You thought you had finally learned the lesson.

alling for someone who:

It feels like you’re dating the same person in a different body 

This episode is your loving callout + step-by-step breakdown of WHY this keeps happening... and HOW to finally shift the pattern for good ✨

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And no, the answer isn’t “just love yourself more.” 😒

CHAPTERS:

00:00 Understanding the Attraction to Avoidant Partners

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Have you ever felt stuck in a relationship where you're doing everything to make it work… but the more you try, the more distant they become?

Today, we’re diving into the viral anxious-avoidant trap through the lens of a very public couple: Dejon and Megan from Love Island UK 2025.

Yes, the ones who:✔️ Became boyfriend and girlfriend super fast

They might have looked like the perfect couple on the outside…

This episode is your deep dive into:

This episode is NOT just about reality TV.

I’ll be breaking down:

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00:00 Understanding the Anxious Avoidant Trap With Dejon and Megan from Love Island

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"Hey… it’s me. The avoidant partner you never quite understood."

To the part of you that’s been chasing, aching, spiraling not knowing why they keep pulling away 🪞

If you’ve ever felt like:

…then THIS episode will crack open a whole new level of compassion + understanding.

This isn't about excusing avoidant behavior ❌

What you'll hear in this episode 🖤:

🗝 The avoidant partner’s real internal story (in their own words)

This is for the deeply feeling, anxiously attached souls who keep ending up with distant partners…

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How to Stop OVERTHINKING🚫 🌀Your Relationship in 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner)

Chapters:

00:00 Understanding Avoidant Attachment

✨ Whether you're healing from a past relationship, or currently navigating a push-pull dynamic — this episode will help you see the fear behind the avoidant mask, so you can stop taking their distance so personally and start choosing secure connection.

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Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

If your breakup feels like the end of the world 🌪

I’m walking you through 10 steps to emotionally detach from your ex - in a way that feels safe, slow, and actually doable when you're stuck in the spiral.

Because detachment isn’t about going numb.

I’ll show you how to:

✨ Stop retraumatizing your nervous system

And most of all  I’ll help you understand why it’s so hard to let go…

Inside the episode, we’ll also explore:

🧠 Why your body still thinks they’re your safe person (even if your mind knows better)

This isn’t just about moving on.

Hi, I’m Jula 🖤

I used to feel crushed by breakups. I didn’t know who I was without a relationship.

Now I help others do the same.

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✅ Anxious to Secure Checklist – Signs you're becoming securely attached

How to Stop OVERTHINKING🚫 🌀Your Relationship in 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner)

CHAPTERS:

00:00 How to Emotionally Detach from Your Ex (Girlfriend / Boyfriend / Partner) in 10 Steps

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Why do breakups hurt SO much more when you have an anxious attachment style?

If you’ve been stuck in a breakup spiral, thinking about them 24/7, scrolling through old messages, checking their social media, and replaying every single moment in your head… you’re not alone.

But here’s the truth:

if you have an anxious attachment style, heartbreak isn’t just heartbreak. It feels like withdrawal. It feels like you’ve lost your safety net, your home, your EVERYTHING.

And there’s a reason for that. In this episode, I’m breaking down the 10 reasons why breakups hit so hard for someone with an anxious attachment style and it’s not because you’re weak or “too much.” It’s because your brain and your body are literally wired to react this way.

✨ Here’s what you’ll learn in this episode:

If you’ve ever wondered:

…then this episode is for YOU.

Because when you understand what’s REALLY going on inside you, you can finally stop blaming yourself-and start healing for real.

Listen now and tell me in the comments which one of these reasons hit the hardest for you.

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CHAPTERS:

00:00 Understanding Breakup Pain and Anxious Attachment

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Have you ever wondered why your avoidant partner pulls away the second you get close? Why he goes quiet after a great date, or suddenly needs “space” when things feel perfect?

This episode is for YOU if you’ve ever caught yourself thinking:

I’m breaking down the 7 things women  (or anyone with an anxious attachment) does (without even realizing it!) that push an avoidant guy away...

step by step...and WHY these behaviours feel so triggering to him

This episode was inspired by How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days, but trust me, this isn’t just about a movie.

This is about your attachment style colliding with his… and what you can do differently

Here’s what we’ll cover:

And most importantly… how to STOP this pattern and finally feel secure in love

Because here’s the truth:

But the GOOD NEWS? You can break this cycle without changing him.

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CHAPTERS:

00:00 Understanding Avoidant Attachment Styles + What how you trigger them

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If you've ever thought...

Then this episode is for you:

In today’s deep-dive, I break down:

This episode is especially for you if:

You’ll leave this episode with powerful questions, tools, and proof that you’re not broken.. just stuck in a pattern your nervous system learned a long time ago

Let’s help your body feel safe enough to RECEIVE love

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CHAPTERS:

00:00 What Happens When You Don’t Feel Like a Priority… in your Relationship

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You’ve done everything to feel better in your relationship, right?

✅ You journal.

And STILL - you feel constantly on edge 🧨

Why am I feeling so dysregulated and snapping at my partner all the time, or walking around on eggshells?

In this episode, I’m getting brutally honest about what’s missing...the overlooked piece that’s keeping your nervous system stuck in survival mode.

If you feel like you’re always bracing...

Inside, I’ll share:

This episode is your wake-up call if you’re:

You’ll walk away with real-life examples and daily nervous system practices that help you feel more grounded - in your body AND in your relationship.

Expect practical shifts, relatable stories, and a big sigh of relief that no… you’re NOT broken. You’ve just been missing the invisible layer that changes everything.

Especially if you’ve been in survival mode for years...

👇LISTEN NOW or WATCH ON YOUTUBE

Love, Jula Your Anxious to Secure Coach :)

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CHAPTERS:

00:00 Understanding Why You're STILL anxious + dysregulated EVEN though You've TRIED it ALL

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“5 Phrases I BANNED from My Vocabulary While Healing Anxious Attachment 🧠✨ (And What I Say Instead Now as a Secure Partner)”

Ever said “He makes me feel anxious” or “They NEVER show up for me”?

But once I started healing my anxious attachment, I realized something BIG:

This episode is, if you’re ready to:

These 5 common phrases might seem small...

You’ll walk away with:

Let’s give your nervous system a reset.... one sentence at a time 

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CHAPTERS:

00:00 Introduction why Words matter in your Relationship

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If you struggle with anxiety in relationships...

This episode is for you 🖤

You’ll learn a simple, science-backed 3-step formula to process emotions in a healthy way.. in just 90 seconds. YES, really. ⏱

Yes, this is the process how to actually SIT with your feelings, how to allow them, do a body scan so you can be in control of your emotions, and become more resilient.

This is the method I teach all my anxious attachment clients to help them feel calmer, more in control, and SAFER in their own body... without pushing feelings away, texting for reassurance, or blowing up at their partner.

 Inside this episode:

This isn’t toxic positivity.

📍 CHAPTERS:

00:00 The Importance of Processing Emotions and Sitting with the Feeling

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