
09:57 3. Men are attracted to confidence AND boundaries
12:30 4. Men fall for presence, not perfection
16:06 5. Physical intimacy creates FAST bonds - use it wisely
17:50 6. Men secretly love a woman obsessed with HERSELF
19:42 7. The more you abandon yourself, the more emotionally unavailable men show up
20:54 8. Give him freedom - the healthiest power move
23:07 9. Obsession is a signal - not love
24:34 10. Make Him Fear He Could Lose You
26:11 Summary

🖤 About me
I’m Jula, an attachment style coach.
I help women stop chasing, stop overgiving, and attract secure love ✨

💌 Work with me
➞ All offers: https://tr.ee/PInPmy
WhatsApp Coaching
➞ Start Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textandtalk

DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor.
This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions.
This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.
...more
30min
December 22, 2025 110: 10 Crucial lessons👨🏻‍💼 I wish I Knew about men in my 20s about MEN (avoid my own mistakes)
➞ Take the 3min FREE Attachment Quiz (3.7K others did before you)
https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz

What I wish I knew when I was 20 about men.
Truly.
What would I wish I had known when I was 20? 🫂✨
These are the REAL truths about men I learned the hard way.
As an ex–anxious attachment girl.
Heartbroken.
Overthinking every text 📱
Feeling insecure WAY too often 🥶⛈
If you have anxious attachment, this episode is for YOU 🔒🤍
If you keep attracting emotionally unavailable men.
If you chase, overgive, and lose yourself trying to be chosen.
If dating feels like a 🎢 instead of something calm and safe.
In this episode, I’m sharing truths about men for anxious attachment that would have completely changed my 20s.
Psychology hacks
How men’s brains actually work 🔮
How they experience attraction.
How they love.
And why doing MORE usually pushes them away 🚩
This is NOT men vs women ❌
It’s attachment styles.
Nervous system wiring
Polarity.
And why anxious energy quietly kills attraction even when your intentions are pure 🩹

I share what actually makes men pursue 🐆
Why boundaries create attraction
How overgiving backfires.
And what secure love really looks like when you stop performing and start being YOU
This is dating advice for anxious women who want to stop auditioning.
Stop proving.
Stop waiting by the phone 👀📱
And finally feel calm, grounded, and confident in love ✨

I’m Jula
Attachment style coach.
I went from anxious to earned secure 5 years ago in only 6 months🦸🏼‍♀️
Welcome to the Anxious to Secure Podcast 🎙🤍

CHAPTERS:

00:00 10 Truths about men (about attachment styles, polarity, chasing) that would have CHANGED my 20's completely
01:27 01. It was NEVER about “men vs women.”
02:55 02. You teach a man EXACTLY how to treat you in the FIRST weeks.
03:57 03. If you treat him like a toddler, he WILL act like one.
05:29 04. If you want a man to pursue you, STOP performing.
07:37 05. Men respond to your ENERGY, not your anxiety.
09:03 06. Red flags don’t fade - they grow.
10:46 07. You were NEVER “too much.” His capacity was too little.
12:42 08. A man’s effort is the ONLY real truth - not his words.
14:33 9. Love isn’t always “I love you” 50 times a day.
17:30 10. If a man is confused about you, he is NOT your person.
19:57 Summary

💛 Free Stuff 30+ resources
Free Attachment Library
➞ https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach/shop

💎 Courses
ON SALE: ✨ Stop *FINALLY* Obsessing Over Texts
(because YOU're BRIAN is the one creating YOUR anxiety,
NOT how they communicate with you)
➞ Grab It Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety

ON SALE:
✨ How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in only 4 Steps
(With Your Avoidant Partner...because every minute you're imagining HIM leaving, you're manifesting it, as you're brain can't tell the difference between imagining and REAL.)
➞ Grab It Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse

💬 Work 1:1 with Me
➞ All offers: https://tr.ee/PInPmy
WhatsApp Coaching
➞ Start Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textandtalk

DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor.
This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions.
This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.
...more
23min
December 18, 2025 109: *10 TRUTHS* That Make Someone Chase You (and stop obsessing over them)

If you’re stuck chasing crumbs… overthinking every text… or getting attached to guys who give the BARE minimum — this episode is your wake-up call.

I’m breaking down why your anxious attachment makes you want the most unavailable guy… why your brain obsesses over mixed signals… and why you keep replaying his “hey” like it’s a love letter.

You’ll learn the 10 TRUTHS that flip the script — the ones that make HIM chase YOU.

Not by playing games… but by becoming SECURE, magnetic, grounded, and done with the old patterns that kept you stuck. 📓🖤

Inside this episode you’ll get:
★ why chasing makes him pull away
★ why scarcity makes you crave him
★ why your brain confuses rejection with danger
★ why you ignore the guy who actually likes you
★ why obsession kicks in when your body feels abandonment coming
★ and how to detach in a way that makes you feel confident, not cold ✨
By the end, you’ll know exactly how to stop overgiving, stop spiraling, stop proving yourself… and finally let HIM step up.

CHAPTER
00:00 Introduction to Transformative Truths
01:52 1. Whatever is being CHASED… RUNS
03:15 2. The more UNAVAILABLE he is… the more your brain craves him
04:59 3. Rejection hits the brain like actual PAIN ⛈️
05:59 4. When 19 adore you and 1 ignores you… your brain locks onto the ONE
08:07 5. When you chase, he relaxes. When you relax, he CHASES
15:15 6. Obsession kicks in when your body thinks you’re about to be ABANDONED
20:42 7. If he can PREDICT you… he stops pursuing
22:46 8. Your fantasy version of him does 95% of the chasing
25:01 Your Homework - 3 easy practical steps to STOP obsessing over HIM

💛 Free Stuff
Free Attachment Library
(30+ worksheets, downloads, guides, flow-charts, prompts, videos, etc)
➞ https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach/shop
Like the 💭 CHALLENGE 🔍 Your Thoughts - CHEAT SHEET
To Stop Running On Autopilot

💎 Courses
ON SALE: ✨ Stop *FINALLY* Obsessing Over Texts
(because YOU're BRIAN is the one creating YOUR anxiety,
NOT how they communicate with you)
➞ Grab It Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety

ON SALE:
✨ How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in only 4 Steps
(With Your Avoidant Partner...because every minute you're imagining HIM leaving, you're manifesting it, as you're brain can't tell the difference between imagining and REAL.)
➞ Grab It Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse

💬 Work 1:1 with Me
Personal Coaching
(Shift anxious attachment & reclaim your energy)
➞ All offers: https://tr.ee/PInPmy
WhatsApp Coaching
(Daily support + check-ins straight to your phone)
➞ Start Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textandtalk

DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor.
This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions.
This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.
...more
29min
December 16, 2025108: Pep talk💓🫂 feeling too sensitive, too emotional or too anxious?
💎 (ON SALE)Courses
✨ Stop *FINALLY* Obsessing Over Texts
(because YOU're BRIAN is the one creating YOUR anxiety,
NOT how they communicate with you)
➞ Grab It Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety

✨ How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in only 4 Steps
(With Your Avoidant Partner...because every minute you're imagining HIM leaving, you're manifesting it, as you're brain can't tell the difference between imagining and REAL.)
➞ Grab It Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse

Do you often feel overly sensitive, anxious, or like you’re too much in your relationships?
Do your emotions feel intense, your thoughts replay endlessly, or your need for connection feel overwhelming?
You’re not alone
and there’s nothing wrong with how deeply you feel. In this episode, we explore emotional sensitivity, anxious attachment, overthinking, and the power of fully embracing your feelings.

Grab a warm drink and save this episode for the times you feel like nothing is going right.

You’ll hear why:
Being too sensitive can actually be your superpower
Overthinking is just your brain processing deeply, not a flaw
Needing connection and setting boundaries shows strength
Your past experiences aren’t mistakes—they’re lessons that shaped your growth
Maybe, just maybe… you’re not the problem. Sometimes, others just can’t handle your energy and that’s okay.

CHAPTERS:
00:00 What if… you’re not actually “too much”?
04:02 What if you were never the one who needed “fixing”… and no one told you?

💬 Work 1:1 with Me
Personal Coaching
(Shift anxious attachment & reclaim your energy)
➞ All offers: https://tr.ee/PInPmy
WhatsApp Coaching
(Daily support + check-ins straight to your phone)
➞ Start Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textandtalk

💛 Free Stuff
Free Attachment Library
(30+ worksheets, downloads, guides, flow-charts, prompts, videos, etc)
➞ https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach/shop
Like the 💭 CHALLENGE 🔍 Your Thoughts - CHEAT SHEET
To Stop Running On Autopilot

⁀➴ (join 3K OTHERS!)
➞ Take the 3min FREE Quiz:
https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz
(Know your type so you do the right work)
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6min
December 11, 2025 107: 10+ Ways you Secretly 🤫 increase your relationship anxiety UNKNOWINGLY (that are NOT even about him)
જ⁀➴ (join 3K OTHERS!)
➞ Take the 3min FREE Quiz:
https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz
(Know your type so you do the right work)

10+ MICRO-HABITS That Increase Your Relationship Anxiety (Even When They Have NOTHING To Do With Your Relationship)
If you’re trying to go from anxious to secure, but you keep feeling on-edge for “no reason”… this episode is going to BLOW your mind. ★
These are the sneaky little habits that wire your nervous system into ALERT MODE before you even speak to him.
And no it’s not always your partner.

Sometimes it’s your life, your routines, your tiny micro-stressors… and they make your anxious attachment feel LOUDER.

Think:
waking up + grabbing your phone…
scrolling emails before coffee…
seeing a cute couple video that makes your chest tighten…
or drinking coffee on an empty stomach that tricks your brain into panic mode.
Your nervous system remembers old patterns.
It fires BEFORE your mind even notices what’s going on.
And suddenly his “I’ll call you later” feels like danger. ⛈️
Inside this episode, I walk you through 13 micro-habits that unknowingly spike your relationship anxiety and keep you stuck in anxious patterns even when your relationship is actually fine.
And yes…
I give you TINY homework at the end so you can actually create change and start becoming your secure, calm, grounded self NOW… not “one day.” 🖤✨
★

Homework inside the episode:
pick 3 habits → track your body → switch 1 thing → watch your anxiety soften.
Tiny shifts = BIG emotional regulation. 📓✨

💛 Free Stuff
Free Attachment Library
(30+ worksheets, downloads, guides, flow-charts, prompts, videos, etc)
➞ https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach/shop
Like the 💭 CHALLENGE 🔍 Your Thoughts - CHEAT SHEET
To Stop Running On Autopilot

💎 Courses
ON SALE: ✨ Stop *FINALLY* Obsessing Over Texts
(because YOU're BRIAN is the one creating YOUR anxiety,
NOT how they communicate with you)
➞ Grab It Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety

ON SALE:
✨ How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in only 4 Steps
(With Your Avoidant Partner...because every minute you're imagining HIM leaving, you're manifesting it, as you're brain can't tell the difference between imagining and REAL.)
➞ Grab It Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse

💬 Work 1:1 with Me
Personal Coaching
(Shift anxious attachment & reclaim your energy)
➞ All offers: https://tr.ee/PInPmy
WhatsApp Coaching
(Daily support + check-ins straight to your phone)
➞ Start Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textandtalk

CHAPTERS:
00:00 Understanding Relationship Anxiety
02:23 Habit 01
03:20 Habit 02
04:29 Habit 03
05:03 Habit 04
05:55 Habit 05
06:44 Habit 06
09:49 Habit 07
10:52 Habit 08
12:11 Habit 09
13:43 Habit 10
15:07 Habit 11 *bonus
16:37 Habit 12 *bonus
17:16 Your HOMEWORK *to create REAL change and regulate

DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor.
This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions.
This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

...more
20min

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