If you’re an anxiously attached woman who keeps overthinking texts, overgiving in dating, and chasing emotionally unavailable men, this episode is for you 🖤✨

This is what I wish I knew in my 20s about men and relationships — before I burned myself out trying to be chosen, trying to be “easy to love,” and trying to make men stay.

In this podcast episode, I share dating advice for anxious attachment, explain how men actually fall in love, and why chasing, proving, and people-pleasing push men away instead of creating connection. You’ll learn how to stop obsessing, stop abandoning yourself, set healthy boundaries, and attract secure, emotionally available men without playing games or pretending not to care.

This episode is especially for women struggling with relationship anxiety, fear of abandonment, limerence, and anxious-avoidant dating dynamics — the women who keep asking:

You’re not broken. This is about attachment wiring, not your worth 🔒🧠

✨ Stop *FINALLY* Obsessing Over Texts 

NOT how they communicate with you)

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Free Attachment Library

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00:00 Understanding Men's Love Dynamics

I’m Jula, an attachment style coach.

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WhatsApp Coaching

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DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor.

This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions.

This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

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What I wish I knew when I was 20 about men.

These are the REAL truths about men I learned the hard way.

If you have anxious attachment, this episode is for YOU 🔒🤍

In this episode, I’m sharing truths about men for anxious attachment that would have completely changed my 20s.

This is NOT men vs women ❌

I share what actually makes men pursue 🐆

This is dating advice for anxious women who want to stop auditioning.

I’m Jula 

Welcome to the Anxious to Secure Podcast 🎙🤍

CHAPTERS:

00:00 10 Truths about men (about attachment styles, polarity, chasing) that would have CHANGED my 20's completely

Free Attachment Library

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ON SALE: ✨ Stop *FINALLY* Obsessing Over Texts 

NOT how they communicate with you)

➞ Grab It Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety

ON SALE: 

✨ How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in  only 4 Steps

(With Your Avoidant Partner...because every minute you're imagining HIM leaving, you're manifesting it, as you're brain can't tell the difference between imagining and REAL.)

➞ Grab It Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse

➞ All offers: https://tr.ee/PInPmy

WhatsApp Coaching

➞ Start Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textandtalk

DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor.

This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions.

This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

If you’re stuck chasing crumbs… overthinking every text… or getting attached to guys who give the BARE minimum — this episode is your wake-up call. 

I’m breaking down why your anxious attachment makes you want the most unavailable guy… why your brain obsesses over mixed signals… and why you keep replaying his “hey” like it’s a love letter.

You’ll learn the 10 TRUTHS that flip the script — the ones that make HIM chase YOU.

Inside this episode you’ll get:

★ why chasing makes him pull away

By the end, you’ll know exactly how to stop overgiving, stop spiraling, stop proving yourself… and finally let HIM step up.

CHAPTER

00:00 Introduction to Transformative Truths

Free Attachment Library

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Like the 💭 CHALLENGE 🔍 Your Thoughts - CHEAT SHEET

To Stop Running On Autopilot

ON SALE: ✨ Stop *FINALLY* Obsessing Over Texts 

NOT how they communicate with you)

➞ Grab It Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety

ON SALE: 

✨ How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in  only 4 Steps

(With Your Avoidant Partner...because every minute you're imagining HIM leaving, you're manifesting it, as you're brain can't tell the difference between imagining and REAL.)

➞ Grab It Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse

Personal Coaching

➞ All offers: https://tr.ee/PInPmy

WhatsApp Coaching

➞ Start Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textandtalk

DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor.

This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions.

This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

✨ Stop *FINALLY* Obsessing Over Texts 

NOT how they communicate with you)

➞ Grab It Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety

✨ How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in  only 4 Steps

(With Your Avoidant Partner...because every minute you're imagining HIM leaving, you're manifesting it, as you're brain can't tell the difference between imagining and REAL.)

➞ Grab It Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse

Do you often feel overly sensitive, anxious, or like you’re too much in your relationships?

Do your emotions feel intense, your thoughts replay endlessly, or your need for connection feel overwhelming?

You’re not alone

and there’s nothing wrong with how deeply you feel. In this episode, we explore emotional sensitivity, anxious attachment, overthinking, and the power of fully embracing your feelings.

Grab a warm drink and save this episode for the times you feel like nothing is going right.

You’ll hear why:

Being too sensitive can actually be your superpower

Overthinking is just your brain processing deeply, not a flaw

Needing connection and setting boundaries shows strength

Your past experiences aren’t mistakes—they’re lessons that shaped your growth

Maybe, just maybe… you’re not the problem. Sometimes, others just can’t handle your energy and that’s okay.

CHAPTERS:

00:00 What if… you’re not actually “too much”?

Personal Coaching

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WhatsApp Coaching

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Free Attachment Library

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Like the 💭 CHALLENGE 🔍 Your Thoughts - CHEAT SHEET

To Stop Running On Autopilot

⁀➴  (join 3K OTHERS!) 

➞ Take the 3min FREE Quiz:

(Know your type so you do the right work)

જ⁀➴  (join 3K OTHERS!) 

➞ Take the 3min FREE Quiz:

(Know your type so you do the right work)

10+ MICRO-HABITS That Increase Your Relationship Anxiety (Even When They Have NOTHING To Do With Your Relationship) 

If you’re trying to go from anxious to secure, but you keep feeling on-edge for “no reason”… this episode is going to BLOW your mind. ★

These are the sneaky little habits that wire your nervous system into ALERT MODE before you even speak to him.

Think:

Your nervous system remembers old patterns.

Inside this episode, I walk you through 13 micro-habits that unknowingly spike your relationship anxiety and keep you stuck in anxious patterns even when your relationship is actually fine.

And yes…

I give you TINY homework at the end so you can actually create change and start becoming your secure, calm, grounded self NOW… not “one day.” 🖤✨

★

Homework inside the episode:

Free Attachment Library

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Like the 💭 CHALLENGE 🔍 Your Thoughts - CHEAT SHEET

To Stop Running On Autopilot

ON SALE: ✨ Stop *FINALLY* Obsessing Over Texts 

NOT how they communicate with you)

➞ Grab It Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety

ON SALE: 

✨ How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in  only 4 Steps

(With Your Avoidant Partner...because every minute you're imagining HIM leaving, you're manifesting it, as you're brain can't tell the difference between imagining and REAL.)

➞ Grab It Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse

Personal Coaching

➞ All offers: https://tr.ee/PInPmy

WhatsApp Coaching

➞ Start Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textandtalk

CHAPTERS:

00:00 Understanding Relationship Anxiety

DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor.

This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions.

This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

Free Attachment Library

➞ https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach/shop

Like the 💭 CHALLENGE 🔍 Your Thoughts - CHEAT SHEET

To Stop Running On Autopilot

ON SALE: 

✨ Stop *FINALLY* Obsessing Over Texts 

NOT how they communicate with you)

➞ Grab It Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety

ON SALE: 

✨ How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in  only 4 Steps

(With Your Avoidant Partner...because every minute you're imagining HIM leaving, you're manifesting it, as you're brain can't tell the difference between imagining and REAL.)

➞ Grab It Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse

This episode blends my three most downloaded lessons on how to detach  from someone you love, from your ex, from the person whose approval you keep chasing, and from the outcomes that keep you anxious.

Inside this replay you’ll get a mix of:

If you’re stuck in that exhausting loop of:

checking your phone

waiting for a text

replaying conversations

craving reassurance

attaching to their approval

or feeling like your day depends on how someone else responds…

…this episode will feel like a warm, honest reset.

Here’s what we go into together:

And I remind you of the truth:

If you want deeper support detaching from the obsessive thoughts, the texting anxiety, or the constant need for reassurance, both courses mentioned in this episode are still available in beta at a reduced price. You’ll get email support from me during the beta round too.

Personal Coaching

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WhatsApp Coaching

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CHAPTERS:

00:47 4 Steps to Detach emotionally from outcomes and people you love the most

35:07 How to detach from validation and others approval

1:09:15 How to detach from your EX (and people you loved)

DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor.

This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions.

This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

✨ Imagine you’re done waiting for someone else to decide your mood, your worth, or your story. You’re ready to step fully into Main Character Energy and lead your life with confidence, joy, and magic 🦄

In this episode, we break down how anxious attachment quietly pulls you into side-character mode

and exactly how to flip the script

💛 Learn practical, everyday ways to own your energy, your choices, and your story...so you can feel powerful, magnetic, and fully YOU 🌙

🌟 What you’ll discover in this episode:

Why your partner is just a chapter, not the whole book ✨

How to make tiny everyday actions feel cinematic and magical

13 practical rules to channel Main Character Energy immediately 💎

How to shift from anxious attachment to a secure, confident vibe

Real-life examples and micro-moments to claim your power today

Think of your life like a movie 🎬 You’re the lead. You decide the plot. You control the energy. Not your partner. Not your past. Not anyone else 🦄

If you’re ready to stop reacting, stop shrinking, and show up fully as the main character of your life, this episode is your blueprint 🌙✨

🧠 Quick 3-min Attachment Quiz

➞ Take Quiz: https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz

🌙 Free Attachment Library

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ON SALE: ✨ Stop *FINALLY* Obsessing Over Texts 

NOT how they communicate with you)

➞ Grab It Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety

ON SALE: ✨ How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in  only 4 Steps

(With Your Avoidant Partner...because every minute you're imagining HIM leaving, you're manifesting it, as you're brain can't tell the difference between imagining and REAL.)

➞ Grab It Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse

💎 Personal Coaching

➞ All offers: https://tr.ee/PInPmy

📱 WhatsApp Coaching

➞ Start Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textandtalk

CHAPTERS:

00:00 Understanding Anxious Attachment and Main Character Energy

DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor.

This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions.

This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

Quick 3-min Attachment Quiz

➞ Take Quiz: https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz

Free Attachment Library

➞ https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach/shop

ON SALE: ✨ Stop *FINALLY* Obsessing Over Texts 

NOT how they communicate with you)

➞ Grab It Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety

ON SALE: ✨ How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in  only 4 Steps

(With Your Avoidant Partner...because every minute you're imagining HIM leaving, you're manifesting it, as you're brain can't tell the difference between imagining and REAL.)

➞ Grab It Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse

Personal Coaching

➞ All offers: https://tr.ee/PInPmy

WhatsApp Coaching

➞ Start Here: https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textandtalk

Feeling anxious, overlooked, or way too focused on your partner this Christmas? 🎄

If you’ve been carrying the whole holiday on your shoulders…

You’ll hear the truth about what happens when you stop centering him…

You’ll learn:

This is for you if you’re tired of:

Inside this episode, you’ll get the deeper WHY behind all of it...

You’ll hear the exact steps to:

And yes… we talk about the magic part:

If you want a lighter Christmas…

Let it play while you wrap gifts, take a walk in the cold air ❄️,

light a candle, drink your warm coffee ☕️

And if this hits home and you want help healing your anxious attachment…

CHAPTERS:

00:00 Putting Yourself First This Christmas

DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor.

This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions.

This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

…and the last one will shock you

7 Things I’d Do Differently If I Dated Now As a Secure Woman

How to STOP needing so much reassurance via text ❤️‍🩹📱

https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety

If you’ve ever met one guy on a dating app and your brain immediately built a whole 10-year love story in 48 hours… this episode is your new medicine.

Inside this episode, you’ll learn:

★ Why dating multiple people at once keeps you in CHOICE instead of obsession

If you want to attract a secure, emotionally available partner…

I’m sharing real stories, client examples, and the exact shifts that turn anxious dating into secure dating.

🌷✨ Listen now if you want to stop chasing chemistry and start choosing compatibility.

1:1 Coaching Offers (via video calls or whatsapp)

https://tr.ee/PInPmy

Free Find your ANXIOUS Archetype NOW (to feel calmer)

https://tr.ee/9s05-v9M30

Free: Anxious to Secure Checklist

https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/anxioustosecurechecklist

FREE 3min Attachment Style QUIZ 

https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz

🖤 💆🏻‍♀️ How to STOP needing so much reassurance via text

(because safety comes from within, and you chasing or not settling boundary is the thing that give you anxiety, NOT a delayed text.)

https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety

▶️ Chapters:

00:00 Introduction to Secure Dating Tips

DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor.

This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions.

This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

ON SALE: How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in 4 Steps

(With Your Avoidant Partner)

https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse

🖤  ON SALE: How to STOP needing so much reassurance via text

https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety

(because safety comes from within, and you chasing or not settling boundary is the thing that give you anxiety, NOT a delayed text.)

This episode might break your heart a little…

but YOU need this little wake up call (because I would have THANKED anyone at least later realising this...)

The REAL cost of anxious attachment 💔

I’m sharing the stories my clients whisper to me.

Because anxious attachment isn’t just overthinking texts.

I’ll walk you through:

the relationships people lose

the friendships they break

the years they spend chasing crumbs

the life paths they delay

the health issues no one connects to anxiety

the moments you can’t re-do

And then…

You can STILL become secure.

If you’ve ever thought:

This is your wake-up moment.

Listen now.

CHAPTERS:

00:00 The Journey to Secure Attachment

FREE 3min Attachment Style QUIZ 

https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz

1:1 Coaching Offers (via video calls or whatsapp)

https://tr.ee/PInPmy

Free Find your ANXIOUS Archetype NOW (to feel calmer)

https://tr.ee/9s05-v9M30

Free: Anxious to Secure Checklist

https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/anxioustosecurechecklist

DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor.

This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions.

This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

ON SALE: How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in 4 Steps

(With Your Avoidant Partner)

https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse